trying to control my jealousy & understanding my inner voice

[scole]

My dreams have always been... intense. I have dreams that later become reality and it feels like Deja Vu when it happens in "reality" and I get a little light headed, like when you stand up to fast.

 

Years ago I was seeing a girl(my first love) and towards the end of our relationship (3years) I started to have these dreams where I would try to call her, whether it was on a mobile, payphone, landline and I would run around in my dream trying to find a phone that would work and I would get the same thing... No answer, the number pad looked blurry or the numbers I pushed were not the same as dialed, or the phone would just ring and ring or the phone would not work. I kept waking up in a terror and my heart physically would hurt. I could not sleep most nights because of analyzing the dreams. I checked some books and dream interpretations and the general idea was as I thought... We were disconnected or becoming disconnected and my mind/dreams/subconscious knew it and was warning me. Even in an awakened state I could feel our communication was dying and the relationship was ending. years later I look back on it and I can confirm that feeling.

 

I have seen one other person since her. but My dreams did not start until after we broke up and they were all basically the same. I would try and talk to her or get her attention and she would not respond or she would be angry with me. a few times she was with a man, and I could not identify him. I would wake up in a very sad state of mind sometimes uncontrollably crying and would be quiet, to myself for a day sometimes up to a week.

 

after many more years I started seeing another girl and I am crazy about her as she is with me. But, on one night at the start of our relationship I had a very vivid dream of her and she did not want to talk to me, she really did not even like me and she kept telling me to leave her alone. Right behind her was a guy and she kept trying to leave with him. But as she was leaving, and I was letting her go... I woke up immediately and intensely so much so that I woke her up. I was crying in my hands and then I started to hug her and began sobbing in her arms, telling her I did not want to lose her. Ever since that dream,(in fact ever since my first love) I have trouble trusting her, or a lot of people. But I want to trust her and love her. But my mind is fighting it with images of her cheating on me, (really vivid) and her leaving me. I am at the point where I am convinced it will happen and I drive myself crazy when we are apart. please help I really love this girl and I want to make it work. But I cant help feeling like my inner voice is yelling.

[2sure]

Deja Vu and dreaming of things that make us anxious are two things everyone experiences. I would not think it unusual to dream about a relationship ending or being hurt when in real life you may be feeling distance. You have fear of rejection, so you dream about it.

 

Your dreaming about rejection might be simply because you fear it all the time or because you feel your current partner is becoming distant. Do you?

 

Your dream is not indicative of the future , it simply reflects how you feel.

[oldguy]

"Fear, frustration and jealousy" are at least three FEELINGS you repeatedly experienced from these dreams.

 

Sometimes, most of the time, examine the feelings your dreams invoke fist. The content is many times only window dressing.