Destiny Rose Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 My friend has been involved with a guy for about 8 months and she is an older woman with a younger man for a boyfriend. She really cares for this guy but was hesitant to date him, due to their 10 year age difference. He was very persistent so they wound up dating. About 5 months into the relationship he got a pretty new female co-worker. And she didn't think anything of it at first until she noticed that he seemed to know an awful lot of personal information about her. They ran into the co-worker at a coffee shop and she was very friendly with him. The female co-worker got laid off and then one day my friend made a casual remark to her boyfriend about it being a good thing she was laid off otherwise he would have dumped her for the other girl. That's when he admitted that he probably would have! Huge fight ensued. She was upset. Felt really betrayed. He claimed that the only reason he was cultivating a relationship with the co-worker was because thing hadn't been going well in their relationship at the time but now he was really serious about her and in love with her. So she forgave him. A couple of months has gone by and recently my friend happened to be home alone and her boyfriend left his cell phone behind. She just happened to look at it and noticed that he has been texting his ex-girlfriend and another girl but strangely enough he is only sending these texts when he is not around his girlfriend and he is looking to get together with his ex at the pub, the other girl he was asking for recent photographs. My friend is wondering if she should confront her boyfriend about this in light of his past history. I suppose I should also include the fact that when he first met her, he later told her that he just intended to "hook up" with her and dump her and wound up staying with her because he fell in love with her. But when they first started becoming intimate he lied when he told her he loved her. My friend would appreciate any insight thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 It sounds like he is actively looking for a new GF, and using your friend as a convenient bit of fun to pass the time. Your friend should eject him from her life, and find someone who has some respect. By the way she didn't just "happen" to look at his phone and see messages... that doesn't just happen by accident... it's a deliberate action. I'm not saying it was the wrong thing to do, because his actions are obviously a lot worse! Just sayin'. Link to post Share on other sites
paleblue Posted November 24, 2010 Share Posted November 24, 2010 Alright, seriously?? this "bf" of hers is not going to be around for the Long Term. He is too young for her, and there are red flags all over the place already. I would suggest your gf start distancing her self immediately on an emotional level and find someone more her own age. Its pretty obvious this kid is just biding his time until he finds someone else his own age. I think that's already been proven based on the texts she discovered. If there were no intentions other than to be friendly with these women than why not tell her, hey Im talking or meeting up with these girls?? But your friend didnt get that from him. He is just sneaking around now. Not a good sign. Link to post Share on other sites
Woman In Blue Posted November 25, 2010 Share Posted November 25, 2010 LOL...let's call a spade a spade. She didn't just "happen" to check his phone out - her gut was screaming at her that the guy's a lying sleazeball and checking his phone just confirmed it for her. Why does she need the opinion of complete strangers on an internet board when the proof is right in her hands that the guy's a cheater? He's obviously shopping for a replacement and she'd be a complete fool to stick around while he does it. This isn't rocket science. Link to post Share on other sites
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