Texting Ex for xmas and new year?

[andrew23]

My (ex) girlfriend and i have been on a "break" for 6 weeks..initiated by her. So now i am doing NC.

I still love here (and desperately want her back in my life), and we never had a blow up argument. I believe the ball is in her court, but what about christmas and New Years? Should I text her something sweet (not desperate) if so what?

Any suggestions?

[fiat500]

No. Do NOT Text her. It will not work in your favor if you do. It will be hard but don't do it. If she initiated the break up you have to give her space and disappear.

[andrew23]

ok but i guess she might text something like

"merry christmas my darling. thinking of you, and hope youre ok"

or

"Happy new year baby.. Miss you"

or

whatever.

 

What does one do? cold reply? Want to keep the door open and not think i am bitter or sour

[fiat500]

I still wouldn't reply. She wouldn't think you're bitter or sour. If she really missed you she would call instead of text.

[fiat500]

Unfortunately, you can't keep the door open. Your exes won't respect you if you do that.

[andrew23]

Guess thats one problem with no contact... if you are consistent, she might think you are bitter..

Perhaps one can send something cool and off beat. Women LOVE trying to read between the lines.... perhaps something they need to start analyzing but cant get a conclusion on.

[fiat500]

No, it really doesn't work like that. They won't think you're bitter. If you send her happy or offbeat texts she won't value you anymore and see you as kind of pathetic. I'm a woman. Trust me.

[fiat500]

Also if she initiated the "break" which is really a break up you need to leave her alone. Sending what you think are cute messages will be seen by her as either creepy or pathetic. You don't want her to see you as that obviously.

[Andymack]

No, it really doesn't work like that. They won't think you're bitter. If you send her happy or offbeat texts she won't value you anymore and see you as kind of pathetic. I'm a woman. Trust me.

 

Does this only count on a break or on all post break up texts as i think i might have been guilty of this when contacting her as I was told you want to show your ex that you're not down in the dumps about the break up? I was just sending kind of jokey texts as that was what we always did together but it didn't always seem to go down too well.

[DustySaltus]

ok but i guess she might text something like

"merry christmas my darling. thinking of you, and hope youre ok"

or

"Happy new year baby.. Miss you"

or

whatever.

 

What does one do? cold reply? Want to keep the door open and not think i am bitter or sour

 

All of these texts mean the same thing.....give ME attention. Don't do it. Would you still show up to work after you got fired? No.

[fiat500]

Does this only count on a break or on all post break up texts as i think i might have been guilty of this when contacting her as I was told you want to show your ex that you're not down in the dumps about the break up? I was just sending kind of jokey texts as that was what we always did together but it didn't always seem to go down too well.

 

 

Sadly, yes :\ It counts for breaks and post break ups.

[Andymack]

That might explain a bit then. If you do have to text (ie get stuff back etc) what sort of tone should you use?

[Damaged23]

You should not text for any reason. If your ex has things you need, ask a friend to go pick them up.

[Leandro]

All of these texts mean the same thing.....give ME attention. Don't do it. Would you still show up to work after you got fired? No.

Listen to Dusty! He's been here for a while.

 

I don't think you should send her anything. Try not to hope on any message from her that day. She doesn't have to send you anything now.