Craziest thing you did because of the break up

[evilmonkey2008]

ahh, its so good to read all these stories makes you seem like your not the only person in the world.

 

Well i did punch the guy she left me for, in a resturant. Luckly no one pressed charges.

 

ahyh break ups suck, its been nearly 2 months on and im trying to win her back but it aint gonna work, she says she loves this guy.

[Graceful]

Great thread.

 

I was still moving my things out of my ex's during the break up, and went into his office area, and saw an open box with a sweater in it from his new GF (he had cheated on me) -- it was a birthday gift.

 

I was so upset and angry, I grabbed the sweater and shoved it underneath the back seat of my car!! I was going to give it to the Salvation Army, but forgot about it.

 

A couple of years later I was going to sell my car, so was cleaning it out ... and guess what was still under the back seat?!? I had forgotten all about the sweater and had a good laugh!

[jlushman]

I went off the rails a bit, begging her to get back with me, drinking every day and became self destructive. Used to quite literally beat myself up when I was drunk, headbutting brick walls etc. was a very low point in my life haha. I always remember just laying in bed and expecting my heart to stop beating, my body to just give up. I also plotted out beating the new guy she was seeing up but fortunately I just left it.

I've become a much stronger person since then so maybe it was for the good, but I know I never want to feel like that again so I have prevented myself from trusting girls and having overly strong feelings for them, which is quite sad.

[tlind]

I went off the rails a bit, begging her to get back with me, drinking every day and became self destructive. Used to quite literally beat myself up when I was drunk, headbutting brick walls etc. was a very low point in my life haha. I always remember just laying in bed and expecting my heart to stop beating, my body to just give up. I also plotted out beating the new guy she was seeing up but fortunately I just left it.

I've become a much stronger person since then so maybe it was for the good, but I know I never want to feel like that again so I have prevented myself from trusting girls and having overly strong feelings for them, which is quite sad.

 

This sounds exactly like I was last year

[b_rouse]

Long story short: We were together for a year, he was and still is a very nice guy. Within 2 weeks of our break up, he's in another relationship...yada yada yada.

 

First, I called him at 2:30am: We talked for 2 and a half hours. I pretty much spilled my heart out to him to come back to me. He was really nice about it, let me down easy.

 

Second, I sent his sisters a message on facebook about how I'm still in love with him and I'm willing to run 30 miles to see him (he lives 30 miles away while I'm at school, but only a mile when I'm at home). They scheduled time for him and I to talk. He had to talk me out of it, but once again, he did it in a nice way.

 

But the thing I regret most, is blocking him on facebook. I want to be friends with him only so he can see how much better off I am without him. It's probably me being bitter but whatever, if he knows I'm not suffering anymore, maybe...ok I'm not going to finish that sentence. It's best he keeps me blocked.

[cerridwen]

 

Second, I sent his sisters a message on facebook about how I'm still in love with him and I'm willing to run 30 miles to see him (he lives 30 miles away while I'm at school, but only a mile when I'm at home).

 

This guy is a fool!!!!! LOL 30 miles?!?!?! Good luck dude ever finding someone so devoted again!

 

 

 

(And yeah, don't unblock him )

[Tressugar]

Showed up to his (my ex) house in my night gown and barefoot professing my love for him on his lawn at night while he and his new girlfriend were watching a movie....all while his neighbors were watching....Crazy...yeah I know, but hey I was in my early twenties! What do you expect!

 

Something I'll never do again...

[cerridwen]

Err...not sure if this qualifies but I'm actually doing it right now...

 

I'm sitting in bed in a granny nightgown (and I'm not even close to being a granny), drinking Fetzer wine out of a plastic red cup (I'm all about the class), singing along at the top of my lungs to "I Will Survive" (Cake's version), posting on LS, and picking up my inoperable cell phone every few minutes to yell things like "You blew it! I'm awesome!" and "YOU HAVE A FAT HEAD!"

[RecordProducer]

A few years ago, I sent a different ex a fake text. I pretended to send a message to my best friend about how great a new guy I went out on a date with. He didn't buy it for 1 little second. He text back, "DON'T text me again.period."

Embarrassing!

I'm not so sure he didn't buy it, just judging by your post (his reply), but you know better... Men believe you when you tell them you went out with someone else, so there's no need to fake-text your "best friend."

 

I've done crazy things, I am embarassed before myself. I've called in the middle of the night, drunk (often I wouldn't remember I even called, let alone what I said), called his friends... I begged him to reconcile - numerous times... cried, screamed, drove to his house uninvited... it really doesn't sound as bad as it is if you actually watched me live.

