U1987 Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 I have this problem. On the rare occasion I catch a cute girl eyeing me, nothing happens. We do that thing where I catch her looking and she immediately looks away, pretending she was looking at someone else and I dart my eyes away as well; then I catch her looking again out the corner of my eye but then she darts and I dart away when I turn my head. What are you supposed to do in that situation? I try to think of a litany of things to say in this situation but nothing seems cute or charming. And are you supposed to hold that stare? It seems like pure instinct to just dart your eyes away. It's hard to override it. I've had this idea in the back of my head a awhile; if you catch a girl looking, would it be charming to say "What? Do I have a booger? Cowlick? Piece of food on my face?" and what do you say if she says she wasn't looking? Link to post Share on other sites
Leandro Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 that's a good question. I would really like to know too. Link to post Share on other sites
kdark Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 Don't let your eyes dart away. Keep looking at her. It shows you are confident. If the girl likes you, she will smile, which is your invite to smile back, say hi and strike up a conversation. Link to post Share on other sites
810 Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 why do you have to say something? fix your eyes with hers, even if she looks away, keep looking at her...when she turns around, give her a smile Link to post Share on other sites
Feelin Frisky Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 Are you a sniveler who occasionally leaves a trail of dried snot across your face? If not, try to engage her. I you're alone and free to act on a cue, you'll regret it if you don't. Just have a little class just in case it is a boogie. Link to post Share on other sites
tb24 Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 My favourite: look at her and smile. If she smiles back, look at her for a few seconds then say "You have a lovely smile". There's no way she can not give you some sort of response, she was smiling at you after all . It's a nice easy ice breaker as it means you don't even need to think on your feet. Link to post Share on other sites
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 I've had this idea in the back of my head a awhile; if you catch a girl looking, would it be charming to say "What? Do I have a booger? Cowlick? Piece of food on my face?" and what do you say if she says she wasn't looking? You need to stop thinking that one should have ready made responses to situations when dealing with girls. Spontaneity is the key. Link to post Share on other sites
welikeincrowds Posted November 23, 2010 Share Posted November 23, 2010 (edited) would it be charming to say "What? Do I have a booger? Cowlick? Piece of food on my face?"This is why I think you're a troll. Because I cannot for the life of me think of anything less charming to say, that wouldn't also be blatantly vulgar. Just say "Hi", dude. "Hi. I noticed you from across the room. How are you?" Edited November 23, 2010 by welikeincrowds Link to post Share on other sites
Author U1987 Posted November 24, 2010 Author Share Posted November 24, 2010 This is why I think you're a troll. Because I cannot for the life of me think of anything less charming to say, that wouldn't also be blatantly vulgar. I would say it jokingly of course! I thought it would give me a chance for a clean, un-awkward withdrawal, because my fear is, what if she's NOT looking at me, but something/someone behind or next to me? Wouldn't it be awkward if I just started hitting on her if she wasn't infact looking right at me? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 If I was single and caught an ATTACTVE girl "eyeing" me I would make eye contact and hold it with her and even if she darted her look away I would say something like "Hi" to her and then a) FLIRT b) ASK HER OUT c) KISS HER ON THE DATE Link to post Share on other sites
Tim The Enchanter Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I would say it jokingly of course! Oh that's alright then. There are times and places to make jokes like that, and approaching a girl for the first time is not one of them. Link to post Share on other sites
Eeyore79 Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 You: Are you shy? Her: Yes!/No! (giggles) You: Because you've been gazing at me for ten minutes and you haven't tried to chat me up yet. Her: (giggles again) You: Well, if you're going to stare at me like that, it would be polite to at least tell me your name. (continue conversation) Girls love when you tease them in a flirtatious way and make them laugh. Link to post Share on other sites
