Chi townD Posted December 14, 2010 Share Posted December 14, 2010 Well, just my opinion....but she probably UNAWARE that you saw the pics of her being a lying and cheating skank. She probably still believes that you are under the DELUSION that you were a good couple that "just didn't work out". Therefore, she's probably mad that you didn't say happy birthday to her, because even though you two are not dating anymore, you guys should be "such good friends." Link to post Share on other sites
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 14, 2010 Share Posted December 14, 2010 dude she is MAD that you didn't send her a bday wish .that's it,no 2 or 3 <it's 1 1 1 1 1 1 she must be really pissed if she deleted your friends too,haha silly little girls Link to post Share on other sites
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 14, 2010 Share Posted December 14, 2010 uuhhhh,look mommy ,he didn't send me a bday wish ,uuuuhhh,of of of ,i'm so angry i'll delete him and his friends from facebook,yeeeeeyyy,i feel so good now,yyyeeeeeyy,now let's have some cake Link to post Share on other sites
Author suddendumpee Posted December 14, 2010 Author Share Posted December 14, 2010 Maybe, but she's a time zone behind, so there was still time for a bday wish. Also, such good friends? We haven't spoken in a month! I really think she is just ensuring that her tracks are covered, as she knows eventually she would have some explaining to do. Damn! Now I want to send a message even more letting her know its to late to cover her tracks because she was already BUSTED haha. Link to post Share on other sites
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 14, 2010 Share Posted December 14, 2010 "such good friends" he used """""" don't you get it? Link to post Share on other sites
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 14, 2010 Share Posted December 14, 2010 man ,you really are something let me tell you. maybe her laptop fell in the toilet and deleted you and your friends from facebook by itself. that's kind of logic you are using,just think about it for a sec Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted December 14, 2010 Share Posted December 14, 2010 and you never had a knee jerk reaction. Link to post Share on other sites
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 14, 2010 Share Posted December 14, 2010 not having a knee is ok if you have shoes to walk on your butt:) Link to post Share on other sites
Author suddendumpee Posted December 14, 2010 Author Share Posted December 14, 2010 "such good friends" he used """""" don't you get it? I get it. What I meant was that there's no way she would think we're still "good friends" thereby being hurt that she didn't get a b-day wish, when we haven't spoken in a month. I think she is being VERY CAREFUL that I don't find out the truth from her lies because a) we have to work together and b) nobody wants to be busted as a liar. I think this has little to do with my lack of a b-day wish and everything to do with her making sure that I NEVER find out the truth of her lies...I'm sure the stress of her having to monitor every FB post regarding her and her new man was just too much for her to handle. Link to post Share on other sites
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 14, 2010 Share Posted December 14, 2010 believe whatever you want my friend. why are you here then?why why why? you seem to know everything and have it under control i'm telling you,she is pisssssed <and that's that Link to post Share on other sites
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 14, 2010 Share Posted December 14, 2010 i'll stop replying to you if you don't listen to me and do as i say,lol Link to post Share on other sites
Movingthrough Posted December 15, 2010 Share Posted December 15, 2010 (edited) Good thread, a lot of questions answered here. This is a little like my post and I know what you are feeling. My ex also was right into a relationship after me, and to be honest who knows if it was during me too. As far as the email, I would send it, but it has to be for a sense of closure and not really to prove anything besides "Hey I know". You arent any less of a man by calling her out, she is trying to hide it, you found out, call her on it why not. It's not really making her feel like **** its just kind of like seriously did you think that was ok? The night before I went NC it had been days before I heard from my ex. She messaged me with some stupid message and a picture, I responded with I cant do this anymore and I want someone that wants me (we were broken up for months, started talking again but she was with someone else and kind of stringing me along). She got pissed and basically said that I wanted everything to just all of a sudden go back to normal in one second. She said good luck all pissed off and that was it. The next day I wrote her an email that was very mature and to the point. I said I didnt want this situation like it was, I wanted someone who wanted me and if she has a boyfriend then there is nothing we can do. I ended it with you know how I feel and thanks for showing me what its like. Been NC ever since. But everyday I do think of her and can honestly say I miss the hell out of her. The flip side is you are in a good place now, she is pissed you didnt give her attention on her Bday which is awesome because you are in control now. I'm not going to lie, I would have to let her know that I knew but you are in a good position now. Not to hijack this thread but I feel like everyone in this situation is dealing with a girl (for us guys) that was all about "not being like that" but ended up doing it in the long run. I'm starting to think that the reality is if you are with someone, and someone else comes along that "does it" for you more,no matter what you have said, then as humans we will go to that. There are so many threads on here about this, thats what I'm starting to think. Edited December 15, 2010 by Movingthrough Link to post Share on other sites
