GIRLFRIEND

[RON]

I'm a 30 yr old man currently going through a divorce after

 

9 yrs. I have dated several different women, and was having a hard time finding one that I had any chemistry with. I met a young lady, 19 yrs of age, I began having a relationship with (more mature than the 30 yr olds I had seen). She just came out of a 3 yr stint with a man that didn't have any problem beating her. I've been seeing her now for 3 months. To make a long story short, she turned up pregnant, aborted it without my consent, and then cried about it for several weeks. She then told me she needed some time and didn't want to be around any "people". I have begun to believe she needs help for depression. Anyway, she didn't call me for several days, so I drove out to her house to discover her with her ex. She wouldn't even open the door to me. The question is, do I pursue, or do I cut tail and run while I have a chance? thanks, I'd like to hear from Tony.

[Tony T]

You obviously are not at all bothered by your divorce and consider yourself healed from your marriage and ready for dating. That's good.

 

Welcome back to the world of looking for love. First, let me tell you that a 19 year old is a 19 year old. No matter how mature she is able to act, she is still 19 years old. It's as natural for a 19 year old to ACT mature when with a 30 year old man as it is for Jim Carey to ACT stupid for $20 million per movie. The only difference is that Jim Carrey is eligible for an Academy Award. A mature woman has a mature discussion with the father of her child before she aborts it. A mature woman tells her boyfriend of three months that she plans to see her ex.

 

She has shown you clearly she is neither mature nor faithful. So to answer your question, you cut tail and RUN LIKE HELL!!!

 

Take all the things that you learned in your marriage, add more to that, and find a lady 25 or older who is your intellectual equal, who is kind, generous, considerate, faithful, communicative, and who shares your views about religion, money, children, sex, etc. Find a lady who is forgiving, up front with her feelings, someone you can know without any doubt that she will always be there for you.

 

It may take you a while...but don't put up with the crap of any little 19 year old chirpie. In all fairness, she will probably be OK in five or six years, but right now she is not any material for you. Young girls can make absolute fools of older men. They take advantage of them, use them and eat them up every single day...and brag to their girlfriends about it and attend the award ceremony at the end of the year.

 

There are some very wonderful ladies out there for you. Be very kind and gentle to yourself by settling for nothing less than someone who you will be proud of and feel secure to be with for a lifetime.