Stevie W Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Hi, i'm a 24 year old guy and I was looking for some help on a pretty simple question that i'm sure you've all answered many times. I am really struggling to meet girls lately and I'm looking for any suggestions from you all. Now I know I sound completely inexperienced but I've had my share of luck with the ladies in the past. However all of my success came during my college years. I've now been out of school for the past 2 years and I've had next to no luck finding any girls out there. I think the main problem is my daily routine just doesn't expose me to enough women. Everyday I go to work (where there are no girls for me to approach), and then I head home, eat dinner and before you know it, it's time to go to bed and repeat the proccess again the next day. It's been very frustrating and I've tried to be patient and hope that something will happen but nothing is falling into place right now. I know some of you are going to say that I can easily find answers to this question all over the intenet, and believe me, I've checked. But all the suggestions that I'm finding just don't seem to be that practical to me. I mean I keep reading and hearing that good places to meet girls include grocery stores, libraries, coffee shops and random places like that. But that can't possibly be how the majority of people are starting relationships, can it!? I feel like i'm missing something here. Basically the only time I really get any opportunities to meet girls is when I go out to the clubs which is like once a month. But I can't be relying on this one night a month to get out there. Another problem is my friends. They either have girlfriends or just don't want to go out much so that doesn't really help me out. And also i've asked them if they know anybody to set me up with but no luck there either. Anyways, sorry for all the rambling. I'm just a little bit frustrated and was hoping that some of you might have some good suggestions to help me get back on track. And one final note, I'm not really into the online dating right now. Thanks!
slowmoveguy Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 I suffer from the same routine, but I'm putting all my hopes in my spring semster of college. Maybe you could take college classes again, you'll be back in the envo for girl Other then that, I was thinking about local groups for stuff I'm into, there must be girls to find common ground with.
SomewhatExperienced Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Common interest groups! I'm 24, but still in school and I play intramural sports. It's fun, non-competitive, and everyone goes out after for drinks and we chat and get to know one another. So if you're athletic maybe find recreational sports leagues. If sports aren't your thing you can try any sort of interest group: book clubs, hiking clubs, finger-painting clubs, whatever. These are great because you get chances to meet people with common interests and there's lots of natural chances to just chat and get to know one another. It's doubly good because you don't have to be suave and make some smooth move to initiate conversation out of nowhere. I've played intramural sports for years and I see lots of people dating others they played with.
Green Posted November 16, 2010 Posted November 16, 2010 Hi, i'm a 24 year old guy and I was looking for some help on a pretty simple question that i'm sure you've all answered many times. I am really struggling to meet girls lately and I'm looking for any suggestions from you all. Now I know I sound completely inexperienced but I've had my share of luck with the ladies in the past. However all of my success came during my college years. I've now been out of school for the past 2 years and I've had next to no luck finding any girls out there. I think the main problem is my daily routine just doesn't expose me to enough women. Everyday I go to work (where there are no girls for me to approach), and then I head home, eat dinner and before you know it, it's time to go to bed and repeat the proccess again the next day. It's been very frustrating and I've tried to be patient and hope that something will happen but nothing is falling into place right now. I know some of you are going to say that I can easily find answers to this question all over the intenet, and believe me, I've checked. But all the suggestions that I'm finding just don't seem to be that practical to me. I mean I keep reading and hearing that good places to meet girls include grocery stores, libraries, coffee shops and random places like that. But that can't possibly be how the majority of people are starting relationships, can it!? I feel like i'm missing something here. Basically the only time I really get any opportunities to meet girls is when I go out to the clubs which is like once a month. But I can't be relying on this one night a month to get out there. Another problem is my friends. They either have girlfriends or just don't want to go out much so that doesn't really help me out. And also i've asked them if they know anybody to set me up with but no luck there either. Anyways, sorry for all the rambling. I'm just a little bit frustrated and was hoping that some of you might have some good suggestions to help me get back on track. And one final note, I'm not really into the online dating right now. Thanks! Just nock on your closet door 3 times... 