Psycho girl.

[amerikajin]

Kev,

 

Here's what you do.

 

1. Get her on tape, legally. You let her call you, let the answering machine catch her call, pick up right as she's leaving her message and then record you (on the line with her) saying "I don't want you calling me anymore, understand?! I consider any contact from this point forward harassment." Click. Now you have her on tape and it's all legal - she knew she was being recorded.

 

2. Next, you keep track of any time she calls you after that and then submit a complaint to the phone company. They'll then start monitoring the situation and document that she's harassing you just by looking at her phone records. It's a crime in just about every jurisdiction, and it may even be a federal offense, too...I don't know. Jester? you're the barrister here. Help me out on this one.

 

At the very least, the phone company will probably tell her to shut her ass up.

[saintfrancis]

Actually Kevin, following on what amerikajin said, there are states in which it is LEGAL to record a conversation (telephone or in-person) even if only one of the parties to the conversation has knowledge of the recording. And what do you know, but the person doing the recording can be that "one person." The laws on this vary from state to state, so you need to check what Florida has to say about it. But, if it turns out that FL is a one-party state, then you can actually record your conversation with her WITHOUT her knowledge, and it will all be legal (and in the conversation you reiterate that you do not want to hear from her again, etc.)

[amerikajin]

Kev,

 

Before you record anyone check it out with a legal specialist just to be on the safe side. Hopefully, it won't even come down to that.

[ldybg51]

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Thank Gawd I have never had this problem. I don't know what I would do. Cry all the time probably.

 

Kevin, are you crying all the time. Do you need someone to comfort and protect you

[Cpunch75]

Damm i'm going to Mississippi

[Qgal]

Kevin,

 

This happened to me once at my workplace. This is what transpired:

 

This man came in my office to purchase a house. He kept coming in without appt. and wanting to take walks with me, sit and chat, etc. At first I thought he was just friendly and no big deal. Then I sensed it was feeling too weird.

 

My boss had a talk with this guy and told him not to come in anymore. Didn't work. He came by when I was alone there and threatened my fiancee. brought me unwanted gifts and tried to massage my shoulders. A few times I had to physically leave my office and go down the street to my friend's store to feel safe.

 

Eventually, after receiving a birthday card AT HOME I decided to go before the courthouse magistrate re stalking. He kept telling the magistrate he loved me! He was nuts.

 

It came to the point where we had to appear before a judge. The judge told him that if he didn't knock it off then he would have to be psychologically evaluated. This worked. It has been 9 yrs. without any contact. Still freaks me out sometimes though.

 

I hope it doesn't come to this for you but it is an option that worked for me.

[monkey00]

Originally posted by Qgal

Kevin,

 

This happened to me once at my workplace. This is what transpired:

 

This man came in my office to purchase a house. He kept coming in without appt. and wanting to take walks with me, sit and chat, etc. At first I thought he was just friendly and no big deal. Then I sensed it was feeling too weird.

 

My boss had a talk with this guy and told him not to come in anymore. Didn't work. He came by when I was alone there and threatened my fiancee. brought me unwanted gifts and tried to massage my shoulders. A few times I had to physically leave my office and go down the street to my friend's store to feel safe.

 

Eventually, after receiving a birthday card AT HOME I decided to go before the courthouse magistrate re stalking. He kept telling the magistrate he loved me! He was nuts.

 

It came to the point where we had to appear before a judge. The judge told him that if he didn't knock it off then he would have to be psychologically evaluated. This worked. It has been 9 yrs. without any contact. Still freaks me out sometimes though.

 

I hope it doesn't come to this for you but it is an option that worked for me.

 

LoL!

Now im wondering if Love at first sight truly does exist?

[faux]

Wow. This reminds me of one of my old girlfriends. She would call me continuously and it got really freaky. I would try to hang up on her or unplug my phone, or just let the machine get it. She'd never stop trying and I'd end up having fifteen messages in one day on my answering machine. I tried to break things off but I somehow ended up staying. She was definitely problematic or “psycho” as some people say.

 

You're obviously freaked out. This is my advice:

 

If you have an answering machine leave that on and screen your phone calls. Hopefully she will leave a few messages on your answering machine. Save those! If they are digital, make sure you have battery back up and can transfer it to tape.

 

Keep a note pad by your telephone. If you pick up and it's her, write down the date and time of day the phone call occurred, what was said if anything, and how you reacted. Make sure to note down when you disconnect your phone from the wall and such as well.

 

If she leaves messages on your answering machine, or emails you, or sends you a note you CAN save that as evidence as she is volunteering such information to you.

 

As for phone conversations go ahead and record them NOW while you have a chance. Do NOT however try to use them as any form of evidence against her unless you know for certain that it is legal to record phone conversations.

 

In my state, for example, it is legal to record any conversation, phone or in-person, without the other people knowing so long as I am a party to that conversation. And when you do ask... Be sure to ask an attorney, NOT a police officer. In most every case a police officer will NOT know the correct answer (They don't hold a degree in law practice).

 

After you have yourself a little log with specific dates and times and other information, go to the police and file for a Temporary Restraining Order. You were in a dating relationship with the girl from what I understand, so you are able to do a TRO on those grounds. You will have to see her in court and you do have a chance to file a criminal complaint against her as well.

 

Good luck. Just start with that phone log and collecting information NOW.