 

The thing is: you can always make an omelette out of the eggs you broke. When you collect yourself after a series of psycho episodes, Ex starts to wonder if they're not interesting anymore. They get their fix by watching you make a fool out of yourself or otherwise, you'd stop. If the ex reacted kindly, we'd never do it again. Example: guy runs seven miles to girl's house, finds her in the car making out with her date. She sees him, gets out of the car, tells the date bye-bye (no kiss!), waves, and then approaches our guy, invites him to her house, comforts him gently and explains to him with compassion, while holding his hand that their relationship is over and they can be friends, but for now, that's it. Would our guy humiliate himself after that? No! Because she acted maturely and gently, she showed as much sympathy as she could, and it's hard to find the urge to make a fool out of yourself when someone treats you nicely.

 

The urge to do crazy post-breakup things comes from anger and self-destructive rage. None of us thought: "Okay, this is what I am going to do and when they see how much I'm suffering and what I've done, they'll love me more." We know we sabotage our chances when we repeatedly act psychotically. Of course, it's natural to follow your feelings - it's not natural to prioritize your dignity and pride. Precisely because of that, we can't believe that someone who belonged to us is now acting like they don't. So we need reassurance that it's really over, because we're in denial.

 

I really think that these psycho episodes play a major role in getting over a painful breakup. After them you feel betrayed, abandoned, disgusting, unwanted, forgotten, annoying, and altogether like an idiot and a loser. The more you feel like that the more you realize that your ex doesn't care about you (and likely the more you do it the less they care). I believe that our brains get tired of dealing with certain emotions. And when they get tired, they need to escape. This is why time cures everything.

[Am4Real]

Joined LOVESHACK.ORG !! Need I say more?

[RecordProducer]

Joined LOVESHACK.ORG !! Need I say more?

Yes.

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[Fufu]

my craziest things that I done

 

- Sent him e-mails daily (Once a day but if he replies I will reply him)

 

- Called him 3 times within 2 weeks

 

- Sent him 2-3 smses within 2 weeks

 

- Couldn't take the pressure anymore, told him I just want to be friends with him

 

- When he wanted to meet me after talking on the phone about why he broke up with me, I try to convince him

 

- After talking on the phone, he asked if I wanted to meet up, I said yes

 

- Over the phone, told him I still want to meet with him to hang out once a week (even though he told me not to have any false hopes)

 

- Met him up for the first time, thought that he will change his mind when he sees me in face but nope he still stick on with his words (What hurts me most is I even go and HUG him and try to convince him again)

 

- Met him second time for lunch again, try to act normal but he knew I was just acting. He fed me personally snacks and drink and that made me even more heartpain when after meeting I tried to convine him again but he told me his same old reasons of breaking up with me

 

- Sent one last e-mail only to got a nasty and provoking e-mail back from him telling me that he felt that his decision is right.

 

- Called him after I saw his e-mail and again to listen to his reasons again and again and to hear his irritated and pissed of tone of voice. Complained that I never give a space and break. Asked me to give him space and break and not to have any false hopes.

 

After all these emotional mistakes, I finally went into NC Thanks to LOVESHACK <3

[climbergirl]

I'm not so sure he didn't buy it, just judging by your post (his reply), but you know better... Men believe you when you tell them you went out with someone else, so there's no need to fake-text your "best friend."

 

I've done crazy things, I am embarassed before myself. I've called in the middle of the night, drunk (often I wouldn't remember I even called, let alone what I said), called his friends... I begged him to reconcile - numerous times... cried, screamed, drove to his house uninvited... it really doesn't sound as bad as it is if you actually watched me live.

 

The thing is: you can always make an omelette out of the eggs you broke. When you collect yourself after a series of psycho episodes, Ex starts to wonder if they're not interesting anymore. They get their fix by watching you make a fool out of yourself or otherwise, you'd stop. If the ex reacted kindly, we'd never do it again. Example: guy runs seven miles to girl's house, finds her in the car making out with her date. She sees him, gets out of the car, tells the date bye-bye (no kiss!), waves, and then approaches our guy, invites him to her house, comforts him gently and explains to him with compassion, while holding his hand that their relationship is over and they can be friends, but for now, that's it. Would our guy humiliate himself after that? No! Because she acted maturely and gently, she showed as much sympathy as she could, and it's hard to find the urge to make a fool out of yourself when someone treats you nicely.

