LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted March 9, 2011 Share Posted March 9, 2011 I certainly did not mean you. I meant the men who get horny with kids. When a man see a nude body/genitalia any female or girl including his own kids, he gets horny and he gets erections. It is a visual turn on/a natural reaction/instinct for a male. Pedophilia is the most common sexual paraphilia. Doesn't seem that way to me. Seems like you're painting all men as possible child molestors/pedophiles, who can't control themselves. Link to post Share on other sites
alwaysagoodgirl Posted March 9, 2011 Share Posted March 9, 2011 UMMMMMM!!!!!! she is 6?? As a woman who was not protected as a young child ,I am telling you something is not right in this situation. I would not hesitate to ask this YOUNG CHILD why she does this. Did someone show her or tell her about it? Not making it a big deal, get as much info from her as possible.... Playing out of curiosity is not the issue , the fact that she grabs inanimate objects to get off IS A SERIOUS CONCERN. I grew up in a "free" environment. Hearing this really concerns me. Please talk to her. If it's of her own idea to practice this she shouldn't be embarrassed about talking to you . If it's a "secret" then WORRY!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Tres Posted March 9, 2011 Share Posted March 9, 2011 Doesn't seem that way to me. Seems like you're painting all men as possible child molestors/pedophiles, who can't control themselves. You are right. But, because I can not read their thoughts, I would not let my 6 y.o girl to enjoy nude bath with any male:). Link to post Share on other sites
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted March 9, 2011 Share Posted March 9, 2011 You are right. But, because I can not read their thoughts, I would not let my 6 y.o girl to enjoy nude bath with any male:). Neither would I. But I've been clothed - and bathed - my sister's daughters, and they were 5 and 6. Yes, I saw them naked. Yes, I didn't care. And no, it didn't turn me on. If I was naked and in the same bath with them (not saying that I would ever, ever do that, but supposing I did do that), I would not get an erection. THEY'RE KIDS, FOR CHRIST'S SAKE! What normal man gets off to children? Link to post Share on other sites
alwaysagoodgirl Posted March 9, 2011 Share Posted March 9, 2011 As far as this being "normal" ????? When this lil girl starts talking to her schoolmates and the school or other parents get wind of her "normal" behavior..... well, we'll see. If my child came home and said his schoolmate had shared this masterbation fun with him/her, I would be on the phone to that girls parents. Also I would talk to the school about it. Alot of behaviors in our society are considered "normal" doesn't meen it's a good thing. Child protective service should investigate this family!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
kidsfirst Posted March 13, 2011 Share Posted March 13, 2011 My cousin who is now 22, would hold a vibarating monkey to her privates when she was 2 yrs old. I am 7 years older than her and I thought it was very disturbing. However she was never abused, thankfully. She thinks, it was from seeing movies that implied sexual suggestions. Maybe I am to blame I watched Dirty Dancing everyday that summer. So I really hope that she has not been abused, I just wanted to offer hope. Thinking of your family. Link to post Share on other sites
kidsfirst Posted March 13, 2011 Share Posted March 13, 2011 I agree with you. My husband has bathed our children many times and bathed with them even as toddlers. If my husband was a sick child molester, than he would not be their Dad. I know that there are sick men in the world but it's not fair to say that every man that bathes with his toddler or helps to bathe a 6 year old is a pervert. So men should not be able to bathe their kids' thats going to be though on single fathers. Link to post Share on other sites
ILOVEMYHUSBAND Posted March 14, 2011 Share Posted March 14, 2011 I would say go with your gut. Something is telling you to ask questions. Do not stop asking your parents about the situation until you get the answers you need. Ask your step dad why he is still taking baths with his daughter. Listen carefully to your sister. You are smart to investigate this further! Link to post Share on other sites
ILOVEMYHUSBAND Posted March 14, 2011 Share Posted March 14, 2011 I agree with you. My husband has bathed our children many times and bathed with them even as toddlers. If my husband was a sick child molester, than he would not be their Dad. I know that there are sick men in the world but it's not fair to say that every man that bathes with his toddler or helps to bathe a 6 year old is a pervert. So men should not be able to bathe their kids' thats going to be though on single fathers. The idea that it is hard to give a child a bath without bathing with them is just crazy! I am not saying that your husband is a child molester by any means. I just personally think that it is lazy. Link to post Share on other sites
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 The idea that it is hard to give a child a bath without bathing with them is just crazy! I am not saying that your husband is a child molester by any means. I just personally think that it is lazy. I would agree with them. Like I said, I bathed my sister's kids many times, when I baby sat them. I never crawled in the bath with them, although was sopping wet by the time they all got out. My babysitters also never crawled in the bath with me. I can remember an early childhood experience, with my babysitter, and she would sit on the edge of the bath, to assist. But she wanted me to "be a big boy, and do it myself." It's weird for a grown man to get naked and crawl in the bath with kids. Not saying there's anything sexual in it, but...it's weird. Link to post Share on other sites
alwaysagoodgirl Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 Weather or not anything abusive is happening ,this CHILD is being introduced to a belief that it's ok to get naked with grown men. To see their penis. To masterbate. Not that seeing a penis or masterbating is nessasarily wrong, BUT at 6 ? That is wrong. In this society anyway. I asked my husband what he thought. I cannot print the words he used... he was outraged!! The exposure this child is recieving is abuse. IME Link to post Share on other sites
ver13 Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 We all become self aware at different times and masturbation is part of that process period. Link to post Share on other sites
alwaysagoodgirl Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 look at the whole picture in this families behavior. 1 thing alone may not be a concern. But too many red flags here. I hope a school teacher or someone catches on. the lack of active concern for children in this world is disturbing. Adult gratification is all to often is the real objective. Link to post Share on other sites
yessy21 Posted March 15, 2011 Share Posted March 15, 2011 I Dont want to post too much about it. Ive dealt with this when i was a kid. Something is defenitley wrong. its ok to touch,,, but she shouldnt be masturbating that way yet. She has seen... or been touched. Most probrable cause is being touched. and she shouldnt be taking baths with her father. Link to post Share on other sites
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted March 16, 2011 Share Posted March 16, 2011 I agree with that. This is highly inappropriate. Link to post Share on other sites
linwood Posted March 17, 2011 Share Posted March 17, 2011 Gotta love the repressive American psyche. Or not... considering the amount of emotional damage it is responsible for. Masturbation at an early age is perfectly normal, just because you didn`t do it doesn`t mean it`s "wrong". Communal bathing is fairly common worldwide as well without any sexual connotation. MYOB. Link to post Share on other sites
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