Author Sarah1977 Posted November 28, 2010 Author Share Posted November 28, 2010 Didn't I just answer that question? Nope. All you said was that you weren't afraid me. Some bully i am were the person i "abused" admits she is not bothered by me. What i asked was if I'M the bully, why are people afraid of YOU? Seriously, think about that for a minute. Link to post Share on other sites
EasyHeart Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 My definition of a "catch" is someone who is defensive, relentlessly attacks other people and never admits they're wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 Nope. All you said was that you weren't afraid me. Some bully i am were the person i "abused" admits she is not bothered by me. It would truly be awesome if you would just say, "I'm sorry, Shadow/Northern. What I said to you wasn't very nice." Can you do that? What i asked was if I'M the bully, why are people afraid of YOU? Seriously, think about that for a minute. Also, where have people said they're afraid of Shadow/Northern? I don't think I've ever seen that comment made. What am I missing? Link to post Share on other sites
Mad Max Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 My definition of a "catch" is someone who is defensive, relentlessly attacks other people and never admits they're wrong. You read my mind. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 Northern made the very first nasty post in this thread. She did not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarah1977 Posted November 28, 2010 Author Share Posted November 28, 2010 Also, where have people said they're afraid of Shadow/Northern? I don't think I've ever seen that comment made. What am I missing? 214, 229. Right there. Link to post Share on other sites
BobSacamento Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 My definition of a "catch" is someone who is defensive, relentlessly attacks other people and never admits they're wrong. That is my definition of a "woman". Link to post Share on other sites
daphne Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 That is my definition of a "woman". No sir, it's a man that never admits he's wrong. Get it right! Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 214. No reference to Shadow/Northern in that post. Link to post Share on other sites
BobSacamento Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 214, 229. Right there. You're no Saint either. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarah1977 Posted November 28, 2010 Author Share Posted November 28, 2010 You're no Saint either. Nope. But i will say it took 10 pages of needling before i snapped and stooped to their level. With that said, you're absolutely right that in doing so i helped to destroy my own thread. I will own that, too. :(l Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 It would truly be awesome if you would just say, "I'm sorry, Shadow/Northern. What I said to you wasn't very nice." Can you do that? OP, can you answer this question? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarah1977 Posted November 28, 2010 Author Share Posted November 28, 2010 OP, can you answer this question? Sorry, I was busy looking for the apology for calling me a liar, braggart, insecure, etc. Funny...don't see them anywhere. Got a post number i can reference. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 Sorry, I was busy looking for the apology for calling me a liar, braggart, insecure, etc. Funny...don't see them anywhere. Got a post number i can reference. This post makes me sad. With that, I'm out. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 I agree that knowing your qualities is very important for many reasons. Knowing your flaws is also important. But, labeling yourself as a good catch can be as detrimental for your chances to find true love as it can be beneficial. I see so many people who have no "luck" in love because they don't see themselves for who they are. E.g. middle-aged men hit on yung, beautiful women saying "I am a nice person, I buy flowers for no reason, I cook and do chores around the house, I am honest..." Nobody cares! "You're not in my league, grandpa," is what the woman is thinking. The reverse also happens all the time: you see great people falling for jerks. This is not gender-related, by the way. Bottom line: I think we should all know where we objectively belong. This doesn't mean nobdy should aim for a higher league, as this may objectively be attainable. But if understanding which league you belong to on paper is useful. The term "good catch" refers to catching someone and shouldn't be confused with a good spouse. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarah1977 Posted November 28, 2010 Author Share Posted November 28, 2010 This post makes me sad. With that, I'm out. A lot of what you said about me made me sad. Dead serious. Your comments hurt my feelings. Two months ago, my 10 year marriage came to an end. I am going through tough, nay devestating, times myself. Sitting here reading PAGES of attacks on my character when i was only trying to help cheer people up hurt me. It hurt. Im not ashamed to admit it either. Im sorry you're sad. But im sad too. Link to post Share on other sites
northern_sky Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 A lot of what you said about me made me sad. Dead serious. Your comments hurt my feelings. Two months ago, my 10 year marriage came to an end. I am going through tough, nay devestating, times myself. Sitting here reading PAGES of attacks on my character when i was only trying to help cheer people up hurt me. It hurt. Im not ashamed to admit it either. Im sorry you're sad. But im sad too. I'm honestly sorry to hear this, but I also think it explains a lot. When people are down they're more likely to lash out at others. We all do from time to time. But being in a bad place isn't an excuse for being nasty. At least own it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Sarah1977 Posted November 28, 2010 Author Share Posted November 28, 2010 I'm honestly sorry to hear this, but I also think it explains a lot. When people are down they're more likely to lash out at others. We all do from time to time. But being in a bad place isn't an excuse for being nasty. At least own it. Northern, please don't disrespect me by playing innocent. You were nasty too Can you own it? Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 A lot of what you said about me made me sad. Dead serious. Your comments hurt my feelings. Two months ago, my 10 year marriage came to an end. I am going through tough, nay devestating, times myself. Sitting here reading PAGES of attacks on my character when i was only trying to help cheer people up hurt me. It hurt. Im not ashamed to admit it either. Im sorry you're sad. But im sad too. I'm truly sorry that what I said hurt your feelings. It was definitely not my intention, and because I DO care about what crap you and others are going through, I certainly didn't mean to make you feel worse than you already do. I intended only to point out that the way you phrased your OP came across really, really poorly, as did your subsequent responses, and was bound to make others feel bad. I do not believe that anything anyone said to you in criticizing this thread, including myself or Shadow/Northern, deserved the response Shadow/Northern received. She deserves your sincerest apology, from one hurting woman to another. Link to post Share on other sites
Star Gazer Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 Northern, please don't disrespect me by playing innocent. You were nasty too Can you own it? Are you refusing to give an apology to her unless you get one first? You already have mine. Link to post Share on other sites
NoLongerSad Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 Think about me what you will, Els. I'm not bothered by it. Again, I know who I am. A recent divorcee, on the rebound. Link to post Share on other sites
northern_sky Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 Northern, please don't disrespect me by playing innocent. You were nasty too Can you own it? Sarah, my comment amounted to a negative impression of the thread you started and your motivations therein. Your comments on me were full-blown character assaults. I just reread your OP to see if my initial impression was justified, and I still pick up the same accusatory tone in it. The truth is I'd be lying if I said I didn't think there was a competitive streak in your OP. That doesn't mean I think you're lying, because usually people aren't conscious of their motivations. So the truth is I don't think you're lying, but I also think there's more going on beneath the surface than you're aware. Note that I never said you were a liar or a braggart. I said I felt you were bragging in this thread. I'm sorry that I hurt your feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 ............ Link to post Share on other sites
Mad Max Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 This is like something off of Dr. Phil. Link to post Share on other sites
Citizen Erased Posted November 28, 2010 Share Posted November 28, 2010 ............ As alpha would say, indeed. Link to post Share on other sites
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