dreamingoftigers Posted January 1, 2011 Share Posted January 1, 2011 Um no, it isn't about power, it's about landing a better quality woman. Lol, wtf? What's hard to understand about that? I personally view a man with fewer partners to be one of potentially better quality (although he may just be lazy). I do not understand why in general men think that they should be able to get as many as they desire but that it doesn't work the other way around. Link to post Share on other sites
yessy21 Posted January 1, 2011 Share Posted January 1, 2011 Im sorry to say this but for sure she is going to cheat on u. theres no "might" she is. and dont be shocked... Link to post Share on other sites
NoLongerSad Posted January 2, 2011 Share Posted January 2, 2011 I only found out about his prolific count once we'd been together for nearly 2 years. I hardly think therefore, that was me seeking a male player. Surely you must have had some idea of his sexual proficiency and experience. It sounds like you didn't ask him because you didn't want to know the answer, or perhaps because you didn't want to have to reciprocate. "Don't ask, don't tell." It never occurred to me to ask him, it was none of my business what he got up to sexually, before he met me. Of course it's your business if you're going to be in a serious LTR with a person. Unless of course you feel uncomfortable sharing your own information, that is. Once it came out in conversation, it still didn't affect me. After so long, that would have been hypocrisy anyway. You've chosen to decide that you won't let it affect you. That doesn't mean his past doesn't affect you. If he had a different past, he'd be a different person, and would relate to you differently. Therefore his past affects you, whether you want to admit that or not. I'm not clear on why you and others believe that willful ignorance about a partner's past is better than knowledge. neither does it mean he should be. If someone has been promiscuous in the past, that is very likely to have a potential impact in future relationships. Pretending that it doesn't, doesn't change reality. Link to post Share on other sites
NoLongerSad Posted January 2, 2011 Share Posted January 2, 2011 Im sorry to say this but for sure she is going to cheat on u. theres no "might" she is. and dont be shocked... Of course everyone is well aware of this likelihood, except those who identify with the woman in question wish to shame OP into disregarding his legitimate concerns. Link to post Share on other sites
lamaman3 Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 Back in the day, women were something very special to us. The last good thing in this violent, screwed up world. As kids, we eventually learned there was no Santa Claus. That one hurt. Then along the way we discovered our politicians were liars, corporations were corrupt and our sports heroes were actually cheaters. Disappointment after disappointment. But no matter how big the letdown, we still had women. That cute girl in our 6th period math class. So beautiful, innocent and and PURE. Put on this earth just to love us and tell us everything was going to be okay. To give us a hug when we needed it. Plus, we were told there was one for each of us. Our very own slave. Of course, we tried to keep them down anyway we could. We claimed we were doing it for their safety, but we were really just scared if they got power she would leave us. We didn't want to give women the vote or a fair wage. We forced her to cover up and keep quiet. Well take a look around and it's obvious today that women no longer want to be our saviors. To be our purity is this world of madness. Women want what men want. Hell, what we all want. Pleasure. Fun. To get really drunk. To sleep with a stranger. To make mistakes - lots of them. To be BAD. Really bad. Women don't care about our stupid little fantasy. The truth is we didn't want women to be our equals because we never wanted women to be like us. women were different. women were special. And we were flawed. We were guilty. Sinners. So congratulations, women are now exactly like us. But you have to make peace with your ANGER. You need to forgive. It's time. Because after all, women are human beings just like us. We are all just trying our best on this big rock in the middle of space. The deal had always been the fantasy for her comfort and convenience. Pure affection for your providing. But the world and the rules have changed. There are no more fantasies. All that's left is the option to love yourself. And once you truly love yourself you will be able to be affectionate with women and not expect them to adhere to some unrealistic code of behavior. I think 2 of the biggest issues men face in their relationships with women are neediness and unresolved anger. It's clear the average guy is NEEDY for female affection while the wannabe "BAD BOY" (I don't need no ****ing girlfriend) types are still ANGRY at women. Can you release your ANGER and be affectionate again? And when you give her affection can you do so without being NEEDY? When you can, you will have mastered the game. Best Regards Link to post Share on other sites
lino Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 Allow me.... what I think he meant was that typically, women seek out and admire male "players" as partners. As long as women keep rewarding male players, there will continue to be a "double standard." That does not mean however, that a male should not be repulsed by the prospect of having a female "player" as a relationship partner. That's pretty much it. There is no double standard at all. Link to post Share on other sites
Woggle Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 That's pretty much it. There is no double standard at all. Exactly. Women should not blame men because we don't value being a player as a positive trait in a partner like some of them do. Link to post Share on other sites
Goodstuff Posted January 11, 2011 Share Posted January 11, 2011 If shes been faithful up until now then go ahead and trust her....with your guard up of course. Hope for the best, expect the worse. If she screws up, chalk it up to experience and move on. Simple as that Link to post Share on other sites
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