Are you a good catch?

[pandagirl]

I think I'm a good catch because I'm essentially a pretty decent person with a big heart who treats people and animals kindly.

 

Oh, and I am actually a good catch -- as in, I can play softball pretty well!

[Surrealist]

Wow I readily admit to low self esteem but I don't criticise OP at all, not in any malicious way. I find it (not OP but the theme of the thread) personally challenging in some respects.

[Pyro]

I ooze with fantasticism.

[Sarah1977]

Well out of an entire thread of posts, I guess I worded two sentences poorly. I apologize for that. Star, apparently you do not believe my clarification. That's fine with me, go ahead and believe what you want. I don't have to explain myself to you. I know what was in my heart and mind.

 

Personally, I tend to think women should be building each other up and not tearing each other down. But hey, that's just me.

 

If anyone in this thread is waiting for me to take the positive thing I said about myself back, you're going to be waiting until the end of time. I'm proud of who I am. I'm not perfect, but I work hard and I mean well. I have a lot of good qualities and I refuse to be shamed for them. Further, in this hyper critical country we live in, I don't think there is anything wrong whatsoever with recognizing your positive qualities and giving yourself the benefit of the doubt for a change. And at least I can just come right out and say what I bring to the table proudly instead of pulling the move that SOME PEOPLE around here do where they trash themselves hoping that other people will shower them with compliments.

 

Speaking of which....

 

I feel like this thread was mostly a huge brag fest for the OP, and I don't buy her more charitable explanation. I'm also disturbed by the focus she puts on material possessions in terms of her "catch" qualities. I also wonder about her cultivating these qualities to make herself a better catch. Shouldn't she be doing them for herself, not to impress some guy?

 

Northern, I love how you and other posters in this thread want to insinuate that I'm insecure. I'd come right out and call you insecure, but that would be the understatement of the century. You hate yourself. I have read posts of yours and physically recoiled, I was so horrified by what you were saying. In fact, you are so 'in hate' with yourself that I'm surprised that you are here in my thread posting instead of drowning in a pool of your own self pity.

 

The FACT of the matter is, if ANYONE needs a thread like this, it is YOU. You need to pull your head out of your freaking butt and start recognizing that you indeed have good qualities and start embracingthose good qualities instead of trying to knock everyone down to your level. I, for one, would like to hear you tell me about what a great friend you are or how witty you are or how organized you can be. I want to know about your great sense of style or talents at giving back rubs. I think thinking about those things might do you some good.

 

Either that, or you can just go start yet another thread about how nobody loves you. *shrugs

[Tim The Enchanter]

Sarah, there's having respect for yourself and then there's having an overly high opinion of yourself. I know lots of people who have been successful in life, my sister is one of them, but they don't go around crowing about it all the time.

[Sarah1977]

Sarah, there's having respect for yourself and then there's having an overly high opinion of yourself. I know lots of people who have been successful in life, my sister is one of them, but they don't go around crowing about it all the time.

 

I made one single thread where I tried to be positive and hoped others would follow suit. I mentioned my faults in this thread. I never claimed to be perfect. More than that, I was JUST AS complimentary towards everyone else as I was about myself.

 

How to translates to 'going around crowing about myself all time,' I have no idea.

 

But, like I said before, you are free to think about me whatever you want. I know what was in my heart and mind.

[Els]

Considering that TWO out of your four threads included some sort of bragging, OP...

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t251875/

 

Also, I think what you said to Shadow was uncalled-for. Kicking someone during their down-time is not something a secure person would do.

[Sarah1977]

Considering that TWO out of your four threads included some sort of bragging, OP...

 

 

A thread about a computer algorithm thinking I'm hot? Oh yes, you're totally right. I was bragging about that. In fact, I'm betting you're all just jealous because some inanimate object doesn't think you're hot.

 

Wow, what a stretch.

 

Kicking someone during their down-time is not something a secure person would do.