Author suddendumpee Posted December 15, 2010 Author Share Posted December 15, 2010 i'll stop replying to you if you don't listen to me and do as i say,lol Haha. I've enjoyed your input, but we'll just have to agree to disagree on this one. If it was just to get a reaction, or a response to the no bday wishes, she would have only removed me. Her removal of EVERYONE who could report back to me wreaks of someone doing everything to hide their tracks. I should also mention that when my ex-ex deleted me, my ex laughed at it and called it "very immature", so I know her pride would not allow her to due this UNLESS her pride itself was at stake... Link to post Share on other sites
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 15, 2010 Share Posted December 15, 2010 ok fine. tell me why she removed everybody today? where's the rush? Link to post Share on other sites
Author suddendumpee Posted December 15, 2010 Author Share Posted December 15, 2010 Because today was her b-day. I'm assuming her new man, or one of his friends posted something that blew her cover...so she removed everyone to cover her tracks vs. deleting the post and causing suspicion with the new guy. A simple "Happy Birthday baby. Miss you." is all it would take. BTW, I should be able to verify this....more to come Link to post Share on other sites
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 15, 2010 Share Posted December 15, 2010 ok,so that might make sense but i know why she did it anyway.i'll add myself to her facebook and ask her myself so we have this dilemma cleared once and for all Link to post Share on other sites
Author suddendumpee Posted December 15, 2010 Author Share Posted December 15, 2010 By the way, I'm interested as to why this thread is getting so much attention...1400+ views in 1 day? Are a lot of people going through the same thing and relating to this? Or is my story so cold/heartless that people are enjoying watching the train wreck haha Link to post Share on other sites
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 15, 2010 Share Posted December 15, 2010 you got the views because i'm here and people like reading my replies,trust me on this one you stubborn fella,lol Link to post Share on other sites
Lemontang Posted December 15, 2010 Share Posted December 15, 2010 By the way, I'm interested as to why this thread is getting so much attention...1400+ views in 1 day? Are a lot of people going through the same thing and relating to this? Or is my story so cold/heartless that people are enjoying watching the train wreck haha lol. I think it's all of the above, we've all been on that train or know someone who has. That and the number of objective view points being given, makes for an enthralling and informative thread. It makes me wonder if my ex will say anything on her upcoming birthday, it's only a few days before Christmas and considering I'd spent almost 5k on her with the last birthday & Christmas she's in for a rude shock. Link to post Share on other sites
Movingthrough Posted December 15, 2010 Share Posted December 15, 2010 Trust me, this is a common thing and has actually made me feel better recently. It seems to be common for people to preach being real etc, then leaving someone for someone else before its even finished. I guess we always have the grass is greener attitude.. Link to post Share on other sites
Eternity001 Posted December 15, 2010 Share Posted December 15, 2010 Dude, just send the email or whatever. Do something, you may get a response, you may not but who cares, either way you'll feel **** but you'll get over it. i don't see you getting over NOT sending something anytime soon. I can see why people say don't do anything and just let it go because she doesn't care but if you're anything like me the idea of doing nothing just eats at you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author suddendumpee Posted December 15, 2010 Author Share Posted December 15, 2010 Oh WOW do I have an update! Need to finish this phone call but wow! (cliffhanger). Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted December 15, 2010 Share Posted December 15, 2010 By the way, I'm interested as to why this thread is getting so much attention...1400+ views in 1 day? Are a lot of people going through the same thing and relating to this? Or is my story so cold/heartless that people are enjoying watching the train wreck haha Because a lot of people have conflicting opinions on what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author suddendumpee Posted December 15, 2010 Author Share Posted December 15, 2010 So she forgot to remove one person from her list that was a mutual friend. That person called me to see what was going on, because today she changed her RELATIONSHIP STATUS to being "in a relationship" with this dude! Yep, the "friend" who is an insecure, co-dependant wuss, who is an ******* to women. Can't wait to see how this pans out. haha. All best are off now! Link to post Share on other sites
HalfStepDown Posted December 15, 2010 Share Posted December 15, 2010 Nope! Do NOT contact her in any way!!! NO words, NO response... is THE best answer and says more than any response could EVER say! You will be stronger by NOT contacting in anyway! Link to post Share on other sites
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