She is really positive, I am negative. How about you?

[Taucher]

So it's been almost 3 weeks on LDR and it's all settled down a bit. But I worry and am sort of negative about the whole thing. I try not to tell her and I hide it pretty well, but she can snese it sometimes.

 

She, on the other hand, has been amazing. She is constantly reassuring me and being strong and saying that she is not worried about us and that when we see each other next, we will be together forever. She emails and texts me all the time and, although I say I am negative, I am getting more positive all the time.

 

The funny thing is, the 7 months we spent together you could say we were both the opposite. She was always worried about girls I know and said sometimes she was worried I will leave her. I, on the other hand, was very relaxed and not worried at all.

 

However, there is still a long time left until we are together. Anyone in a similar situation where one of you is stronger than the other?

 

T

[folieadeux]

My SO and I both try to remain positive, but I can admit I’m definitely the more negative one about things. I think this is a challenge most every long distance couple faces at one time or another, regardless of how long they’ve been together.

 

Lisa, your boyfriend sounds just like mine. He’s usually the more positive one about life in general whereas I tend to be a glass half empty type person. Logically I know I have nothing to worry about, but I definitely have a harder time dealing with things sometimes, or at least I show it more.

[aerogurl87]

My boyfriend is more positive than me, but I think that has to do more with my habit of overthinking everything and then worrying excessively. My boyfriend is more calm and laid back about things. He just says "oh they'll work out" while I'm thinking of everything that could go wrong and how to prevent it.

[Taucher]

Looks like there is a pattern here! But I guess that makes sense. I guess pretty much everyone on here will say similar things as we are all using Loveshack as support because...we need support and are all, psychologically, similar to each other.

 

I couldn't imagine my GF using Loveshack as she just wouldn't see any need. As far as she is concerned, everything is fine and our relationship cannot be damaged by 5000 miles and 3 months. That what she tells me all the time, with her not worrying and positive attitude.

 

My boyfriend is more positive than me, but I think that has to do more with my habit of overthinking everything and then worrying excessively. My boyfriend is more calm and laid back about things. He just says "oh they'll work out" while I'm thinking of everything that could go wrong and how to prevent it.

 

Just like me. I feel sorry for you; it's tiring, I know!

 

T

[HeavenOrHell]

My partner (male) is more positive than me, I sometimes take this to mean he doesn't miss me as much as I miss him, but it's not that at all, he says he'd rather focus on the positives about us.

He could look upon me feeling negative sometimes, or worrying about us, as maybe not having as much faith in us, or finding the relationship too hard to cope with, whereas he's more positive so he could be seen as having more faith/hope in us and trusting that things will be ok.

[folieadeux]

Looks like there is a pattern here! But I guess that makes sense. I guess pretty much everyone on here will say similar things as we are all using Loveshack as support because...we need support and are all, psychologically, similar to each other.

 

I couldn't imagine my GF using Loveshack as she just wouldn't see any need. As far as she is concerned, everything is fine and our relationship cannot be damaged by 5000 miles and 3 months. That what she tells me all the time, with her not worrying and positive attitude.

 

 

 

Just like me. I feel sorry for you; it's tiring, I know!

 

T

 

I couldn't imagine my SO joining a forum for support either. It's funny you mention that. I was just thinking about this very thing the other day. I feel the need to be around like-minded people in similar situations. For him, he doesn't need it. I just like knowing that there's other people out there going through the same thing because it can really feel like you're the only one at times.

[aerogurl87]

Looks like there is a pattern here! But I guess that makes sense. I guess pretty much everyone on here will say similar things as we are all using Loveshack as support because...we need support and are all, psychologically, similar to each other.

 

I couldn't imagine my GF using Loveshack as she just wouldn't see any need. As far as she is concerned, everything is fine and our relationship cannot be damaged by 5000 miles and 3 months. That what she tells me all the time, with her not worrying and positive attitude.

 

 

 

Just like me. I feel sorry for you; it's tiring, I know!

 

T

 

Yep it is tiring and I know my boyfriend gets sick of hearing me worry all the time, but I think he's come to terms that it's just how I function. I guess that's why he's pushing for me to live with him as soon as possible as I'm much better about our relationship when he's 2 inches away from me as opposed to 2000 miles away.

[nika1507]

i totally agree with u.

i talk to my friends about it but i dont think they they realize how i feel cause no one can if it's not in a situation like this

 

and yea sometimes i dont talk to my bf about it cause i know that he is more positive and when i start talkin about negative things i just make him feel down so i try as much as i can not to talk about it in a negative way.