 

But only the most secure people in the world kick people during their up times, right?

[Tim The Enchanter]

Considering that TWO out of your four threads included some sort of bragging, OP...

 

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t251875/

 

:sick::sick:

[Kamille]

I could list at least a thousand more reasons for being fantastic but I'm too modest to do so.

 

Not me. As my father would say - jokingly referring to himself: "I'm too amazing to be modest ;)".

 

When I think back to the depressed, suicidal teenager that I was and to everything I managed to accomplish in my life since then, I'm most proud of one thing: my capacity to bounce back. Resiliency is my strongest point. That, coupled with a willingness to learn, which translates into making the most of every situation, good or bad. This doesn't immediately translate into being a great catch, except that it means that I'm good at solving conflicts and always willing to improve myself.

 

That being said, however, my biggest flaw, according to bf, is that I'm always striving to improve myself and never really take much time to kick back and relax.

Edited November 27, 2010 by Kamille

[Els]

A thread about a computer algorithm thinking I'm hot? Oh yes, you're totally right. I was bragging about that. In fact, I'm betting you're all just jealous because some inanimate object doesn't think you're hot.

 

Wow, what a stretch.

 

If it didn't matter to you, why post about it?

 

But only the most secure people in the world kick people during their up times, right?

 

Well, let's look at an analogy. Two girls start threads here. One goes 'Look at my pic, I'm so hot! Here's how you girls can look like me...' while the other says, 'I'm having trouble with my appearance, I feel like people don't like me...' and finally posts a pic at other posters' behest.

 

Which do you think would be worse to criticize, by far?

[Sarah1977]

If it didn't matter to you, why post about it?

 

Because I thought it was funny.

 

 

 

Which do you think would be worse to criticize, by far?

 

Sorry, not going to play that game. I wasn't the first to throw punches in this thread. And I will not apologize for defending myself.

[Els]

*shrugs* Suit yourself. You're entitled to say whatever you want. And I remain by my conviction that no secure person needs to kick someone who's down, whatever their excuse for it.

[denise_xo]

I was not being funny, I was serious! You seem affable, some of your posts have made me lol, you have an amazing hobby, and you seem quite in touch with your emotional side. You are one of the posters that if I've seen you posted I will click on the thread, even if I originally had no interest in it. I'm sure you have many other positive attributes to go along with what I mentioned.

 

And while it may be difficult to have a relationship when one is away all the time it's not impossible.

 

Even your self-deprecation is adorable. Awwww.

 

Agree with this - your posts are , SDA.

[Sarah1977]

Think about me what you will, Els. I'm not bothered by it. Again, I know who I am.

[LittleTiger]

Agree with this - your posts are , SDA.

 

I'll third that!

[LondonS]

Hmmm Okay I shall take this oppertunity to brag about myself..dont see why not

I am called beautiful by most men, well off family background, A Banker by profession, Highly educated, own properties, cars, party in expensive clubs..have good set of hobbies however not a great dater, had comittment issues which I am working on. Find it difficult to decode men at times but no hard feelings towards anyone so far.

Still a work in progress but I do believe I am capable of attracting a healthy relationship in my life, I am just more focused on career right now and keeping options open.

[harmfulsweetz]

Hm, I don't know. I don't really think of myself in terms of a list, or otherwise. I think it's a good idea to understand your own strengths etc, but I feel your strengths often lie within yourself rather than in external things. I've been told I'm funny, kind, pretty and cute, and sweet, and slightly on the strange side (I take that as a compliment!)

 

I do and don't see the point in this thread-it does seem like OP just wanting to boast- and that was my initial reaction. However, I also see the point in people understanding what their good points are/what they bring to the table, but the focus on material things etc in my opinion is wrong. Simply affording a better lifestyle does not make you a better overall partner.

 

Also, I think another poster stated rightly that people should spend less time looking at what their own qualities are, and actually stop to think about their partner's qualities and assess if you are a compatible match.

