Ganderson Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 My girl refuses to go out and having sex with me anymore. Is this a sign that she has some one in her life now or she no longer has feelings for me? Link to post Share on other sites
guest Posted March 11, 2004 Share Posted March 11, 2004 In your other thread, you refer to your relationship as "over" so why would your ex gf continue to have sex with you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ganderson Posted March 11, 2004 Author Share Posted March 11, 2004 I meant prior to the break up. I used the word Ex to make myself believing that it is hopeless between us. G.A. Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 11, 2004 Share Posted March 11, 2004 Ganderson, How old are you two? I'm wondering how this girl is, and if she's young she might regret having started being sexually active or something. I'm afraid I need more information about the nature of your relationship, i.e., how long you had been seeing each other, etc. I'm cloudy on this one. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ganderson Posted March 11, 2004 Author Share Posted March 11, 2004 She is 22 and I am 24 Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 11, 2004 Share Posted March 11, 2004 OK, Ganderson. I didn't know if you two were 15 or 17 or something...you are young adults. I still need to know more about the nature of the relationship to determine what's going on...I would like to be of assistance, but there's not much information to go on Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ganderson Posted March 11, 2004 Author Share Posted March 11, 2004 We have gone out for about a year. For the past two weeks, we have not had sex or gone out , which were pretty unusual. We used to have sex on a daily basis. For the past two weeks. we constanly had arguments on trivial matters and we lost mutual respect of each other. Actually, I was angry that she failed to satisfy my needs. On the other hand, she demanded me to pay part of her rent and car payments even though we do not live together and I have my own car. She might spent her own money on another guy. I ignored her request because I assumed she must slept with other guys to take care of her sexual needs. It was impossible for her to change her sexual habit from getting laid on a daily basis to nonexistence. She told me that I must "prove myself" to her again and I did not deserve sex at the moment. My situation seems to be pretty unique. Can any female give me an insight on her odd behavior? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 11, 2004 Share Posted March 11, 2004 It was impossible for her to change her sexual habit from getting laid on a daily basis to nonexistence That has got to be one of the dumbest things I've ever heard. It isn't even close to impossible. Given your fighting and lack of respect, no wonder she's turned off. Big clue to you - read Carla's sig. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ganderson Posted March 11, 2004 Author Share Posted March 11, 2004 She told me that I have made too many false assumptions and she will not give in to me again until I change my mentally. Maybe I should have trusted her statements that she did not sleep around. I do not know if I still have a chance in this relationship. George Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 11, 2004 Share Posted March 11, 2004 Maybe I should have trusted her statements that she did not sleep around. Um. Yeah. I do not know if I still have a chance in this relationship. Not likely if you keep behaving that way. No 'ventilating'. No fighting. Definitely no assuming she's cheating. Do you really think you can change all that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ganderson Posted March 11, 2004 Author Share Posted March 11, 2004 Now I realize that she is an important person in my life. If she is willing to give me a second chance, I am willing to change. However, I am not gonna beg her to take me back. George Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted March 11, 2004 Share Posted March 11, 2004 It sounds like there are things going on with her that you aren't aware of. I recommend sitting down as often as you can and listening to what she has to say. What she has to say might sound completely nuts to you, and you might never fully understand it, but listen anyway. Something important seems to be bothering her, and I'm sure she isn't taking kindly to the accusations. There are many reasons why someone might suddenly drop interest in intimacy. I prefer to ask what is wrong before jumping to accusations. If you can better understand what is going on perhaps you can be there more for her, and try to help her through some things. This is perhaps how you can "prove yourself" to her. Even if this doesn't work to salvage the relationship, you will know that you did the right thing and I'm sure she won't forget that you tried. If you can try to understand what is going on with her, and listen to her, maybe one day when she thinks you are acting nuts she will do the same for you. In any case it's good practice to start this now. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ganderson Posted March 12, 2004 Author Share Posted March 12, 2004 she told me that she still had some feelings for her ex. This could be the problem. Link to post Share on other sites
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