Is this cheating?

[cutieh]

If a guy has women friends in his house when your not at his house. And you told him you don't like it.

[cutieh]

oh he is your boyfriend

[Green]

If a guy has women friends in his house when your not at his house. And you told him you don't like it.

 

oh he is your boyfriend

 

I'm a little confused... you should have just told us the situation instead of stating it like a hypothetical.

 

Like are you and this guy exclusive? How long have you been dating? Why were woman friends in his house?

 

If I were dating a girl and she had guy friends at her place I would not like it. After a few dates if things were going good I would consider her my exclusive gf and would tell her "Hey your my gf I'm your bf lets agree not to see other people" if she agreed to that we'd be in an exclusive relationship.

 

I would also tell her "Don't hang out with guys alone in date like situatins you know stuff like getting dinner with your friend Frank or letting Bob come hang out at your place or going to his place"... at that point I wouldn't necesarily consider hanging out "cheating" but depending on if she did it behind my back regardless of my wishes it would be dishonest if she agreed not to and that disrespect would be something that would hurt me and make me want to break up. It would definetly make me WONDER if there was cheating but in the end I don't want to date some one who has members of the oposite sex alone in their place with them even if it is somehow 100% inocent I just don't want to date some one that thinks thats ok especialy after agreeing and talking about the issue.

 

The guy probably is cheating on you but even if he isn't it is drama and you deserve better then this disrespect even if it was just a friendly alone hang out at his place

[cutieh]

I will give more detail i didn't know you needed that. Well, actually it is my friend's boyfriend. She has been dating him for almost four years. She told me went to his house and knocked on his door and him and his female neighbor was over to his house. She told me she doesnt like this. I tell because i care about her that it is not right. She says she is going to leave him if he stops then says she isnt going to leave him because the female neighbor hasnt been over there in a few days and he has changed. I asked her if he said he was going to stop she said no he didnt say that but we go by actions. His neighbor friend has been over their many times before and she even does his laundry.

 

I told her my ex boyfriend did this to me couple times and i finally left him because this is considered cheating. She said she cant tell her boyfriend who to have over his house.

 

I just maybe thought i was the crazy one.

[Green]

I will give more detail i didn't know you needed that.

 

Of cours I needed that if for nothing else then my curiousity

 

 

Well' date=' actually it is my friend's boyfriend.[/quote']

 

Well if its your friends bf that changes things.

 

She has been dating him for almost four years. She told me went to his house and knocked on his door and him and his female neighbor was over to his house. She told me she doesnt like this. I tell because i care about her that it is not right. She says she is going to leave him if he stops then says she isnt going to leave him because the female neighbor hasnt been over there in a few days and he has changed. I asked her if he said he was going to stop she said no he didnt say that but we go by actions. His neighbor friend has been over their many times before and she even does his laundry.

 

I told her my ex boyfriend did this to me couple times and i finally left him because this is considered cheating. She said she cant tell her boyfriend who to have over his house.

 

I just maybe thought i was the crazy one.

 

 

In the end it doesn't matter if it is cheating. Look do you want to date some one who does shady stuff and has no BOUNDAIRES then continue dating him if not break up.

 

You can't make your friend break up but you could tell her if it was you that wouldn't fly and that if she is unhappy expect it to get worse before it gets better.

 

I don't think your crazy, if anything I think your to willing to understand actions like these. Who cares if its cheating or not... its Bull sht is what it is and DRAMA and just DISRESPECTFUL... I would not date a girl who had a guy comming over all the time. NO not me.... I don't care if its cheating. Even wondering if it is cheating is being to understanding

[You'reasian]

If a guy has women friends in his house when your not at his house. And you told him you don't like it.

 

What is the nature of the relationship between the women friends and the man?

 

If there is any former professional relationship between them and you trust your man, then I wouldn't see it as cheating.

 

You said that he has his neighbor over doing laundry. Why is she doing his laundry?

 

Is he injured and cannot lift the laundry?

Is she a good friend just offering to help out?

 

Need more clarification

[cutieh]

it is my friend's boyfriend. the lady friend is his neighbor and my friend lives under him as well. there is nothing physically wrong with him. and if it was that is his girlfriends job to do.