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Leaving his country soon, don´t wanna loose him


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Hi all.

Sorry for the long msg, I hope you are able to read it through and give me some advice.

I´m from Northern Europe, and my boyfriend is from Australia. I was studying in Australia in 2008 and met him when I had 3 weeks left (so typical..). We clicked immediately and when I left the country we stayed in touch and our love just grew more and more. After a year apart (in 2009) he came to my country for 2 weeks as he was travelling through Europe. I was heartbroken when he left cause I didn´t know when I was gonna see him next. We texted almost every day, and Skyped on the weekends if we had time. I have never felt so strongly about anyone! I had one year left of my studies, and in Feb 2010 I came to Australia on a working holiday visa to be with him for a year. We have had the most wonderful time with each other, I love him with my life, and he love me too. I feel he is the one!

 

Now to the issue (sorry for the long intro..). I´m leaving the country in less than 2 months. We recently talked a little bit about what´s gonna happen between us when I leave. I have always thought he would come to my country and do the same thing there, take a visa and stay for a few months and we would decide our future after that. But now he tells me he doesn´t know what he wants! He says he don´t wanna promise me anything cause he don´t wanna hurt me and he has a few things he wants to do first here in Australia. This makes me increadibly sad.

It is so frustrating aswell since we both love each other! I don´t want him to give up on us now. I´ve asked him what he is afraid of, and he says he just don´t know. He just don´t know what he wants with life I guess.

 

I don´t wanna loose him, he is my life. Im 25 and he is 24, and I am serious about this relationship. He has told me before that he don´t want anyone else, what can I do to make him wanna come to my country for a couple of months? Does he only need time? I just don´t wanna leave the country without knowing when we´ll see each other again :( And I don´t wanna scare him away by talking about this all the time, just.. what should/can I do?

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You can't really do anything but wait. :(

 

In the meantime maybe you two should start working on making plans to see each other again.

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Thanks for your reply.

The thing is, when we try talk about it he just says he doesn´t know what he wants. When I ask him about when he´s gonna come to my country he just says that he doesnt´know, that´s really frustrating and makes me sad. I don´t wanna loose him cause I love him so increadibly much and I don´t want him to give up on us and take the easy way out (breaking up). We both love each other.

Just don´t know what to do, I almost feel sick thinking about a life without him :/

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