Ways to come across more "rugged"?

[mike1988]

It seems that older women, whom I've had better luck with dating and being intimate with almost 3-1, often say I am "masculine" and "rugged" and a "bad boy" but the girls my age and the girls I find much more desirable often see me as "nice" and a "big brother-type" and "not a bad boy". They see the guys with shaved heads, tattoos and piercings as "hot".

 

So, a few questions.

 

#1. Do older women (let's say 30-40 years old and above) see "bad boys and masculinity in a different light than younger women (let's say 18-29 years old) do?

 

#2. How can I come across more rugged and bad boy-ish?

 

It's pretty sad when someone strong, tall, outgoing and with Military experience like me can come across "soft" while a guy who is a high school dropout, chunky and 5'4 can come across "bad".

 

This is me:

http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs1121.snc4/148351_10150321612575061_503070060_15972878_709199_n.jpg

[laRubiaBonita]

why not just be yourself and let women percieve you as they will?

 

at the end of the day no matter who or how you try to come across will boil down to you being you.

 

if some woman cannot like you for you- then why waste your time trying to be something or someone you are not?

 

ps- a womans view can change and vary depending on circumstances; mood; heck even the season.

[cdrqueen8]

start rugged act and rugged look

[michaelk]

Maybe younger women don't respond to you because they sense your lack of self-confidence. You're busy worrying about whether you're coming across rugged or not, and they'll pick up on it. It might also explain why older women like you - perhaps they find your boyish nervousness appealing!

 

You'd be better off relaxing and, as laRubiaBonita suggests, being yourself. When you can be you and be okay with yourself, women pick up on that, too. In a good way!

[Nightsky]

You probably care less about older women. You need to relax around the attractive girls.

[hekudavid]

It seems that older women, whom I've had better luck with dating and being intimate with almost 3-1, often say I am "masculine" and "rugged" and a "bad boy" but the girls my age and the girls I find much more desirable often see me as "nice" and a "big brother-type" and "not a bad boy". They see the guys with shaved heads, tattoos and piercings as "hot".

 

So, a few questions.

 

#1. Do older women (let's say 30-40 years old and above) see "bad boys and masculinity in a different light than younger women (let's say 18-29 years old) do?

 

#2. How can I come across more rugged and bad boy-ish?

 

It's pretty sad when someone strong, tall, outgoing and with Military experience like me can come across "soft" while a guy who is a high school dropout, chunky and 5'4 can come across "bad".

 

This is me:

http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs1121.snc4/148351_10150321612575061_503070060_15972878_709199_n.jpg

Are you okay ? strange..lol

[xpaperxcutx]

Lol rugged? To me, men like Hugh Jackman and Gerard Bulter are rugged. You just don't have that unkempt look to ya.

[Art_Critic]

Get a tattoo of a skull and crossbones on your arm.. that should do it...

 

As far as changing your persona.. that takes more than just a change of dress..

Why would you want to be someone who your are not ?

[Feelin Frisky]

...

#1. Do older women (let's say 30-40 years old and above) see "bad boys and masculinity in a different light than younger women (let's say 18-29 years old) do?

 

#2. How can I come across more rugged and bad boy-ish?

 

 

Question #1 rocks. I'm so glad you asked it. Yes, older women see things differently than younger ones very often. Young girls who like the tat dude bad boy are still going through their own adolescent reckoning with authority. Let's face it, kids don't like having been mandated into school and conformity for all their formative years. So, they rebel as soon as they get some taste of mobility and freedom. It's natural for girls to admire guys who embody the finger to authority.

 

Older women have learned what time it is about life a bit more and have started to value substance in a man (or potential in a young man). They still like the spirit of the maverick man but if they have learned what's good for them, they don't assume a man's adornments means anything more than his own cry for attention.

 

The answer to number two is to just accept that this is how it is and be an man of substance. The young women of substance will be looking for YOU. I know. We all want to fu_k them all--especially those young and gorgeous glory holes, but a what price? Tattoos? Earrings? Nah, I always thought to be bigger than that. I heard a woman on a subway train once turn to her friend after looking at me in my smart suit and hair cut and say "now that's the way a man SHOULD look". That was uplifting to say the least. I don't think I would have gotten that if a had a rivet through my tongue and love and hate tattooed on my fingers. I'm confident that my eyes and dimples have enough power. Growing up is good.

Edited December 16, 2010 by Feelin Frisky

[skydiveaddict]

aw hell, you look plenty rugged. don't worry about it

[Gold Pile]

2. How can I come across more rugged and bad boy-ish?

When out for dinner, order your milk in a dirty glass

[cdrqueen8]

Get a tattoo of a skull and crossbones on your arm.. that should do it...

 

As far as changing your persona.. that takes more than just a change of dress..

Why would you want to be someone who your are not ?

 

 

 

love ths!!!! yes Art_critic is correct.. get a lot of tattoos!!!!!

[that girl]

I'm guessing there is a different type of younger woman you are going for than older women.

 

Considering piercings and tattoos a requirement isn't exactly the norm.

 

Older women have learned what time it is about life a bit more and have started to value substance in a man (or potential in a young man). They still like the spirit of the maverick man but if they have learned what's good for them, they don't assume a man's adornments means anything more than his own cry for attention.

This doesn't really seem to match with the OP's experience because it seems like he is having casual sex with 40 year old women. 40 year old women having casual sex with 22 year olds aren't lloking for substance, they're looking for a piece of ass.

[cdrqueen8]

I'm guessing there is a different type of younger woman you are going for than older women.

 

Considering piercings and tattoos a requirement isn't exactly the norm.

 

 

This doesn't really seem to match with the OP's experience because it seems like he is having casual sex with 40 year old women. 40 year old women having casual sex with 22 year olds aren't lloking for substance, they're looking for a piece of ass.

 

Correct! so true..

[Feelin Frisky]

...This doesn't really seem to match with the OP's experience because it seems like he is having casual sex with 40 year old women. 40 year old women having casual sex with 22 year olds aren't lloking for substance, they're looking for a piece of ass.

 

Well, if ya wanna stick to the letter of the post, you're right. But just because this fella has nailed a couple of cougars doesn't provide grounds to summarily dismiss the assertion I made in my own separate post. I have been where he is in other regards--been a young guy wondering what's what with young girls my age and a guy who seemed to attract older women all the way through my 40s. I wasn't hypothesizing about something I haven't experienced. I'm SURE that somewhere in this whole topic are older women who learn the lessons of youth and as they mature start leaning toward men for their other qualities than for their apparent brashness. If I'm wrong about that then what would be your counter? Women who are young and fall for the bad boy stereo-type are somehow forced to remain agog at the sight of guys put on the bad boy front forever?