I think d-day #2 is around the corner

[whichwayisup]

You fell for a fantasy man, someone who doesn't exist, someone you built up in your head and wanted him to be. Your heart and emotions didn't help and backed up your wanting him to be the man he obviously isn't. That's a HUGE realization --- So RUN with it!

 

If you truly want OUT of the A, just do it! If you really are done and want it over, DO IT. Grieve it, and let yourself go through the motions of a break up so you can heal and get past this.

[JustWannaStop]

You fell for a fantasy man, someone who doesn't exist, someone you built up in your head and wanted him to be. Your heart and emotions didn't help and backed up your wanting him to be the man he obviously isn't. That's a HUGE realization --- So RUN with it!

 

If you truly want OUT of the A, just do it! If you really are done and want it over, DO IT. Grieve it, and let yourself go through the motions of a break up so you can heal and get past this.

 

I do want out. But I am terrified of feeling the pain and emptiness that goes with getting out. It can't be as bad as what I am feeling now though.

[JustWannaStop]

Day 10! And that says a lot. I don't know how long you will take to get to where I'm at, but numerous rough break ups with old relationships help, ALOT.

 

If a boat was sinking and me, MM and BS were on it, I will choose to save ME, not anyone else.

 

Wow that is great! So no contact for 10 days?

[Silly_Girl]

I do want out. But I am terrified of feeling the pain and emptiness that goes with getting out. It can't be as bad as what I am feeling now though.

 

Tattoo that up your arm!!!! It's v important. Pop it on post-its and screensavers and whatnot.

 

You're not weak. You don't need short-term attention to be happy. There's a lot more below the surface there. You can get there JWS!!

[endlessness]

I do want out. But I am terrified of feeling the pain and emptiness that goes with getting out. It can't be as bad as what I am feeling now though.

 

You're right, it's not. It's a different kind of pain. The pain of waiting for your body to detoxify of this man, so that you can finally begin the journey of rebuilding your life.

[whichwayisup]

I do want out. But I am terrified of feeling the pain and emptiness that goes with getting out. It can't be as bad as what I am feeling now though.

 

Don't be afraid of that pain. That pain brings closure. It's final! And you're right, it won't be as bad and continuous as what you feel now. Pain is pain, but the GOOD thing is, that pain will lessen as time goes on. With the help of your friends, family, neighbours, co-workers, LS folks, life in general - Keeping busy and looking afterself. Doing soul searching and understanding yourself and the choices you've made. The emotional detachment will set in and you'll see things much more clearly and from a different point of view. Things will click and make sense, see them in a new light which WILL help you heal.

 

Hope this helps.

[fooled once]

Bent, your intentions are good, your posting style is curt and sometimes hostile. Especially hard for new posters. If you explained your thinking behind some of your one-line posts it may result in the OP having more respect for your advice and may help them to see where you're coming from.

 

To a newbie that post is a jab by a bitter BS. It has much more depth and meaning when you explain where it's coming from and why.

 

Once again, it isn't up to you to criticize how someone else posts. She wasn't responding to one of your posts. This is exactly what causes so many issues. The OP even said she was okay with Bent's post. Stop projecting your own issues onto her. And once again, you throw out the "bitter" line. This is getting so old and tired....

 

I do want out. But I am terrified of feeling the pain and emptiness that goes with getting out. It can't be as bad as what I am feeling now though.

 

When you have had enough, you will end things. I really doubt you two will 'end it' after he starts MC because you both are addicted to the high of it.

 

Ending things WILL hurt, but you will become stronger when you go through it. There are so many great posters here who have been right where you are and have come through it -- keep reading, keep posting. If you really want to end it, you will. Best of luck to you! And so glad you have an open mind to all the advice given!