Can somebody give me some clarity to this

[scalcs]

Well, finsihed up my divorce from wife 2 months ago, we were married for over ten years, 2 children together, I was the one dumped, we were seperated for more than a year, but of course we had sex together for awhile after seperation, I know bad idea, now I know this, anyways, I behaved badly during our seperation, becuase she was dating new man, but I would about 3_4 months ago I just have been more civil, and kinder to her becuase I just gave up, and decided to move on, and lose the false hope that dumpees go thru, took me awhile for this, anyways, I let go of the hurt and anger, and decided I just need to be a good father, have been dating on the side, nothing serious, just having fun with other females, things started to click for me, felt good beimg single again, not afraid of being alone anymore. Anyways point to this post is my ex calls me this past sunday to go out with her and the kids iceskating, she says they would really like this, I told her I would think about, later that day I went by and said I would go, spoke to my oldest son and asked and he said he did not ask his mother if I could go, she would never invite me out in past. So I went and no I was not thinking of going back to hrr I just took her for her word that kids wanted me there, even thou, they did not ask if I could be there, during the drive over she mentions she has to be home at a certain time becuase a friend of hers ie the other man is going to fix her computer. Whatever no big deal because I did not have any expectations about her anyway. My question is why would she do this after all that went done, I personally dont think it is healthy to do thi ng s as a family bevuase we are not one, she should be doing this with her new man who I think she has been seei ng for quite some time, because he has done things with kids before, I just think she is crossimg the line, and I dont think it would be fair to other man, if I was him I would be uncomfortable with it, what does everyone think about this, I personally think she is having some mental problems, she is struggling financoally, and when I speak to her in person about kids, she cannot look me in eyes, and she seems nervous all the time, which in turn makes feel nervous, and then she tells me I am nervous.

[goingstrong]

It sounds like she is feeling you out, or what is left of your relationship to see if there is anything to salvage...most likely things with her new man and her are bumpy and she is pulling you into the wings.