Natalie Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 What is your opinion about a much older woman dating a much younger man. What age different should be acceptable? Do relationships like this work out? How about the opposite, when a much older man dates a much younger woman? They say when a much older guy marries a young girl, he will more likely behave as a parent in some point instead of a husband and treats her more like a child. It usually doesn't work out, especially if the girl is an independent, self conscious one. Are any of these accepted as normal nowadays? Link to post Share on other sites
Errol Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 Everyone is different and no one should base their relationship on what they think is considered acceptable. It used to be unacceptable for races to mix - how dumb was that! My personal opinion: No more than 8 years difference and the reason I say that is because more than 8 years and there are fewer things to have in common because of generational differences; ideas; morals; common frames of reference, etc. as you get older. Also, the age-associated health factors where a much younger person is more likely to end up being a caretaker for the older one. As for the parenting issues - either person, even if the same age, can take on the role of parent. It depends on the personality and dynamic of the marriage. But also, thinking about parenting -- if there is a big age difference the older person may not want to have children at their age, or may not be as willing to participate in the parenting, leaving it up to the younger person--or the younger person is really too young to be a parent and both parties have more conflicts about how to raise their children, because each person reaches back into their own childhood for examples and references on parenting skills. A person born in 1950 is going to have a very different view of how to be a parent then someone born in 1970. Link to post Share on other sites
amazinglywow Posted March 9, 2004 Share Posted March 9, 2004 Originally posted by Errol generational differences; ideas; morals; common frames of reference, etc. as you get older. i happen to agree with that. generation differences can get in the way. the values are different. raised in a different society... i myself dated a man who is 17 years old than me... yea ok, it might be sick to you guys! but by his looks, he looked only 9 yrs older than i. i dated him cause he was mature in every way. and at that time i couldn't stand dating guys around my age (college). but as i was dating him, we both noticed that i was way too mature than him. for awhile there, i liked having the 'upper hand' (i don't know what to call it). but then i thought about the long run... and i realized it wouldn't work... for example the bottom half of what Errol wrote. but i don't think its wrong to date any age, if you're truly into them. it can help you learn what you want in a person. some people have high morals, that your age group is far from, and chances are older ppl have your values, so you'll comfortable with them instead... i hope you get what i mean.. i'm in a rush... Link to post Share on other sites
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