 

The urge to do crazy post-breakup things comes from anger and self-destructive rage. None of us thought: "Okay, this is what I am going to do and when they see how much I'm suffering and what I've done, they'll love me more." We know we sabotage our chances when we repeatedly act psychotically. Of course, it's natural to follow your feelings - it's not natural to prioritize your dignity and pride. Precisely because of that, we can't believe that someone who belonged to us is now acting like they don't. So we need reassurance that it's really over, because we're in denial.

 

I really think that these psycho episodes play a major role in getting over a painful breakup. After them you feel betrayed, abandoned, disgusting, unwanted, forgotten, annoying, and altogether like an idiot and a loser. The more you feel like that the more you realize that your ex doesn't care about you (and likely the more you do it the less they care). I believe that our brains get tired of dealing with certain emotions. And when they get tired, they need to escape. This is why time cures everything.

 

 

I've missed you, RP! I hope you are well.

 

After I got my divorce papers I called my sister crying. She happened to be in Las Vegas and asked me to join her and 3 hours later I was on a plane flying to the place we got married! I cried the whole way there. I'll never forget the woman who sat next to me, and although I was trying to hide the tears, she knew. She reached into her bag, grabbed a tissue and said, "Honey, I don't know what you are going through, but I hope it gets better soon".

 

Wow, did she open the flood gates! Poor woman. But she listened to me the entire flight there. God Bless Her!

 

So not only did I revisit a spot with such sentimental meaning and knowing it was over, but I also had paid a sh*tload of money to get there and had a test (online) that was due that weekend.

 

Ha, paid $15 dollars for internet access, took a test and failed it. Not a huge surprise.

[RecordProducer]

I've missed you, RP! I hope you are well.

I've missed you, too. I am better now. How have you been? When did you get divorced?

 

Poor woman. But she listened to me the entire flight there. God Bless Her!

Ugh... been there, done that. God bless all the people who wasted their time listening to my crap.

[soleharmony1123]

the craziest thing I did because of the breakup was to allow limited contact at a time when I believed my ex was sincere.

 

Needless to say, he was contacting me because he needed an ego stroke and because he needed to know I was still there if things didn't work out with his new gf.

[poorguy]

the craziest thing I did because of the breakup was to allow limited contact at a time when I believed my ex was sincere.

 

Needless to say, he was contacting me because he needed an ego stroke and because he needed to know I was still there if things didn't work out with his new gf.

 

Very good example...Can I agree with you and use that as mine too??? They can be such a joke sometimes lol.

[GreenPolicy]

I feel pretty good about this aspect of my breakup. A week afterwards I sent her a bouquet of her fave flowers (gerber daisies) with a card. All it said was "I love you. I miss you. My heart aches for you." I wish I hadn't done that, but in the long run I don't think it matters one way or the other.

 

She waited two weeks to change her status on fb to single, so when I logged in and saw that, my heart sank. I deleted her as a friend because I didn't want to tempt myself looking at her profile, then scrubbed all traces of her from mine. Then I sat down and wrote her a snail letter that I mailed. The letter basically said that I respected her decision to end the relationship, but some of the things she said were hurtful and unnecessary. I said I understood that getting married can be scary, but we could always slow things down and only move on when we were both truly ready. And I still loved her and was open to reconciliation through couples counseling (she was my fiancee and dumped me out of the blue and did not give me much of a reason), but I couldn't wait around forever for her and had to get on with my life, with or without her. And if she wasn't willing to work with me to save the relationship, we couldn't be friends and we couldn't stay in touch. She never answered the letter. Everything I read online said don't use NC as a strategy to win back your ex. It's about healing and moving forward. If you want to get back together with your ex, then try to work things out.

 

So I sent the flowers and the letter and got radio silence in response. Other than that, I did not call, text, IM, email even once, or show up at her job or apartment. And I'm grateful that in the letter I did not beg and plead with her to take me back or promise to change. What am I supposed to change? Anyways, it's Day 44 of the breakup, Day 44 since I've heard from her, Day 28 of NC (she would have received the letter November 1st).

[watshername]

I just did the most stupid thing since splitting up. I just went mental and was texting him, then he stopped replying so I went to his, walked in the freezng cold, he lives half hour away. He wasnt there but I still have a key and I sat in there. I left and on the way home he rang me asking what I was doing. I cut myself while I was there too. I'm going insane .

[VJW]

I lived with him for two weeks after he broke my heart. ( I had a work trip for five days and needed to find a place to live).

He watched me go through the begging, the waking up crying, the packing of our memories. WOrst thing I ever did!!! Halfway through the two weeks I found out he was dating someone else already and I was broken again.

I wish that I had not been there during those first two weeks. He saw me at my worst while he was starting something new. It made me feel like a complete loser.