Stuck in a Dilemma....

[so_goon]

Hi everyone! This is my first post, I've been reading posts for the last month hoping that maybe someone would have a similar situation I am in, but I guess I can't find it and I really need advice.

 

My situation is I really like this girl, we've met last december through a friend of a friend, and since then we've somewhat become friends. We've seen each other at some group gatherings and in April I asked her to my friend's birthday party and it seemed like we hit it off, we danced together, and at one point made out and that was that. She disappeared for a few months until I saw her again in the end of july, I asked some of my friends what happened to her and apparently no one knows what happened to her. I asked her out again as my date to a reception and surprisingly she agreed and came, I found out that day why she disappeared for a while and was okay with it.

 

But after a few attempts some "flags" were raised, for example, sometimes when I text her i never would get a reply, especially the ones where i asked if we could make plans to meet up. Or whenever I called her she never picked up my calls. so at this point i decided it wasn't worth the effort and dropped the entire chase, I avoided hanging out with that group of friends in case she was there.

 

After about a month i thought i was over her I went to hang out with some friends and there she was, she seemed happy to see me, but that night I was confused as ever, as she was by me the whole night sending me mixed signals. I pretty much spent the whole night trying to be clueless to her signals, and this continued on the next few gatherings. Some of my friends just advised me to just play into things and see where it's going and so I just went with the flow. I feel we are getting a lot closer now and there is progress being made we talk on the phone once in a while, and surprisingly enough she decided to ask me out for dinner.

 

the dinner went well, although i was nervous as hell and i think she saw through it. but nonetheless after that we have msg'd each other back and forth and i feel she's opened up a lot more to me now.

 

Now for the dilemma, I was just recently informed about a possible job offer which will require me to permanently leave the country to work elsewhere. It is a high possibility this will happen and when it does everything is going to happen quick.

 

I really like this girl but i can't bare to hurt her like this, one other reason why it is taking me so long to know this girl is because she still has issues with her ex, the friends that we know mutually have continuously warned me to not get involved with this girl because she still has things to work out. But, sigh, I feel like we have a connection, just don't know if it's just me.

 

This totally sucks for me too, because I really haven't found a girl I was this into since my ex from four years ago.

 

sorry for the long first post, but any advice is greatly appreciated!