moimeme Posted March 11, 2004 Share Posted March 11, 2004 We had a poster today who told the tale of having given her SO notice that their relationship was in trouble on several occasions with no resulting change in his behaviour. We have seen numerous posts from men saying 'She told me that X bothered her, but I never paid any attention to her and now she's gone'. If you watch Dr. Phil, you see men on the show whose wives have asked them over and over (and I don't mean nagging; they've tried to discuss, solve, etc.) to do something or stop doing something or change something fairly critcal - and the men never understood that it was an issue until they are sitting on Dr. Phil's stage. Why is this, men? Is it that you think that all women are given to histrionics and so you pay no mind? Is it because you've known a lot of women to bluff on such issues so you figure all women do? What is up with this? Let me add that of course I don't mean ALL men. Link to post Share on other sites
Hannah Posted March 11, 2004 Share Posted March 11, 2004 Woooooo!!!!!!! You go girl !! I think it's about time somebody said it! Link to post Share on other sites
Errol Posted March 11, 2004 Share Posted March 11, 2004 Originally posted by moimeme Re: Why are men so thick? (not a penis post) I don't know. Why are women? Maybe its the same reason. Link to post Share on other sites
quankanne Posted March 11, 2004 Share Posted March 11, 2004 it all boils down to different styles of communication: a woman will talk and rehash and discuss something to the point of possible overkill, but walk away with a handle on the issue when we're done talking. men, I've noticed, prefer to hear it once -- maybe twice if they didn't catch all what was said the first time -- and the issue is settled. Anything else added to that 1-2 conversation is tuned out because it's "nagging," from what my DH has told me. mix those two styles and you've got problems when it comes to communicating. Though to be fair, someone -- was it Tony -- once pointed out that a woman doesn't just make a decision and run with it. When she announces that she's ready to leave her man, it's after a long period of time thinking things through and trying to repair the situation, until she feels it's no longer "fixable." A man is stunned by her revelation because he's at the beginning of that process, whereas she's at the end of it. Hence, the "I had no clue" comment from the person being left. Link to post Share on other sites
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