numnuts Posted December 5, 2010 Share Posted December 5, 2010 So my girl and I have been together for a while, a long while. She just started working a new job about a month ago and has met some guy that she's become friends with. Now I don't care that she talks to this guy at work, but today I found out that they talk on facebook and apparently sit together every day at work. I confronted her about this, to which she replied "he's just a friend" and then proceeded to get really mad at me for just bringing it up. She and I do film reviews for a website so we get lots of free movie tickets. On her facebook she gave him a ticket to "the tourist" and said she was gonna go see "black swan" that night, then he asked for a ticket to that one instead even though he's already seen it. I found this odd that this guy would skip out on a movie he's never seen for one he already has and it just so happens to be the movie she will be at. My biggest problem with this is that this exact situation has happened before, multiple times. She befriends a boy because they are nice to her, then they become close, I get pissed, she gets mad that I am mad, tells him, he comforts her and tries to make a move. This has happened literally 3 times with three different guys. She's a little slow. And when I point out that this situation is just like before, she says its not. Am I just being clingy? I told her that if the relationship with this guy is really that important to her that I won't say anything, but it really makes me upset. If you wanna know more just ask Link to post Share on other sites
lkjh Posted December 5, 2010 Share Posted December 5, 2010 Shes not slow you are. She knows exactly what she is doing and you have now stuck around for it to happen 4 times. She keeps getting into EA's with men and she has no consequences for her actions. Link to post Share on other sites
imagine Posted December 5, 2010 Share Posted December 5, 2010 I agree with lkjh. Buddy, she needs to feel consequences. Advertise her indiscretion. Confront the OM on his intentions. Identify the problem- Is she trying to get commitment? What is your intention? Link to post Share on other sites
Untouchable_Fire Posted December 5, 2010 Share Posted December 5, 2010 So my girl and I have been together for a while, a long while. She just started working a new job about a month ago and has met some guy that she's become friends with. Now I don't care that she talks to this guy at work, but today I found out that they talk on facebook and apparently sit together every day at work. I confronted her about this, to which she replied "he's just a friend" and then proceeded to get really mad at me for just bringing it up. Sorry guy... but this instantly bad reaction proves that she not only knows what she is doing but is doing it intentionally. I personally think she wants the attention of other guys... and at some point will probably cross the line with it. Luckily you have not been very permissive... but if you continue to allow her to do this... you are heading for a world of hurt. Do you know... there are some women who you don't have to constantly police? Yeah... it's true! Ever think you might be happier with one of those types? Link to post Share on other sites
hoping2heal Posted December 5, 2010 Share Posted December 5, 2010 So my girl and I have been together for a while, a long while. She just started working a new job about a month ago and has met some guy that she's become friends with. Now I don't care that she talks to this guy at work, but today I found out that they talk on facebook and apparently sit together every day at work. I confronted her about this, to which she replied "he's just a friend" and then proceeded to get really mad at me for just bringing it up. She and I do film reviews for a website so we get lots of free movie tickets. On her facebook she gave him a ticket to "the tourist" and said she was gonna go see "black swan" that night, then he asked for a ticket to that one instead even though he's already seen it. I found this odd that this guy would skip out on a movie he's never seen for one he already has and it just so happens to be the movie she will be at. My biggest problem with this is that this exact situation has happened before, multiple times. She befriends a boy because they are nice to her, then they become close, I get pissed, she gets mad that I am mad, tells him, he comforts her and tries to make a move. This has happened literally 3 times with three different guys. She's a little slow. And when I point out that this situation is just like before, she says its not. Am I just being clingy? I told her that if the relationship with this guy is really that important to her that I won't say anything, but it really makes me upset. If you wanna know more just ask Is a home-girl a vegetable or what? This has happened 3 times and she doesn't get it yet? Okay, this is what we call a "lose-lose" scenario. If she does know, then she's just being shady. I mean, talking at work is one thing. Going to the movies together? Uhm, hullo??! On the other hand, if she DOESN'T get it..especially after 3 previous times of this happening (let alone does not understand why you would be upset!!) then she's a freaking moron and I'd question dating her at all based on her severely lacking aptitudes. It would be time to pack her flash cards and send her on the short bus. There is not a lot of wiggle room here, know what I mean? Although, okay I can say I really did meet a girl once so stupid that it could be possible yours does not get it. I think she really does. Link to post Share on other sites
wicar1 Posted December 5, 2010 Share Posted December 5, 2010 So my girl and I have been together for a while, a long while. Time for you to leave her !!!... Link to post Share on other sites
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