tlind Posted December 4, 2010 Share Posted December 4, 2010 (edited) For those that have been married or involved in wedding planning - Is it normal to have one or both parents determine who is to be involved in your wedding party? I ask because my best friend of 7+ years is getting married. He told me that I was going to be part of his wedding party, but now he calls me and tells me that I can't be in it because his mom told him that his brother-in-law whom he doesn't get along with has to be apart of his party since he was also in his brother-in-laws party and that there is some family stuff going on and he's now realizing that family need to stick together. He's adamant that he wants me in it instead of his brother-in-law and that nothing is set in stone yet and that he would keep me updated with this. Either way, it's his day and I'm happy for him, but at the same time was a tiny bit hurt because he even considered me for best man awhile ago and now I'm not part of the party...maybe. Is it normal for a parent to determine who should be involved in your wedding party? ...his parents are paying for half of the wedding. He is an avid bull-****ter and likes to hint at things instead of being direct and something in me is saying bulls*** to his explanation as to why, but it's not my right to pry. Also, if nothing is set in stone... Why even bring it up? Should I accept if he does ask me to be or just stick up for myself and politely say no if things change? I've never been involved in weeding planning so I do not know if that is normal practice or not. EDIT: I just noticed that I spelt wedding wrong in the title...my bad! Edited December 4, 2010 by tlind Link to post Share on other sites
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