Why Not?

[phillygirl]

 

My reply.......Please Stop Emailing Me.

Followed with my blocking his email address.

 

 

now, you can begin to move on. trust me, he will not sit and cry over you blocking him. he'll most likely go find someone else to "play with."

 

you deserve more. and you are NOT required to have your emotions tied up waiting for some OTHER WOMAN'S HUSBAND. their marital issues are theirs; and will be theirs with our without you.

 

be well.

[Dexter Morgan]

Thought you'd all enjoy the latest installment of emails. Since this thread isn't about the initial question anymore.

 

everything posted has always been about your initial question which is, why is it wrong to stay friends with the xOM/OW....and everything that everyone pointed out about you is an explanation of why it is wrong.

 

kudos to telling him to stop emailing and blocking his email, if you did in fact do that.

 

by the way, HOW did you block his email?

[Hazyhead]

CiK, I know you've done everything your husband has asked of you in the past, but this is not the first time you've posted about xOM's continued contact, therefore you haven't yet truly moved on from the affair, not fully anyway. Now that you've blocked him, however, he's gone... done, and now you can totally move to forget about him. He won't (hopefully) crop up again. As for your husband, you've taken a little step further than he asked of you and this can only be a good thing. Sure, he may not have asked you before now to take complete NC, but now that you have it can only serve to further support your love for your husband. You need to be showing you're doing whatever necessary for the sake of your marriage, and blocking xOM is a part of that, I believe. Well done. I hope he vanishes from your life.

[confusedinkansas]

Dex...Such a Doubting Thomas....LOL

I went to the list on the back end of my Settings on the email account & added his email address to Blocked....... I know you're shocked by this.....LOL As I mentioned before I'd love nothing more than to just close out the account (I've spent countless hours & emails to the carrier to find out if there's another way to go about it) so every email that goes there would bounce back to the original sender......But since it's an old account I can't remember the secret whatever in order to close it out completely.

 

Hazy - you're right this isn't the first time I posted about this issue. (Technically I didn't post about it this time...Just kind of took on a life of its own Off Topic)

I have in the past asked for other opinions & WWYD's. On this subject....I always intended to do whatever my husband wanted me to. It really isn't so horrible to post here for other opinions even if you already know the answer or already know what your plan is.

 

So, even though I knew the answer to my question, I still wondered if there were others out there that successfully have remained friends/aquaintences with their EX affair partners.

 

Philly girl - I'd already moved on. Did that years ago. Didn't take this action to do that. This occasional thorn in my side.....That I don't initiate is the only blip on the radar as far as the EX goes. Ironically when he first started doing this it irritated me, now I just kinda feel sorry for him. He must not have much other entertainment in his life. Not it doesn't phase me.

 

Things in my marriage couldn't be better!! Hubby's great! Going to be a very exciting year!

[Distant78]

Dex...Such a Doubting Thomas....LOL

I went to the list on the back end of my Settings on the email account & added his email address to Blocked....... I know you're shocked by this.....LOL As I mentioned before I'd love nothing more than to just close out the account (I've spent countless hours & emails to the carrier to find out if there's another way to go about it) so every email that goes there would bounce back to the original sender......But since it's an old account I can't remember the secret whatever in order to close it out completely.

 

Hazy - you're right this isn't the first time I posted about this issue. (Technically I didn't post about it this time...Just kind of took on a life of its own Off Topic)

I have in the past asked for other opinions & WWYD's. On this subject....I always intended to do whatever my husband wanted me to. It really isn't so horrible to post here for other opinions even if you already know the answer or already know what your plan is.

 

So, even though I knew the answer to my question, I still wondered if there were others out there that successfully have remained friends/aquaintences with their EX affair partners.

 

Philly girl - I'd already moved on. Did that years ago. Didn't take this action to do that. This occasional thorn in my side.....That I don't initiate is the only blip on the radar as far as the EX goes. Ironically when he first started doing this it irritated me, now I just kinda feel sorry for him. He must not have much other entertainment in his life. Not it doesn't phase me.

 

Things in my marriage couldn't be better!! Hubby's great! Going to be a very exciting year!

 

This year is almost over so how is it going to be exciting?

[confusedinkansas]

....because the year is almost over I was referring to 2011:)

[Distant78]

....because the year is almost over I was referring to 2011:)

 

Good.