renee.alyse Posted November 25, 2010 Share Posted November 25, 2010 Long story short, I'm an Aussie, living in Australia and I met my boyfriend on a recent trip to America when I was there for 3 months. We knew each other most of the time I was there, but we didn't hang out until the last weekend I was there and things clicked together.. (typical!) So we've kept in contact, talking pretty much everyday via phone, txt or facebook.. and now he wants me to live in an apartment with him when I get back to the states. I'm 19, and he's 18, (I know were young) and it seems like this is a serious relationship. I'll hopefully be back in the last week of December so that means we'll have known each other for 6 months and been together for 3 months.. I feel like living together could work out really.. but is it too soon? Or could it work out fine? Link to post Share on other sites
Yeahsussu Posted November 25, 2010 Share Posted November 25, 2010 Well you never know if you don´t try, right? My boyfriend lives in Australia and I live in Northern Europe, I had been with him (physically) for 5 weeks but kept in touch via phone etc for 1,5 year before I came here to Australia on a working holiday visa to be and live with him. Worked out great! But my visa ends in january and I have to go back then, and don´t really know how our future is gonna be after that... Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted November 25, 2010 Share Posted November 25, 2010 Anything is possible, but your young ages and brief time together does raise the obvious concerns that anyone would have. Do you know anyone else in the US? Have a job lined up? Going back to school? Because you’ll be living with him, I think it’s important for you to ensure you aren’t totally dependent upon him just in case. This is a big change, as I’m sure you’re well aware, and you want to make sure you’re as prepared as possible for anything that may happen in the future. Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted November 25, 2010 Share Posted November 25, 2010 Hey renee, I'm in a somewhat similar situation regarding the age issue. My boyfriend is going to be 19 next month and I'm 21. We've been together almost 10 months total with 5 weeks together in person, and in about 2 months we're planning to have me move to be with him for a year if we can manage it. So I don't think you going to live with your boyfriend is a far fetched idea, but it will take lots of planning, money, trust, and commitment to work. Moving to another country isn't cheap, even if done temporarily. You have to pay fees for visas, moving expenses, and have money saved up to help you settle in your new place. I agree with folieadeux you need to have something or somewhere there in the States with you before going away. It's always a good idea to have a back up plan because you never know what the future holds. For me I got a job transfer to a store near where my boyfriend lives. It'll pay me enough money to where I won't be totally dependent on my boyfriend, which is good. I do think dating for 3 weeks is a bit soon to move in with someone, but it could work out for you two so I'm not going to say not to do it. Just think things through 100% and don't let the goggles of love cloud your vision. Best of luck and welcome to LS. Link to post Share on other sites
Author renee.alyse Posted November 25, 2010 Author Share Posted November 25, 2010 I got accepted into college over there, and I'm in the process of getting my student visa (so I'll be able to work there). I have good family friends there that are helping me and I actually have a few places that I can stay if I want with other family friends. One of the biggest things I'm worried about is that by living with him, he'll get sick of me or bored with me etc.. Which I really, really do not want. He said that he won't but I'm just wondering if it will happen cause of our young age! Link to post Share on other sites
folieadeux Posted November 25, 2010 Share Posted November 25, 2010 I got accepted into college over there, and I'm in the process of getting my student visa (so I'll be able to work there). I have good family friends there that are helping me and I actually have a few places that I can stay if I want with other family friends. One of the biggest things I'm worried about is that by living with him, he'll get sick of me or bored with me etc.. Which I really, really do not want. He said that he won't but I'm just wondering if it will happen cause of our young age! I think that's great that you have viable options lined up. I wouldn't stress about your ages possibly affecting your living arrangements either. People twice your age get sick of living with each other, trust me. It's a risk any couple takes (or friends/family for that matter!). You both seem very mature for your age, so this is definitely a good sign. There will be that initial period of getting used to things, but that's completely normal. Just be sure to address any conflicts that may come up in a mature fashion and you'll be fine. Best of luck! Link to post Share on other sites
Author renee.alyse Posted November 25, 2010 Author Share Posted November 25, 2010 Thankyou so much everyone for your advice!! It definitely helps to hear from people in similar situations or that know a thing or two about it! Link to post Share on other sites
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