Broken brain? Suggestions for how to fix pls

[nevergoodenough]

I don't seem to be getting any smarter with the years. I keep thinking that ppl should be nice and loyal and stuff. So I am.

 

I am very nice to my friends. I could even say I am devoted to people. I do the same in jobs or places I volunteer.

I give 150%. All these people say they are oh so glad I am their friend or they say I am wonderful at some job or whatever.

 

Then the friend or somebody at work will do something that hurts my feelings a lot. Sometimes they do it to impress somebody else at my expense.

 

So tell me how to stop thinking I should be nice and loyal and devoted. Should I just wait until I see if people do that for me and only give it in return maybe? Do you have to make ppl prove to you that they are really your friend before you give it back?

 

Tell me what I'm doing wrong because its something and i just do not know what.

[Iamhappy]

I think it's wonderful that you're kind and loyal, but being kind and loyal doesn't mean you have to be a doormat.

 

If your friends hurt your feelings then you need to say something to them about it. If you let that kind of behaviour continue, you're essentially telling them that it's ok for them to treat you that way.

 

If your friends hurt your feelings just so they can impress someone else, they aren't being your friend. They're just being mean.

 

It is ok to stand up for yourself.