nothappy Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 I was in a relationship for five years. we started to date our senior year in highschool. I thought that she was the one. During our years in college i cheated on her a couple of times. Just recently i think that she has found out that i was not faithful. She broke off all contact with me and hasn't given me any reason. She never told me that she knew i cheated, but i think she knows. I want to win her back and prove to her that i love her ,but she has changed her cell number and won't call me. She hasn't replied to any of my e-mails either. Does these seem like the actions of someone who is not in love with me anymore because i cheated on her. Or does it sound like she may have found some one else? Link to post Share on other sites
YssaBoo Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 It sounds like someone who is very hurt.Give her time and space it may be all she needs. I know right now it's not what you want to hear,but remember time heals all wounds. Let us know how this turns out and good luck Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 I agree, she sounds very angry and hurt. Finding out that you cheated pulled the rug out from under her and gut-punched her at the same time. She is doubting that you ever really cared. It's hard to interpret the lack of communication. There are several explanations. If you really are deeply in love with her and truly remorseful about your misdeeds, you may consider taking extreme measures to communicate with her, such as telegrams, FedEx, registered letters which must be picked up at the post office, or visiting in person with a letter that you hand to her. Somehow, remorse and regret did not really come through in your post. Nor did any understanding of her probably pain. Link to post Share on other sites
NEONINK Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 You are kidding right? You don't know why she broke up with you? Just recently i think that she has found out that i was not faithful. She broke off all contact with me and hasn't given me any reason. If she did find out. That's your reason. Link to post Share on other sites
morrigan Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 If she doesn't want to talk to you, and you still care for her and respect her feelings, you will leave her alone. Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 I want to win her back and prove to her that i love her You don't love her. You want to 'win' her back because its a competiton of yours. You want her to be a trophy to you. The only reason why you want her back is so that no one else can have her. Guys like you, give us good men a bad name. I'm glad she's not with you and hope she finds true happiness. As for you, you need to grow up. Link to post Share on other sites
NEONINK Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 Cheaters never win, and winners never cheat... Link to post Share on other sites
Codmate Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 Sorry to tell you this man - but you don't and never did love her. If so, why would you cheat? Stop wasting your time and find a person you really do love and do it right this time. Link to post Share on other sites
Velveteel Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 I think it's brutal of her to break off the relationship with no explanation, and to cut off all contact. But some people need to do this when they're hurt. My bet is that she found out about the infidelity and is taking the most extreme path. Chances are she was unhappy about other aspects of your relationship, though. I don't think you can win this. You may love her, but she has slammed the door. You could send her one brief final note if you need closure. Tell her you aren't sure what happened, but that you're sorry for everything you did to hurt her, and that you wish her nothing but the best. Then move on, and try to learn from this. Link to post Share on other sites
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