dumpling81 Posted December 9, 2010 Share Posted December 9, 2010 Hi i'm new here and thought i would post my situation to hear some views/opinions. i've been in a relationship for 13 yrs (14 nxt yr). i met my current bf when i was 17. during this time we've had 2 kids,i've suffered domestic violence throughout,bf has cheated for various reasons with several women. i've always been faithful.i've also tried to leave the relationship but have always ended up giving in and now feel like i've made my bed so must lay in it. about 5 yrs ago i discovered social networking and made several 'friends' through this. i began a close friendship with a man and we exchanged contact details. he's had an on-off relationship with his gf. we met up for the first time in 2008 and had a great evening ending with a kiss.we kept in touch and met up again the following yr where we had sex for the first time. on these occassions he was single but i wasn't. he got back with his gf last yr but still made it clear he was up for meeting up for 'fun' and we have done on several occassions with regular phone contact. we like each other but see things for what they are.basically we are friends and **** buddies.we have no intention of making things complicated by starting an emotional relationship.we are both young (he's 27,i'm 29) and having fun. i love seeing him and talking to him.he makes me feel good even if i'm having problems and i now have this 'what the hell' attitude after the yrs of crap i put up with in my past. also i feel like i'm missing out on different experiences from settling down so young and am happy to have found someone on the same page to share them with i just wanted your opinions on what i'm doing and if anyone else is in the same situation. thanks for reading Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden Posted December 9, 2010 Share Posted December 9, 2010 having an affair with someone who is attached to a GF is deceitful and underhand. The state of their relationship is not your business and shouldn't be a factor. He's with someone else, and in whichever way their relationship is functioning - he's cheating on her. With you. And that's just not on. You need to leave your abusive partner. Nobody has to put up with this. What will it take for you to consider leaving him? You in a coma? His starting out on the kids? No, draw a line in the sand, NOW, and kick him out. Then find someone who'#s there for you, and you alone. Why always compromise and be an option, instead of the best choice? Link to post Share on other sites
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