...Possible Reconciliation

[Littledeer23]

Me and my ex but still current wife split back in late April. We had a son together and talked off and on trying to be cordial during this split. Now I've had thoughts that maybe she's been seeing somebody else during the split which she denied the couple times I asked. Now fast forward to Saturday night of Thanksgiving weekend I asked her if she could come by and hangout with me seeing how I was home alone and she agreed to it which was a shocker. Reason I say shocker is because any other time I asked her that she quickly shot down but for that entire week she was telling me that she still loved me so thats when I took it upon myself to have that one on one with her. She ended up spending the night and that was that as far as me getting some time with her.

 

Now the recent weekend she was basically living with me for the weekend. Ok usually in the past we had an ackwardness feeling being around each other but this time was different. We were clicking and joking around with all the good stuff along that. We even went as far as making plans for us to Christmas for each other. The weekend went well I had expectations of me and her making it work again. We were telling each other that we love each other and holding hands and etc.

 

This is where it takes a turn. She wanted a little space seeing how we spent the entire weekend together which I agreed too. So that Tuesday night I was texting her and she was acting like she didn't want to talk to me. So I asked if I could meet and talk to her. She said ok and that it would tomorrow night. Then I asked if there was somebody else as to why she was all of a sudden acting different. She told me to stop with the insinuating.

 

The night we are suppose to meet up and talk which is the following. We meet up. Everything is going ok like the weekend she stayed with me. Expect we just had a good chat. She needed somethings from my place so I took her and on the way there good conversation going, got what she wanted then took her back to her car. On the way back we were plotting out what we were gonna do for our Christmas shopping and settled that. After I dropped her off I went home with a good feeling in my gut. When I got home I looked at my phone and saw a text message. The message said, "When you asked if there was somebody else you were right." My heart sank after I read that.

 

But what I want to get figured out is why did she spend the time with me? She told me that she is having a fallout with this person but makes it sound like they're still together just on the end of the stick though. She admitted she wants to get back with me but wants time to clear things. I mean we made arrangements and things of that nature but I didn't know the status of her relationship. I feel she is going back and forth.

[PegNosePete]

You're the backup plan dude. You're the emotional tampon. You are the safe option that she is keeping on the back burner in case things don't work out with her new guy.

[Littledeer23]

That would make sense. There's a little more to the story. She told me that she had told her mom and sister that she and I were possibly in the works again. IDK if that would do any justice for me.

[PegNosePete]

She is throwing you crumbs from her table to keep you interested, in case her new guy doesn't work out.

[Littledeer23]

Ok by her sleeping with me was that her way of just giving me her "crumbs"? I do but I don't completely understand the motive behind why she would sleep with me if she is in a relationship. She mentioned to me the night she broke the news to me about her being involved with somebody that she is starting to lose feelings for the person.

[love me]

why did yall split? maybe shes afraid of goin back into the same relationship. She probably does love you and wants to be with you. You two have a bond- marriage and child.