reallytensed Posted December 4, 2010 Share Posted December 4, 2010 hi, m in relation frm last 4 yrs..in starting everything goes smooth...but wid passage of tym his attitude began to change... he become more of practical sort and now he had very less space for emotions..even most of tym i get irritrate wid his attitude and ask him if nething wrng .. but most of tym our simple disussion turns into a abusive one... he most of tym became abusive and even hit me saying tat m irritrating him by asking such questions....tis hurt me so much and i decide to quit from relation.. but m so much attached to him tat widin a week m back to him n even he realise his mistakes and promised me not to repeat such things..... so finally on his words we both introduce each other in our family... his family agreed for marriage , but in ma family i av ma elder sis to go , tats y ma parents asked boy to wait till ma sis get marry, they make me understnd the thier social prestige and all... i told same to him .. but he said tat he cant wait becz of his family pressure and its only me who av to cnvince ma parents , he cant wait much as he is aving his career and family to look....to discuss same i visited him and again he turned abusive. i was shocked to see his behaviour and was again hurt so much ..widout speakinfg further i left from there. He called me up and again he apologise for his behaviour , asking tat i shud understnd pressure frm his family.. i dnt knw wat to do.. neither he z goin to wait becoz of his family pressure, nor ma parents r understanding and get marry me before maelder sis... each tym i call him he say tat its only i av to mamnage things or be ready to face ne suitation... plzzzzzzz help guys ... to suggest me wat to do .. m really mentallys stressed Link to post Share on other sites
Peppermint11 Posted December 6, 2010 Share Posted December 6, 2010 Once a relationship turns abusive, it is hard to change the patterns of that relationship. Have you talked to him about going to counseling together or talking with a spiritual leader? Your relationship sounds like it has become very unhealthy for both of you and maybe it would be best to move on, if he doesn't agree to counseling, as hard as that may be for you. You don't want to stay in a relationship that is emotionally, physically and mentally unsafe for you. Link to post Share on other sites
impz Posted December 21, 2010 Share Posted December 21, 2010 hi, m in relation frm last 4 yrs..in starting everything goes smooth...but wid passage of tym his attitude began to change... he become more of practical sort and now he had very less space for emotions..even most of tym i get irritrate wid his attitude and ask him if nething wrng .. but most of tym our simple disussion turns into a abusive one... he most of tym became abusive and even hit me saying tat m irritrating him by asking such questions....tis hurt me so much and i decide to quit from relation.. but m so much attached to him tat widin a week m back to him n even he realise his mistakes and promised me not to repeat such things..... so finally on his words we both introduce each other in our family... his family agreed for marriage , but in ma family i av ma elder sis to go , tats y ma parents asked boy to wait till ma sis get marry, they make me understnd the thier social prestige and all... i told same to him .. but he said tat he cant wait becz of his family pressure and its only me who av to cnvince ma parents , he cant wait much as he is aving his career and family to look....to discuss same i visited him and again he turned abusive. i was shocked to see his behaviour and was again hurt so much ..widout speakinfg further i left from there. He called me up and again he apologise for his behaviour , asking tat i shud understnd pressure frm his family.. i dnt knw wat to do.. neither he z goin to wait becoz of his family pressure, nor ma parents r understanding and get marry me before maelder sis... each tym i call him he say tat its only i av to mamnage things or be ready to face ne suitation... plzzzzzzz help guys ... to suggest me wat to do .. m really mentallys stressed Check the bold sections I highlighted. People might disagree with me, but I say that when a relationship has physical or emotional abuse elements in them, it is time to bail out. I feel that physical violence destroys the trust and faith of a relationship, and it will only get worse if you condone it. He's toxic and he has some serious anger management issues. Can you imagine being abused for the rest of your life? Can you enjoy this relationship? Think deeply with your head, not your heart. Link to post Share on other sites
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