Sierra Posted March 7, 2004 Share Posted March 7, 2004 I just want everyones opinion on this situation. I'm 23 and where I work theres this guy who about 48 and very nice but I know that hes very heavily in to selling and using crack. I have never and to be honest am scarred of doing any drugs that are worse than pot. Hes very friendly and hits on me all the time , and I have no problems with dating older guys, but umm that much older?? He keeps trying to get me to go over to his place for a beer but I am little worried about his motives. I know my instincts are telling me its not a good idea, but I have ingored those before and gotten myself into a good amount of trouble. I just want someone tomake a really good point of why this is such a bad idea, because otherwise maybe it just seems like i'm being a b*** Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 7, 2004 Share Posted March 7, 2004 because otherwise maybe it just seems like i'm being a b*** You have GOT to be kidding! You're worried that a man more than twice your age who's a dope dealer might think you a b****? So what if he does? Guess what - not everybody is going to think you are wonderful in this life, and certainly the opinion of a man like that should not matter to you. Follow your instincts, not to mention good old common sense, and stay far, FAR away from this guy. Let him think whatever he wants. The opinions of people like him are worth nothing and you should never let them bother you. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted March 7, 2004 Share Posted March 7, 2004 Do not go, he just wants sex, or to get you addicted so he has a new customer. Don't worry about what he thinks about you, he isnt worth your time. Link to post Share on other sites
Samson Posted March 7, 2004 Share Posted March 7, 2004 Although this guy might be the nicest, sweetest ol' crack dealer you've met (and I'm sure we all know someone just like this) perhaps you should follow your instincts: I know my instincts are telling me its not a good idea, but I have ingored those before and gotten myself into a good amount of trouble. You wrote it. Can you live it? Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted March 7, 2004 Share Posted March 7, 2004 I know my instincts are telling me its not a good idea, but I have ingored those before and gotten myself into a good amount of trouble. I just want someone tomake a really good point of why this is such a bad idea, because otherwise maybe it just seems like i'm being a b*** Your instincts are screaming loud and clear that they want to make it to your 24th birthday. And beyond. Better to be a b**** and alive and free to enjoy the rest of your life. This guy's either going to end up dead or in jail - don't let him take you along for the ride. Link to post Share on other sites
Curt Posted March 7, 2004 Moderators Share Posted March 7, 2004 I repeat what you posted yourself already: [color=red][font=times new roman]but I know that hes very heavily in to selling and using crack.[/font][/color] If the age thing was all I'd almost say go for it! BUT BUT BUT!!! You do not need this kind of guy in your life. He's not only into illegal activity, he might very well ruin your life in the process. If that's not bad enough...picture this possibility for if you both got together: Knock comes on the door at 2:00 AM...next thing door comes down...flashlights and yelling through the house...you're both in bed...you both awaken naked to beams of light, cops reading him his rights and telling him to put his pants on and come with them. Maybe a little bit melodramatic but....can happen. Would put a damper on my mornin' for sure. Curt Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sierra Posted March 8, 2004 Author Share Posted March 8, 2004 I sound really naive, but I really don't think hes after sex. And thing is I can't explain why I have a huge temptation to just give in and say ok..what ever you want. Its a huge urge I totally feel like I have to hold myself back. Normally I am soo cautious and would never even think twice, anyone have any ideas? Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 Originally posted by Sierra anyone have any ideas? Yes, get the HELL out! He's a fifty year old crack dealer/user, just by being in his apartment, you can be guilty by association. Get the hell out. Get. the. hell. out. Please. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 ahh...you foolish girls once again going for the bad boy! u realize that illegal activities are associated with him, if somehow this finds a way to get to you, what are you gonna do?? what goes around comes around i'd say stay away from him, you're gonna get yer @$$ in more trouble than you could imagine. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 Originally posted by monkey00 ahh...you foolish girls once again going for the bad boy! I was under the impression that only one girl was posting (?) Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 but I know that hes very heavily in to selling and using crack. that is easily the biggest but i've ever seen. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 sound really naive, but I really don't think hes after sex. And thing is I can't explain why I have a huge temptation to just give in and say ok..what ever you want. Its a huge urge I totally feel like I have to hold myself back. Normally I am soo cautious and would never even think twice, anyone have any ideas? Because some movie/tv watching part of you thinks it would be romantic/exciting to be involved with someone like this. It's a foolish notion and not based on any sort of fact. You could be in immense danger and there is nothing romantic about that. If you need excitement, take up rock climbing or skydiving but stay away from this guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sierra Posted March 8, 2004 Author Share Posted March 8, 2004 That makes sense. He did tell me today how beautiful he thinks I am and that he wants a serious relationship, would it be all that bad if I started a relationship with him ? I work with him all day its not like I can just tell him off, but I don't feel safe around him when I know what he does to people. I don't know but I don't like this drama in my life so I will probably just give in and see where it goes. Even though I really am not sure this is wise and ony a"for the moment"fix. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 Originally posted by Sierra would it be all that bad if I started a relationship with him ? Yes. Link to post Share on other sites
Iamhappy Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 I don't know but I don't like this drama in my life so I will probably just give in and see where it goes. Even though I really am not sure this is wise and ony a"for the moment"fix." I'm sorry, but what?!!! You don't feel safe around him. You don't like all this drama in your life...but you're probably going to just give in and see where it goes?!! Um, hello...he's a 48 year old crack dealer for cripes sakes!! Have you never seen movies or tv shows that deal with this? These things never ever turn out well. Don't you have other friends you can date? Aren't there other men in your life who aren't 48 year old crack dealers hitting on 23 year old girls? If you're seriously thinking of dating him, I must ask this question: GIRL, ARE YOU ON CRACK?!!!!! Note: Yes. I used way too many exclamation points. Why? Because I don't know how else to express my disbelief. And horror. Here's a few more: !!!!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 i'm having a hard time believing this poster is for real. Link to post Share on other sites
Samson Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 Ya think so, Jen? Hey, just because you cannot be attracted to crack dealers more than twice your age, doesn't mean the rest of us cannot see the special attributes that might make this whole thing work out just great! Love, blosseming in the most unexpected places. True Romance! Do you expect perfection? Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 Originally posted by jenny i'm having a hard time believing this poster is for real. I concur. Samson, it's not what you say, it's how you say it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sierra Posted March 9, 2004 Author Share Posted March 9, 2004 KK don't really feel I have to defend my position to you guys, it doesn't bother me what ppl I don't know think. Anyways yeah Samson i think your the only post that actually made any difference in my mind. Very honest, not so sugar coated like everyone else. How dumb does that sound anyways.....what the hell was I thinkin' thats all i needed Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
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