3 full knocks... then close your eyes as you open the door and walk straight in and you will be transported to the magical land of Tittywinter. (chalk full of hotties willing to mingle) Ok realisticaly though why do you just dismiss meeting women at bookstores or grocerystore or mall or bank line or park. Basicaly GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE like sit in a coffee shop surfing the net or what ever and HIT ON WOMEN. Are you scared to TRY? Seriously if you aren't asking women out then you have no room to complain. And BARS/CLUBS are horible places to meet women, I mean it can happen but the alcohol actualy works against you in many ways unless its just a one night hook up you are looking for. Women will be less hostile if you open them to flirty conversation at the supermarket for example then if you aproach them at night in a club while drinking. At a club you are more likely to be rejected to. I suffer from the same routine, but I'm putting all my hopes in my spring semster of college. Maybe you could take college classes again, you'll be back in the envo for girl Other then that, I was thinking about local groups for stuff I'm into, there must be girls to find common ground with. Dating life was easier for me after college so don't seat and just have fun and ASK OUT the girls you like. Common interest groups! I'm 24, but still in school and I play intramural sports. It's fun, non-competitive, and everyone goes out after for drinks and we chat and get to know one another. So if you're athletic maybe find recreational sports leagues. If sports aren't your thing you can try any sort of interest group: book clubs, hiking clubs, finger-painting clubs, whatever. These are great because you get chances to meet people with common interests and there's lots of natural chances to just chat and get to know one another. It's doubly good because you don't have to be suave and make some smooth move to initiate conversation out of nowhere. I've played intramural sports for years and I see lots of people dating others they played with. Joining a sports team or getting involved with something he is interested in is a geat way to meet people and women. Even if he only makes friends with guys at the sports team this will 1) make him happier (more likely to get a girl) 2) open his social circle bbq parties ect are a great way to meet women.
Author Stevie W Posted November 17, 2010 Author Posted November 17, 2010 Thanks for the help guys! Yes I do love my sports and I've actually been in a couple of leagues recently. I was on a soccer team but unfortunately people weren't that social so we didn't hang out or anything. I played some co-ed volleyball too which seems like a pretty great situation but the girls were all taken (or at least that's what they said haha). For the record, I think i'm a good catch so I don't think that's the issue here Just nock on your closet door 3 times... 3 full knocks... then close your eyes as you open the door and walk straight in and you will be transported to the magical land of Tittywinter. (chalk full of hotties willing to mingle) Ok realisticaly though why do you just dismiss meeting women at bookstores or grocerystore or mall or bank line or park. Basicaly GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE like sit in a coffee shop surfing the net or what ever and HIT ON WOMEN. Are you scared to TRY? Seriously if you aren't asking women out then you have no room to complain. And BARS/CLUBS are horible places to meet women, I mean it can happen but the alcohol actualy works against you in many ways unless its just a one night hook up you are looking for. Women will be less hostile if you open them to flirty conversation at the supermarket for example then if you aproach them at night in a club while drinking. At a club you are more likely to be rejected to. Ok so I tried the knocking on the door thing and it didn't work!! So disapointed lol It's not that I dismiss finding girls in places like that, it's just weird to me that everyone tells me those places are the best ways to meet girls. I just find it very hard to believe that that is the case. I guess I will have to give it a try more often and be more on the lookout for opportunities in situations like that. And I'm not scared to ask girls out but I feel my opportunities are hardly opportunities at all. For example, in the past week the only girls I have seen that I'd want to talk to are the one's I see as i'm walking down the street by my work. But it's not exactly easy to start talking to a random girl as you are both walking in oppostite directions on a crowded street. Also I absolutely agree with you that clubs are not the greatest place to meet girls. But at the same time, the clubs/bars are the only place that I'm finding any success at the moment.
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