[sb129]

I think that building each other up is a great idea.

 

Threads have been started where you have to say five nice things about another poster.

 

Something like that is less likely to cause angst, and as its an internet forum, material things can't really be used.

 

I haven't seen too many examples of other people being nice about EACHOTHER on here, only about themselves.

[Sarah1977]

I've been told I'm funny, kind, pretty and cute, and sweet, and slightly on the strange side (I take that as a compliment!)

 

 

Nothing wrong with being a little strange. And if that is you in the picture, they are right. You are totally cute!

[Woggle]

I have my issues but I think I am a pretty good catch.

[threebyfate]

Not me. As my father would say - jokingly referring to himself: "I'm too amazing to be modest ;)".

Your Dad sounds as fantastic as he's willing to state!

 

But I too was joking about the modest part.

[Star Gazer]

Personally, I tend to think women should be building each other up and not tearing each other down. But hey, that's just me.

 

I sooooo agree! Which is why I recoiled when I read your next statement:

 

Northern, I love how you and other posters in this thread want to insinuate that I'm insecure. I'd come right out and call you insecure, but that would be the understatement of the century. You hate yourself. I have read posts of yours and physically recoiled, I was so horrified by what you were saying. In fact, you are so 'in hate' with yourself that I'm surprised that you are here in my thread posting instead of drowning in a pool of your own self pity.

 

The FACT of the matter is, if ANYONE needs a thread like this, it is YOU. You need to pull your head out of your freaking butt and start recognizing that you indeed have good qualities and start embracingthose good qualities instead of trying to knock everyone down to your level. I, for one, would like to hear you tell me about what a great friend you are or how witty you are or how organized you can be. I want to know about your great sense of style or talents at giving back rubs. I think thinking about those things might do you some good.

 

Either that, or you can just go start yet another thread about how nobody loves you. *shrugs

 

Why are you focusing on just Northern? There are plenty of people, myself included, who have insinuated exactly what she did. Why don't you address their comments? I'll tell you why you focused on just her: to discredit the comments she made (in an attempt discredit all of them, including mine), and also to kick her when she's down. And that makes this is one of the meanest posts I've read on LS in a long, long time.

 

Northern recognized her good qualities, and also pointed out things she doesn't like about herself - like disorganization. So what? Didn't you do the same exact thing?

 

She's insecure about some things. Sure. Aren't we all? But I wouldn't say she hates herself. If you've been following her threads, she's been making great progress, and should be encouraged for that rather than beat down.

[Sarah1977]

Why are you focusing on just Northern? There are plenty of people, myself included, who have insinuated exactly what she did. Why don't you address their comments? I'll tell you why you focused on just her: to discredit the comments she made (in an attempt discredit all of them, including mine), and also to kick her when she's down. And that makes this is one of the meanest posts I've read on LS in a long, long time.

 

 

I thought I did that when I mentioned 'and other people.' But, whatever, I'm not going to argue with you. Like I said, you are free to think whatever you want about me. If someone is nasty to me, (And you guys were nasty for PAGES before I said anything even remotely negative) then I'm going to give it right back. And I don't give a crap who you are or what you're going through. I will defend myself. I'm not going to roll over and take all these attacks on my character and intentions (especially when I really and truly meant well) just because some of you are having a really tough time. Nope, sorry. Not going to do it.

 

Now. I don't know about you, but I'm moving on from here. Like I said numerous times, I started this thread because I wanted to see people be positive about themselves and each other. So I'm going to go back to focusing on building people up and finding the good in everyone.

 

You can feel free to continue to sling mud if you makes you feel good about yourself. Unfortunately, it's going to fall on deaf ears. *shrugs

[harmfulsweetz]

Nothing wrong with being a little strange. And if that is you in the picture, they are right. You are totally cute!

 

Thanks.

 

I read somewhere making lists about your strengths is actually a good thing is you have low self-esteem because it helps you to see what you are actually good at. I'm just not good with lists though.