KiloOneOne Posted November 17, 2010 Share Posted November 17, 2010 So today I was talking to my wife on the phone, she was driving (Hands free) but I could hear the Seat Belt buzzer going crazy.. I said to her please, please put your seat belt on. She is terrible for doing this on very short journeys. I then said to her, its really not fair, if you crashed and something bad happened I would be left devastated and sad all because you did not take 5 seconds to put on your seat belt, or you could really be hurt badly.. She said Oh don't worry, you will find somebody else.... to which I replied "I love you, I want you, I do not want anybody else... I want my wife you.. and I want you to wear your seat belt.. Now I know I am sensitive sometimes, but is this a bad sign her saying this, is there a deeper meaning to this, it just seems like something she would not usually say? I know I am maybe being paranoid and all but... Any thoughts. Thanks Link to post Share on other sites
Apple_juice Posted November 17, 2010 Share Posted November 17, 2010 I remember having a similar conversation with my WH in the past. The comment was made out of curiosity more than anything - curious about his reaction.. and apart from that it's simply because i loved to hear my WH saying that he wanted me and no one else ... As long as your wife doesn't say that often, i'd say you shouldn't worry too much.. Link to post Share on other sites
InternationalPlayboy Posted November 17, 2010 Share Posted November 17, 2010 My wife sometimes says something along these lines to me in the exact same situation. And I typically offer the very same response as your wife. I assure you there is no deeper meaning - she just doesn't want you to worry your little head. She's a grown woman, she will put on the seatbelt. Don't worry so much. Link to post Share on other sites
xxoo Posted November 17, 2010 Share Posted November 17, 2010 Sounds like she was mildly annoyed by your "parenting" her, and your guilt trip, and she was joking to deflect and lighten the conversation. Both your response to the seatbelt issue and you response to her comment seem a little needy and alarmist to me. That may be something to be examined.... Link to post Share on other sites
martini-mae Posted November 17, 2010 Share Posted November 17, 2010 Both your response to the seatbelt issue and you response to her comment seem a little needy and alarmist to me. That may be something to be examined.... Alarmist? Examined? Perhaps it was just a flip passing comment? Don't worry so much! You know what they say about WORRY~"it's like a rocking chair, it'll give you something to do, but it won't get you anywhere" If you have a good marriage don't start second guessing the little things. Link to post Share on other sites
goingstrong Posted November 17, 2010 Share Posted November 17, 2010 Now I know I am sensitive sometimes, but is this a bad sign her saying this, is there a deeper meaning to this, it just seems like something she would not usually say? Is this a man posting this or a woman? Most men don't think like this....there is no meaning in her statement, or if there is, a man won't care..... Link to post Share on other sites
jacks788 Posted November 18, 2010 Share Posted November 18, 2010 Hi, Thanks to Points of conflict Marriage & Life Partnerships Marriage & Life Partnerships Debunking the old-ball-and-chain stereotype one couple at a time................... Link to post Share on other sites
Author KiloOneOne Posted November 19, 2010 Author Share Posted November 19, 2010 Is this a man posting this or a woman? Most men don't think like this....there is no meaning in her statement, or if there is, a man won't care..... Yes its a man asking... And why? would a man not care? Maybe with an attitude like this you would kill any desire to care. you think the male has no feelings? Wrong, its just BS like this that keeps it back.. however a real man will air his views and instead of thinking I don't care, will observe, watch, and learn! And as for me parenting... Cry me a river, I will parent my wife as she does me when we are putting ourselves in danger for no reason at all or at risk of a £2000 fine... That's around $3600 for my American friends for not wearing a seat belt.. I merely asked about her comment... It was out of place she never says stuff like that..it would upset her if I said it, thats why I asked. Don't try to make me out to be a psycho or alarming, maybe I was feeling sensative or something I dont know? anyway thanks for your answeres everybody. Link to post Share on other sites
goingstrong Posted November 19, 2010 Share Posted November 19, 2010 Yes its a man asking... And why? would a man not care? Maybe with an attitude like this you would kill any desire to care. you think the male has no feelings? Wrong, its just BS like this that keeps it back.. however a real man will air his views and instead of thinking I don't care, will observe, watch, and learn! And as for me parenting... Cry me a river, I will parent my wife as she does me when we are putting ourselves in danger for no reason at all or at risk of a £2000 fine... That's around $3600 for my American friends for not wearing a seat belt.. I merely asked about her comment... It was out of place she never says stuff like that..it would upset her if I said it, thats why I asked. Don't try to make me out to be a psycho or alarming, maybe I was feeling sensative or something I dont know? anyway thanks for your answeres everybody. Yea dude, your way sensitive. I feel bad for your wife, having to deal with another woman in a relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
InternationalPlayboy Posted November 19, 2010 Share Posted November 19, 2010 Yea dude, your way sensitive. I feel bad for your wife, having to deal with another woman in a relationship. I really shouldn't laugh. I really, really shouldn't. Link to post Share on other sites
Brandi 2 Posted November 22, 2010 Share Posted November 22, 2010 So today I was talking to my wife on the phone, she was driving (Hands free) but I could hear the Seat Belt buzzer going crazy.. I said to her please, please put your seat belt on. She is terrible for doing this on very short journeys. I then said to her, its really not fair, if you crashed and something bad happened I would be left devastated and sad all because you did not take 5 seconds to put on your seat belt, or you could really be hurt badly.. She said Oh don't worry, you will find somebody else.... to which I replied "I love you, I want you, I do not want anybody else... I want my wife you.. and I want you to wear your seat belt.. Now I know I am sensitive sometimes, but is this a bad sign her saying this, is there a deeper meaning to this, it just seems like something she would not usually say? I know I am maybe being paranoid and all but... Any thoughts. Thanks That sounds very weird, a VERY weird response. I don't know what to say to that. I would question her further about that. Link to post Share on other sites
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