Feeling-lost Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 Hi guys, hope all of you can shed some light on me I really don't know what to do anymore. It like my life is going in circle. You probably have read my post from before about the up and down of my relationship. My ex and I have been together for the past 2 years till last Sept. we broke up but we were still doing thing as bf and gf would do except without the name. Okay, lately my ex confess to me that he love and care for me so much and do not want to lose me. but just needed the space to figure out what he need in life. I love this guy with all my heart and have stick by him through good and bad time. I am always there to support him no matter what. I never would thought that he would actually hurt me like this. Last night, I found out that he was seeing another girl. And this girl happen to be one of his circle of friend. I am in so much pain right now not knowing what to do next. I just can beleive that he tell me that he love me and do not want to lose me and all these other bull****s and in return he would hurt me like this. He tell me that he needed to clear his mine by seeing if spending time with this other girl would make him see if were meant to be with other. And he realize that no one is good for him then me. He now realize that he wants to move to the next level, he know now that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. He in the process of changing his life and me and etc.. But I dont know what I want now, I think in my mine that he is just fill with bull****s! What can I do to walk away from this guy? I know that I love him very much but I do not want to be subject to his filthy lifesytles of sleeping around among their friend. PLease help.any advice is helpful. Thanks And sorry if I tend to rumble on my post..I am just very hurt and confuse with this whole scenario.. Link to post Share on other sites
originalsphinx Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 Hi Honey, sorry to hear that you are hurting. But you have to ask yourself, if this guy really loved you would he be going out with someone else? Do you think that it will stop here and that he will be completely faithful to you in the future since you have let him get away with it once? You deserve better than this. Link to post Share on other sites
Velveteel Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 If the two of you were officially broken up when he was seeing this other girl, then he really is allowed to date. Just as you are. He's allowed to have conflicted feelings, to love you a lot but not be committed to you. But if he wants to get re-involved with you (and if you're willing to accept him back), he'll have to guarantee that it's just the two of you from now on. And by the same token, you'll have to forgive him. Not this week, maybe, but soon. There can be no second chances without forgiveness. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Feeling-lost Posted March 9, 2004 Author Share Posted March 9, 2004 Thank you originalsphinx and Velveteel!!! I try my very best to move forward but for some reason my heart and head keep leading me back to sqaure one again. Thinking about him constantly and can't seem to get any done @ work or home. I am just so distrub about this whole ordeal. Velveteel, I know that we didn't have that label of gf and bf, but we were doing everything that a bf and gf would do. This is why it hurting me so bad. Plus, I uses to confronted him before about this girl if he had something going on with her..and he use to deny to me and make it seem like I was the one that was being insecure. Link to post Share on other sites
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