same mistake

[Britney23]

I feel like I am in a pattern of choosing guys that end up not loving me as much as I love them. It makes me feel like there is something wrong with me and I am doing something wrong but I do not know what. Every single guy that I have ever liked or loved hasn't felt the same way about me in the end.

 

I just came out of an almost 3 year relationship where I was so blinded by love that its only in retrospect that I can see that the relationship was so one-sided and I was putting in all the effort basically. He would promise me he would change or reassure me that he did love me and wanted to be with me "that i just needed to change my too high expectations" and I got sucked in and gave him chance after chance when I should've just realised a looOong time ago that actions speak louder than words. Why do they stay with me and tell me everything I want to hear when their actions indicate that they would much rather be single? Why can't they just be real with me and break up with me rather than wait until i reach an all time low and finally wake up and break up with them?

 

In the begining when we first met (like every guy I've been in a relationship with) he was the one head over heels for me. I wasn't even that attracted to him and could love him or leave him. I decided to love him (I guess physical intimacy really does cloud ones judgment) and then as soon as he knew I was emotionally attached and had him up on a pedestal he started to treat me as a very low priority in his life - after friends no matter how close of a friend they were, xbox, snowboarding, etc. and this has happened with every guyi have liked/loved.

 

Why cannot I get a good guy? Is it that I just haven't met the right person yet or am I doing something wrong?