LOSTMIND Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 I have a little situation, I have been dating a new girl for over 5 months and separated from my ex girl for over 1 year. Me and my ex have had sex maybe 4 times over that one year time frame. Recently we hooked up one night at a night club and went home together. We had crazy sex and have been doing so for 4-5 days now. I cant get her out of my head at all and now she is talking about us getting back together... The catch is she has a boyfriend too for about 9 months.... I need someone to talk to me and help me out please.... I cant turn to my friends because I cant trust them... I love my new girl and she loves her man but we are in love with each other.... Link to post Share on other sites
trulyme Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 I would hate to be in your position. But think about it, if you are asking about the ex and doing these things with her ( like cheating on your current girl ) then she probably holds a good chunk of your heart still. Sex can cover up who the person really is sometimes also. Think about what caused you 2 to split and see if it is still an issue or if it has been resolved. Niether of you are being fair to your current partners. So figure it out quick before this gets ugly. I think it already is though. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LOSTMIND Posted March 9, 2004 Author Share Posted March 9, 2004 Well I hope your ready for this little twist.... The girl I am currently with is the reason why we broke up... I was talking to her behind my ex's back... I know you think im a scum bag now but... I really just wanted to see what it was like and then I realized taht I loved my girl friend but by that time it was too late... Link to post Share on other sites
trulyme Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 So your trying to tell me that you thought the grass was greener and it really wasnt? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LOSTMIND Posted March 9, 2004 Author Share Posted March 9, 2004 excatly... and than I stayed with the grass on the other side because my ex girl put a fence up and I couldnt get back over Link to post Share on other sites
trulyme Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 That is so ironic, because I did the same exact thing. But what is interesting is that you say you love them both. Is that really possible?? The bottom line is this I think. Which girl is best for you, and obviously which girl makes you tick? I did the same thing, I met a great girl but was too scared to settle forever. So I broke up with her, went out and dated.........then I could not find anyone close to her. Lesson one, if you have green grass.....dont try to get anything greener. If you have weeds, then look for greener pastures. Obviously your ex was not weeds. Your age?and hers? Link to post Share on other sites
Author LOSTMIND Posted March 9, 2004 Author Share Posted March 9, 2004 im 23 she is 21 Link to post Share on other sites
trulyme Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 Yea, i am 23 almost 24 and my ex is 25. She is 21 though. I have to admit that 21 is a lot different then 23 I think. I know it seems close, but I dont think it is. When your 21 you get that taste of what you thought you waited your whole life for. Then after a year, its gets old.......then after 2 years you could care less about those things. Thats just me anyways. But dude, come on. Be real with yourself. Why get back with the ex if you dont see it lasting for a while. I.E 5-10 years and s***. If you seriously see it lasting for the long haul, then you have to give it a go. But if you dont see yourself with her a while down the road..........that is your answer right there then. Forget about the sex and the newness of her right now. THINK long term. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LOSTMIND Posted March 9, 2004 Author Share Posted March 9, 2004 man true... I like your style... you think like me... But look at it this way... I really dont know what the future holds and the funny thing is, it probably doesnt even include any of these girls Link to post Share on other sites
trulyme Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 Dang dude. The grass is still greener in your mind then. What else can I say. You said it yourself. The future dont hold either of these girls. That right there is saying that you really dont see yourself with them for the long term. THATS YOUR ANSWER. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LOSTMIND Posted March 9, 2004 Author Share Posted March 9, 2004 I just dont know If I can trust her after she just cheated on her current man with me... Thats the reasoning behind my thinking. I want to believe but I could go the rest of my life in fear and that isnt healthy at all.... I want to be back with my ex so bad... But I dont want to play calling games or worry about her motives Link to post Share on other sites
trulyme Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 Well, have fun then man. But not at anyone elses expense. LIKE the people you guys are cheating on. That **** will come back 10/fold and that is gonna hurt like a b!tch. Karma is a mutha clucka. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LOSTMIND Posted March 9, 2004 Author Share Posted March 9, 2004 I just hope the ex shows me that this is all worth my time and takes the first step in making this thing happen... I just know that the current girl is gonna be crushed and thats what is making this so hard... I love the current one so I dont wanna see her hurt, but I am in love with the ex and always wanted nothing more than to be back with her.... Link to post Share on other sites
trulyme Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 damn, dude. Now your going back to before. You dont know what you want. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LOSTMIND Posted March 9, 2004 Author Share Posted March 9, 2004 yea, its just one ****ed up situation... Hard to deal with and making me nuts.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author LOSTMIND Posted March 9, 2004 Author Share Posted March 9, 2004 I wish I had that crystal ball and could see into the future and than make my decision... This is extremely hard to do because both of them make me happy and I get along with both of them very well but the ex is better in bed and has more intellecual qualities that the current one is lacking... The ex just connects with me on another level Link to post Share on other sites
trulyme Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 Well, making up your mind is obviously the hardest part. But look at it this way. Sounds to me like you have 2 great options. That is not toooo tough of a position to be in. Think about it. Link to post Share on other sites
trulyme Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 Dude, now doubt. Sounds like you are exactly where I am at. My ex was just the coolest chick, but this girl I am dating now.......seems to lack the qualities that my ex had, but is also cool. Girls are always going to have thier pluses and negatives. Link to post Share on other sites
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