zoro Posted March 13, 2004 Share Posted March 13, 2004 As I mentioned in a previous topic I'm in the proccess of getting my ex back For those of you that tried and succeded in winning back your EX, what did it? Did anyone go through extremes? What actions did you take to get her/him back? Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted March 13, 2004 Share Posted March 13, 2004 I have not yet succeeded. However, most people that I know told me their ex went back to them(it was too late though.) They did NOTHING! No contact. No talking. No updates. Nothing! Live your life and see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
look forward Posted March 14, 2004 Share Posted March 14, 2004 No contact its the best possible chance you have... but get on with your life its too short to waste by sitting by phone..if its meant to be it will happen if not then you will meet someone who is equally as special as you are... Link to post Share on other sites
NatoPMT Posted March 15, 2004 Share Posted March 15, 2004 when my ex & i finished, he said he hoped wed get back together, i was left absolutely broken and his philosophy of we needed to get over each other and 'rediscover' each other was the only way it would work out. what an absolute load of tripe. i tried everything i could, being friends, staying in contact, breaking contact, going over everything over and over again together. then 4 months later i got a letter from him saying he couldnt live without me and he still loved me and had never stopped, despite trying to forget me - he couldnt. the problem? i didnt want to be with him anymore. my friends and i seem to agree in general - they dont come back until you are over them, if they come back at all. and you actually have to be over it. pretending doesnt work - that falls under the 'trying everything you can' category. which is also where you leave your self respect obviously there are exceptions. so few they hardly even deserve a mention. Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 15, 2004 Share Posted March 15, 2004 i tried everything i could, being friends, staying in contact, breaking contact, going over everything over and over again together. then 4 months later i got a letter from him saying he couldnt live without me and he still loved me and had never stopped, despite trying to forget me - he couldnt. the problem? i didnt want to be with him anymore. I think A LOT of this has to do with people want desperately what they cannot have. Your ex came back when he saw that you could manage without him, because you had gotten over him. All these mind games, <sigh> Link to post Share on other sites
NatoPMT Posted March 15, 2004 Share Posted March 15, 2004 possibly - and what a nightmare way of things being if thats true - its awful to think. once id realised that i didnt want someone who didnt want me, it was easy to get over. easier than i ever realised it could be. and i stopped myself desperately wanting what i couldnt have, it took a lot of soul searching, but i managed it. dont know what your story is fedup, but dont give control to someone else - your life is your own to control. and if someone doesnt want you because they CAN have you, they dont deserve you Link to post Share on other sites
Mollyanna Posted March 15, 2004 Share Posted March 15, 2004 well i don't think continuing a sexual relationship is the ticket... i am finding that out the hard way. And talking to him on the phone every single day isn't working either. I am starting to wonder if we are broken up or what?? I think I am just holding on for dear life because I don't want to lose him. Link to post Share on other sites
NatoPMT Posted March 22, 2004 Share Posted March 22, 2004 fedup - could be a number of reasons why someone comes back to you, in some cases its they want what they cant have - i imagine its usually because they realise theres no-one better out there, and if either are the case - i wouldnt want to be back with that person in a million years. id like to say he came back just because he loved me, but he didnt love me enough to stay in the first place - i could find out more why he wanted to come back, but its a futile exercise as i dont want to know. Link to post Share on other sites
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