Mixed feelings!!

[lala82]

Hello everyone:

 

Sorry for my story again. Now, it's worst. I am confuse and have mixed feelings.

 

Some of you know that I split up with my ex 3 months ago. We were 3.5 years in London and lived 1 year. Now he lives in the Middle East and I live in South America. Since we split up, we haven't spoken. I delated him from msn, skype and facebook.

 

After that, I met an argentinan guy. He is handsome, funny, lovely and we never ever have an argument. I do really like him. We speak almost every day and see frequently on the cam. He is a nice person, who cares about me a lot. I have the option to move to Argentina, my brother is moving there. So, I can get a job in my proffesion there.

 

However, I have the option to back to London. I did my master degree there, and I can work there 2 years after my master's degree. I am applying for that visa.

 

Recently, I have been thinking about my ex bf and I have been cried. But at the same time I like the new guy. Today I spoke with the argentinan, I he has a lot of work, so we are going to see less time now. But, he told me that he will try to do his best to see me frequently. He has told me that he has feelings for me and obviously, he wants I move to Buenos Aires.

 

I do not what to do? or where to go? I want go to argentina before travel to London to be with him at least one week. But scare, about my feelings towards him. He told me many times, that he is going to make all the possible that I will stay in Buenos Aires. He does not want I will back there. On the other side, I like London, miss London, and start missing my ex bf. I feel sad that things end in a very bad way.

 

Someone have experimented the same. Any advice are welcome. I know that I want to travel again, but I do not know where? I like both places.

[lala82]

Yesterday, I received a phone call from Argentina. An important multinational called me to offer a job position there. The idea is start working on the middle of december.

 

I sent a message to argentina guy to tell him the good news. However, he has not replied yet. I spoke with him 2 days ago and he told me that he will be very busy these days. He has been promoted in his new job. I hope he will respond soon. I miss him already...

[Taucher]

Hello lala82.

 

Has he replied yet? Do you know where you are going?

 

Hope it all works out for you.

 

T

[HeavenOrHell]

3 months is way too early to be thinking about moving to be with someone in my opinion. And if you're still crying over your ex maybe you need time alone before being in another relationship?

[aerogurl87]

3 months is way too early to be thinking about moving to be with someone in my opinion. And if you're still crying over your ex maybe you need time alone before being in another relationship?

 

I gotta agree, 3 months is too soon, especially for a LDR. Maybe you need some time to get your head together before you can make a clear decision as it seems you do still have feelings for your ex.

[lala82]

Hello Everyone:

 

Thanks for all messages guys. The argentinan guy contacted me last thursday on msn. I told him, about the job offer in Buenos Aires. He was very happy and he already started making some plans for us, when I arrive.

 

Also, he called me the same day Thursaday and Friday. He told me that I should continue to apply for some jobs in Buenos Aires. He told me that he does not want I back to London or stay in Colombia. He wants I move to Bs As asap.

 

However, I am still waiting for the company that called me last week. They told me that I need to have another interview and that they will check the documents that I need to get a work permit in Argetina.

 

About my ex bf, I feel better. We have not spoken since we split up. To be honest, I do not think that we will speak again. I think that I should continue with my process of forget him. He decided to go to Saudi Arabia, when we were living together in London. Obviously, for him his career was more important than our relationship. That's not point to think in someone, who only loves himself.

 

Hope to get some news soon.

[folieadeux]

I think you need to do what's ultimately the best for YOU and you alone. Sounds like you have a great future ahead of you; that would be my priority right now.

[lailani]

Hello everyone:

 

Sorry for my story again. Now, it's worst. I am confuse and have mixed feelings.

 

Some of you know that I split up with my ex 3 months ago. We were 3.5 years in London and lived 1 year. Now he lives in the Middle East and I live in South America. Since we split up, we haven't spoken. I delated him from msn, skype and facebook.

 

After that, I met an argentinan guy. He is handsome, funny, lovely and we never ever have an argument. I do really like him. We speak almost every day and see frequently on the cam. He is a nice person, who cares about me a lot. I have the option to move to Argentina, my brother is moving there. So, I can get a job in my proffesion there.

 

However, I have the option to back to London. I did my master degree there, and I can work there 2 years after my master's degree. I am applying for that visa.

 

Recently, I have been thinking about my ex bf and I have been cried. But at the same time I like the new guy. Today I spoke with the argentinan, I he has a lot of work, so we are going to see less time now. But, he told me that he will try to do his best to see me frequently. He has told me that he has feelings for me and obviously, he wants I move to Buenos Aires.

 

I do not what to do? or where to go? I want go to argentina before travel to London to be with him at least one week. But scare, about my feelings towards him. He told me many times, that he is going to make all the possible that I will stay in Buenos Aires. He does not want I will back there. On the other side, I like London, miss London, and start missing my ex bf. I feel sad that things end in a very bad way.

 

Someone have experimented the same. Any advice are welcome. I know that I want to travel again, but I do not know where? I like both places.

 

Dear Lala,

 

Hi..Hope your feeling much better now..I just want to share some of my thoughts i hope it will help u on your decision making..

 

as i can see your not fully recovered on your past relationship and if not really i suggest that you should give yourself some space to heal coz u know if you enter into a relationship again and still loving your ex..its only makes your life so complicated and makes u unhappy and your bf, its unfair for him even he doesnt know what you really feel but later on he will notice that your not really emtionally ready and im worried that it will lead again to another break ups..wait until your fully recovered to your past relationship, theres always time for everything and you dont have to rush..i understand what you feel im already on the situation before..gosh its really confusing..travelling to Argentina and meeting your present bf will also help you realize about your feeling towards this guy but as of now you dont have to commit with him for anything coz your not yet sure about how you really feel..who knows spending time with him helps develop deeper feelings to your present bf..good luck and stay happy..you can do it girl..

[lala82]

Lailane thanks for your comments. I think you are right. I don't want to hurt him, he doesn't deserved it. I think I was quite upset remember a little bit my ex bf. But I understand that things are over between us. And I need to continue with my life without him.

 

I spoke today with the Argentinian. He told me today 1000 reasons why I should go to Buenos Aires and not London. He told me that I should move soon there and get a part time job, while I can get a proper job. However, this week I am applying to my visa to The UK. Obviosuly, he is not happy. I will do it, because I want have another option. But, makes me sad to know that he won't be happy if I back to London. However, I am trying to de the best to get a job in Argentina and move there asap.

 

I do not know if I am little bit crazy, but I do really like him