welikeincrowds Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 (edited) You: Are you shy? Her: Yes!/No! (giggles) You: Because you've been gazing at me for ten minutes and you haven't tried to chat me up yet. Her: (giggles again) You: Well, if you're going to stare at me like that, it would be polite to at least tell me your name. (continue conversation) Girls love when you tease them in a flirtatious way and make them laugh. Careful. They do, but not until you have a rapport. Definitely not in the opening line. There are plenty of girls for whom opening with "are you shy" would seem accusatory, tactless, and offputting. This difficulty understanding the nuance of teasing happens to be one of the OPs recurrant problems. He really should stick with "hi" until he's ready to move up to the advanced tactics. Hi works just great. Edited November 24, 2010 by welikeincrowds Link to post Share on other sites
welikeincrowds Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 I would say it jokingly of course! I thought it would give me a chance for a clean, un-awkward withdrawal, because my fear is, what if she's NOT looking at me, but something/someone behind or next to me? Wouldn't it be awkward if I just started hitting on her if she wasn't infact looking right at me? No, it would be funny, and if she thinks you're cute, it will be just as good an opening as if she had been looking. Link to post Share on other sites
Corporation Lizzie Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 LOL guys are so bad at body language. You're really just missing the last piece of the puzzle. It's supposed to go like this.. You catch her looking at you, You both glance away It happens again This time when she looks away keep looking at her. Her eyes will come back to you eventually, especially when she realises you're looking at her. If she holds your gaze the second time and smiles, it's time to man up and go and speak with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 To be honest, looking at me would hardly make her stand out from the crowd. EVERYONE stares at a giant. Link to post Share on other sites
Dante311 Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Make eye contact and smile. She may look up and smile shyly at you while "fixing her her" or something cute like that.. if she does, that is your cue it's ok to gently stand up and walk over to her and say hi... you could be totally corny and ask her if it's ok to sit down (I've done it... worked for me). Say your name (ie introduce yourself) and ask her her name. start with small talk and work your way to her interests... if something sparks... go with it. Ask for her number before you leave. If she gives it to you with a smile, call 2-3 days later and have fun. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Jam Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Keep looking at her. When she looks again and you make eye contact, smile. If she smiles back, then walk over and say hello to her. It's not impossible guys...she's given you the sign she likes you, so go with it. Only a total lunatic will check you out and smile, but then run for the hills when you come say hello. Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Say your name (ie introduce yourself) But what if I hate my name? Link to post Share on other sites
Leandro Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 But what if I hate my name? Give her a nickname for yourself. Most people can't say my name so I just say I'm "Leo" and it works just fine. Link to post Share on other sites
Author U1987 Posted November 24, 2010 Author Share Posted November 24, 2010 why do you have to say something? fix your eyes with hers, even if she looks away, keep looking at her...when she turns around, give her a smile Don't let your eyes dart away. Keep looking at her. It shows you are confident. If the girl likes you, she will smile, which is your invite to smile back, say hi and strike up a conversation. If I was single and caught an ATTACTVE girl "eyeing" me I would make eye contact and hold it with her and even if she darted her look away I would say something like "Hi" to her and then a) FLIRT b) ASK HER OUT c) KISS HER ON THE DATE LOL guys are so bad at body language. You're really just missing the last piece of the puzzle. It's supposed to go like this.. You catch her looking at you, You both glance away It happens again This time when she looks away keep looking at her. Her eyes will come back to you eventually, especially when she realises you're looking at her. If she holds your gaze the second time and smiles, it's time to man up and go and speak with her. Yeah, no duh. HOW do you keep looking? How do you overcome that instinct or reflex to dart your eyes away? Link to post Share on other sites
Green Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Yeah, no duh. HOW do you keep looking? How do you overcome that instinct or reflex to dart your eyes away? You Just do it... I mean next time you see a hot girl (probably today if you go out in the world) practice on her... stare at her and if she happens to meet your eyes keep staring. then open her up and talk to her. Good luck. Seriously you just keep looking ... whats with the HOW do you keep looking? LOL Link to post Share on other sites
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