So lonely.....

[willowthewisp]

Yes? You think so? It is weird isn't it? He doesn't get it does he? So I'm not odd for thinking its too fast to expect this after one date and a bit of texting?

[willowthewisp]

My first post sshould of said he said he doesn't want to be strung along.

 

But yes he has issues, he just text to say his ex strung him along before ending it, so he's not over it. So I guess I should walk away?

 

Edit- I guess the point is he is wanting to get into a commitment really fast and he doesn't seem to understand why that is too fast or why I need to go slower, but then wouldn't anyone wnat to go slower, we only met once?

 

Anyone? Bit stressed out, he's still texting me and I need to reply and opinons would be gratefully recieved!

Edited December 10, 2010 by willowthewisp

[just_some_guy]

My first post sshould of said he said he doesn't want to be strung along.

 

But yes he has issues, he just text to say his ex strung him along before ending it, so he's not over it. So I guess I should walk away?

 

Edit- I guess the point is he is wanting to get into a commitment really fast and he doesn't seem to understand why that is too fast or why I need to go slower, but then wouldn't anyone wnat to go slower, we only met once?

 

Anyone? Bit stressed out, he's still texting me and I need to reply and opinons would be gratefully recieved!

 

 

 

Ahh, heck, everybody has some kind of issue.

 

Go with your gut, don't be afraid to express your needs and what you want and establish healthy boundaries. Be truthful. Stringing along involves untruthfulness, even if it is not intentional.

 

Relationships are not based on compromises, but on cooperation. If you feel like compromising, then back off. Otherwise, if it looks like fun, go on the date. Go dutch if you feel better about it.

[willowthewisp]

Ahh, heck, everybody has some kind of issue.

 

Go with your gut, don't be afraid to express your needs and what you want and establish healthy boundaries. Be truthful. Stringing along involves untruthfulness, even if it is not intentional.

 

Relationships are not based on compromises, but on cooperation. If you feel like compromising, then back off. Otherwise, if it looks like fun, go on the date. Go dutch if you feel better about it.

 

I have been very truthful with him! That's why his text upset me so much, I explained that I felt after one date it was too fast to ask me to be exclusive and have a BF GF relationship with him. I literally met him for two hours! Does that not seem a bit rushed? I get back, yeah fine, just don't srting me along!

 

It's done, I've told him I'm walking away, but in a nicer way obviously.

 

*sigh* quite upset, I liked him.

[willowthewisp]

Its back on again, it seems he didn't mean it the way it sounded, so I've decided to give him the benfit of the doubt but I've said I want to slow it right down.

 

Thanks for the help guys, it's so difficult dating again after such a long relationship, talk about out of your depth.

[willowthewisp]

I'm not sure I should still be posting in here on in the dating forum now? I like to post my thoughts here though as it's dating after a 20 year relationship and so the emotions are quite mixed if that makes sense?

 

Well, the other guy finally asked me out again and I thought he had stopped messing me about, so he says drink Saturday night, I say sure what time? He says, oh not sure on the time I'll let you nearer the time.

 

Is this guy playing games? Or is he a complete flake? I actually feel like telling him I don't want to go out with him now. I'm probably overracting but really, how difficult is it to commit to a time for this Saturday night?

 

The other guy and I are still getting on well after our bump in the road last weekend, I'm hoping to see him this week.

 

I'm going to post a bit more soon about how this whole process feels after such a long time being with one person, but its late here, so for now any advice on guy number two would be really appreciated.

[hensley258]

Hi,

 

I'm reaching out again into the void really bc I just don't know what else to do. I'm so down. I just feel so lonely. Even when I'm in company I just feel this emptiness for the relationship I had that was taken from me.

 

I don't know what I'm asking for here, just need some support.....

 

I wish I could get over this, many of the people on here I used to talk to have now gone from LS, guess they have moved on from the pain. Why can't I?

 

I feel just like you. God I am so lonely after my wife abandond the family home for another Man. That was 4 months ago and it hurts just like the day it happened.

 

I walk in this big house and all I hear are the hauntings of my wife asking what to make for dinner as she puts her arms around me. When you think it's forever then how do you get over never again?

 

To me it feels like I am mourning the death of my wife. As if she died and I was left alone because even when I see her she is not the person I knew. Kind of like some body snatcher took her away and all thats left is a void in her where I used to be.

 

I tried to date, but found that I was just trying to use other women to make a fake family that I miss so much. They could sense this and ran like hell of course. I'm thinking perhaps it never really gets better, but rather you eventually just move on and something different happens in your life.

 

I want to stop loving my wife, but my brain wont let me.