Still in contact

[Michael2010]

OK long story, but the crucial points are

 

I had an affair with someone for around two years. We broke up becasue she decided that her marriage was in such a mess that she had to make a go of it, also her body clock was ticking and she wanted another baby. I had left my wife at this stage and was about to lose my job, which she knew and basically had no house. Her husband suspected her of having an affair and asked a few times but she alaways denied it.

 

Anyway she got pregnant, we still kept in contact. At times she would break down and say she has made a mistake and then at other times she would say that her life is much better. There was nothing physical between us during the pregancy, but the whole time we kept in contact. She carried on phoning, we would go out for dinner, she would buy me birthday presents etc.

 

Anyway we broke off all contact after a row in which I said I still missed her and she claimed that she had moved on.

 

She had the baby and pretty soon after having the baby I contacted her. She said she had missed me, we agreed to meet up and the inevtiable happened. We are still in contact, but the situation is still very confusing. On the one hand she says that she is not going to leave her husband, then she says still wants to see me, then she says we are just friends, then she says that we cant go out alone because we cant be trusted.

 

Overall I am very confuesd - I dont know whether she is using me, is confused herself, is keeping me as a back up. Dont understand hw she can be happy in her marriage if she is still seeing me.

 

I love her desperately and would do anything to be with her. I am far more financially secure now. We are great together. I dont know whether to break off contact, keep waiting and keep patient or what.

[PegNosePete]

If she cheats with you, she'll cheat on you. End it now and (assuming you've got divorced already) find someone single.

[wicar1]

OK long story, but the crucial points are

 

I had an affair with someone for around two years. We broke up becasue she decided that her marriage was in such a mess that she had to make a go of it, also her body clock was ticking and she wanted another baby. I had left my wife at this stage and was about to lose my job, which she knew and basically had no house. Her husband suspected her of having an affair and asked a few times but she alaways denied it.

 

Anyway she got pregnant, we still kept in contact. At times she would break down and say she has made a mistake and then at other times she would say that her life is much better. There was nothing physical between us during the pregancy, but the whole time we kept in contact. She carried on phoning, we would go out for dinner, she would buy me birthday presents etc.

 

Anyway we broke off all contact after a row in which I said I still missed her and she claimed that she had moved on.

 

She had the baby and pretty soon after having the baby I contacted her. She said she had missed me, we agreed to meet up and the inevtiable happened. We are still in contact, but the situation is still very confusing. On the one hand she says that she is not going to leave her husband, then she says still wants to see me, then she says we are just friends, then she says that we cant go out alone because we cant be trusted.

 

Overall I am very confuesd - I dont know whether she is using me, is confused herself, is keeping me as a back up. Dont understand hw she can be happy in her marriage if she is still seeing me.

 

I love her desperately and would do anything to be with her. I am far more financially secure now. We are great together. I dont know whether to break off contact, keep waiting and keep patient or what.

 

She is a s**** cheater, she will keep on doing it. In the other hand may be you should marry her. Cause you might wanna know how a BS feels.

 

Cheaters are nothing better than animals.