Is it normal to be jealous when a first love marries someone else? Please help here!

[justagirl]

Is this normal? I've been asking myself this question every five minutes for the past three weeks. Is it normal to be jealous of a first love getting married, even if you are already married yourself? Is it normal to wonder what the future wife is like? If she is smarter, nicer, more attractive than I?

 

Is it normal to look at their wedding registries and to feel sad? To cry about the past, and suddenly be dreaming about the ex? Has this ever happened to anyone out there? Is this normal, to be thinking of what might have been???? Even if it is normal, does it go away? My ex will be getting married on the 20th, will these thoughts die after that?

 

Please, any insight would be helpful!!!

[justagirl]

Please help here!!!! I'm posting this because I'm really needing help with this one!!!!

[Iamhappy]

Hey, there. It is normal. Someone else posted something similar on another thread and someone else replied in kind that the original poster was experiencing the "what could've beens."

 

Sounds like you're going through the same thing.

[shelly55]

What you are going through is completely normal. It isn't about weather or not you still love him it is more about letting go of the past. I know I would feel the same way in that situation. I'm sure, since he was your first love, you learned a lot from the relationship and it helped to shape you as a person. Now, for sentimental reasons, those feeling are all coming back. Everyone wishes from time to time they go go back in time and relive certain moments or spend time with certain people again. I could see how it can make you question what went wrong. They are together now, why did it work with her and not me? What does she have that I didn't, ect. It is understandable and I think everyone goes through it to some exent. I'm sure the feeling will eventually pass after the wedding. Good luck.