heartironsmith Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 I dated this girl for two years. we met online and talked for about 1.5 years online and about 3 months in person. the whole time she said she had noone else in mind, noone else was in the picture and that noone was in her heart. it was only after we broke up that i found out this was a lie, on this very message board. during the first part of talking she and me were just friends..no big deal just someone to talk to, but later she said she had feelings for me. she initaited first contact when we met in a chatroom. she was moving to where i am from to attend school. her childhood dream was to move here.` she had people know to her here her mother had made friends with who she kept in touch with. my father had died about a year before we started talking and my last girlfriend, who i had promised my virginity to, cheated on me. i was in a very desperate time in my life, i was 24, i just had a business fail on me also( a bar). i was reclusive..spent most of my time on working to pay bills and sleeping. i was given a computer by my mother for christmas..didnt have one..but now that i could steal music it gave me something to do. so i started chatting while i downloaded like a music junkie only knows how, and we started talking around november on yahoo. i felt for her because her first love was getting married, she was carrying on an affair, and i was a sympathic ear. well the affair ended, she stopped after he had his first child ,feeling bad about being the other woman..i decided to go back to school and was in my first year as an english major, in the school she wanted to attend when she arrived. it seemed very much like fate, that someone from 6,000 miles away just happened to be moving here and happened to be single and happened to like me. she was very beautiful to me, wonderful green eyes and a untamed look that melted me, she expressed how she felt about me and i her and we admitted to each other that we cared for each other. she said she loved me shortly there after..being in such a desperate place, i beleived her, but i kept my virginity a secret. we did the usual online things people in ldr do, including phone sex, sharing our fantasies etc. she delayed coming twice and to her joy she i said i would wait, i felt so deeply for her. i turned down dates in real life from 4 girls, attractive (one even more than) as her because i believed in her, that how she felt about me was true. when she arrived, she was about five days late in coming to the fall semester at our university, it was a friday. it was around 9 pm when she phoned, and she was at a hotel, i picked her up, gave her a gift and a romatic card, we went driving, ate dinner( her treat) and i took her back to the hotel. we talked for an hour in the parking lot and eventaully one thing lead to another, we made out, and had oral sex iin my car right then and there, it was very hot and we could barely contain ourselves. after that day things hit the ****ter.... since she moved, she had no car, so i agreed i would drive her around whereever she needed to go and would move my schedule as needed. now, here is the thing..she has this thing about not wanting to eat alone..so everyday..me being broke from my business going poopy she would insist it would be her treat. when i refused she would get mad so i went along with it. when i got paid, i had about 80 bucks a check left over after bills and gass(which she drove away with me) and i spent every penny i could on her. everyday..she wanted to go somewhere.. every single day..but witha a catch..she must be home at 10 pm to pick up the phone and call her mom. i was getting sick of her, since after that night she was paraniod about being slutty and i had to beg her for affection. later , when she was in the mood, i wasnt, so i couldnt well... Link to post Share on other sites
Author heartironsmith Posted March 9, 2004 Author Share Posted March 9, 2004 i had an attack of virginitis..when it came to that moment my little guy just said hey!see ya tough guy and went away. when it happened the first time, i was shaking i was so nervous..we showered togther( by the way she did orgasm, i knew my way around via oral sex and touching) the second time it was at my house with my mom in the next room witha comedy album playing as cover( bad chioce) and that was it, she shut me out. after that, we hung out everyday, but i new she thought less of me, i could tell by how she acted around me, and made excuses not to hang out with me. i desperately wanted to tell her why it had happened, but i couldnt, cause i lied saying i had had 4 sex partners before her. about two months in i was to cook her dinner and she was to come over. finally 3 hours late she canceled, i was pissed. no sex, my schedule ****ed up, my grades falling and she kept breaking her word, i decided to aviod her for a day. the day after she broke up with me on msn messenger. Link to post Share on other sites
Author heartironsmith Posted March 9, 2004 Author Share Posted March 9, 2004 it was about three days after her birthday we broke up, i was ahead on my bills so i spent alot of money on her birthday ($250. or so with her 3 nights out and a present as a birthday week gift for all the meals she had been buying i wanted to show my apprecation) and i thought that after her birthday and the big present, i could come clean about being a virgin..i was trigger shy. I am not not a virgin i may add, because after we broke up i lost it in a meaningless one night stand on viagra (it worked to reassure me now i dont need it at all)but thats later still. two weeks before her birthday, she picked up her car and i drove her about 2,000 kms to go get it. she agreed to pay my gas and meals for use of the car( i suggested a bus but she wanted this instead) which is an exsample of what i would do on command( i missed work to drive her too) Link to post Share on other sites
fbstud83 Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 you cannot do everything that she asks or she will think that she owns you...if she cannot understand that you have work and school and other demands, i don't think she is worth the hassle....you may really love her and want to do anything for her, but it looks like she doesn't love you...my suggestion would be to do your own thing for a while, go out with friends, work, and have fun....if she asks you to do something tell her that you are busy and you have something going on...this will let her know that you have a life of your own and maybe she will learn to appreciate you more Link to post Share on other sites
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