If your ex contacts you on Christmas Day??

[homebrew]

Thanks...This isn't all about me here even a little...I want to know what everyone else's intentions are with the topic. I'm not looking for advice per se for myself

 

Gotcha... But for anyone that is pondering this question.

 

If you have to ask... See my post above!

[andrew23]

It depends on what happened.

My ex will probably text me for christmas, and possibly on new years eve.

I guess I will reply because:

a) its the gentlemanly thing to do.

b) You will sound bitter, desperate, and sulky if you don't

c) it will make her feel that the communication channel could be opened in the future (by not replying, you run the risk she just doesn't dare contact you again as she thinks youre upset)

 

Its important to stay cool, and blase about the thing - as if your wishing any old friend of yours christmas back. Resist the temptation to add any "i miss you's" or pillow names..

 

just my thought - depends on your situation. If she cheated on you then tell her to go shove her christmas turkey down her throat :-)

[poorguy]

It depends on what happened.

My ex will probably text me for christmas, and possibly on new years eve.

I guess I will reply because:

a) its the gentlemanly thing to do.

b) You will sound bitter, desperate, and sulky if you don't

c) it will make her feel that the communication channel could be opened in the future (by not replying, you run the risk she just doesn't dare contact you again as she thinks youre upset)

 

Its important to stay cool, and blase about the thing - as if your wishing any old friend of yours christmas back. Resist the temptation to add any "i miss you's" or pillow names..

 

just my thought - depends on your situation. If she cheated on you then tell her to go shove her christmas turkey down her throat :-)

 

Honestly I was sort of thinking of this myself-after all it is a major holiday no need to be bitter on such a big day

[Distant78]

My ex-wife can't contact me. I moved and changed my number so no worries about being tempted to reply negatively to a text from her. One poster had hit home base: they text you during Christmas to see if you'll respond because it's holiday season and all that other stuff. I hate it when people act so freaking childish.

[alimpo83]

"Merry Christmas to you too! The BEST holidays I've ever had!"

 

What really can be read:

 

"I'm sending this Merry Xmas sms because i feel pity for you b****!You will crack your head because you think you are better, and I'M LONG GONE!"

 

lol. Maybe I'm a bit bitter today.

[Heatemyheart89]

I would probs give in and text back but then I don't expect a text from the tw*t!

[Ajax]

I will text her back but keep it simple like, "Merry Christmas to you too! Is this Amanda?"

 

My ex is not named Amanda

[J0N]

I didn't get one on Thanksgiving so I am assuming the same for Christmas; IF she does send me something I probably will not respond. Not because I am trying to be a jerk but I almost know that it will lead to some sort of convo, I don't want to be rejected again. Once will do it for me. Not sure I could go through all of this again. I am maintaining strict NC, unless she has some sort of serious emergency, like a car crash or somebody breaks into her place.

[AlisaMarie]

Hi guys...

I don't know what I will do.. maybe see if he does or what my mood is. It's almost been 3 weeks nc. He did, however, text and call the other night. I didn't respond...and it's killing me to know what he wanted.

[AlisaMarie]

I will text her back but keep it simple like, "Merry Christmas to you too! Is this Amanda?"

 

My ex is not named Amanda

Haha! That's the greatest! Or I'll say ... Merry Christmas to you too! Thank you for the beautiful flowers and the romantic card! Oh, you didn't send those? Oopsie.

[paleblue]

I will text her back but keep it simple like, "Merry Christmas to you too! Is this Amanda?"

 

My ex is not named Amanda

 

 

Bahahahaaha!!!

[bl22]

Haha! That's the greatest! Or I'll say ... Merry Christmas to you too! Thank you for the beautiful flowers and the romantic card! Oh, you didn't send those? Oopsie.

 

How about replying 'Merry chrismas to you too! whos this btw?'

 

Then when she replies ' its XXXXX'

 

 

....dont reply back

[OndaChin]

If your EX contacts you on Christmas??

 

You're kidding me right?

 

Unless you are "dear friends" with an ex... don't be such gullable fools and feel you need to respond. If you and the EX were so damn tight (buddies), you wouldnt be thinking into whether you'd respond or not.

Obviously, If one had to think about this situation- that would be that the EX must've caused some hurt or pain to you in the past! So, why entertain them with a reply of any kind? Seriously? I don't give a rat's ARSE that its X-mas, Easter, or Ramadan!!

 

Silence says so much more than ANY WORDS you could ever say!! (Specifically... you don't care and that they mean so little... they arent worth any of your valueable time to get a response back)

 

Let me tell you my experience. My Ex pulled this last year- she didnt have the BALLS to call me on X-mas, so- she told a friend to wish me Happy New Year. I never responded to her feable attempt to get "validation". After 2 weeks- she caved in and actually called me. Only then did I take the bait!!

 

Truth BEKNOWN: She had just had a catastrophic break-up with her current lover (my replacement) in late DEC 09 and knew I was a sucker to give her "praise" and be the "cuddle-bitch" she'd depend on to pick her sorry a$$ up from her own misery.

 

Never AGAIN!!

 

If any EX contacts you TIS' the season.... (unless you're really friends) you are likely about to get used as an emotional tampon!! Stay NC...

 

Merry X-mas.. Hoe, Hoe, Hoe!!

Edited December 16, 2010 by OndaChin

[Art_Critic]

Who sends their ex's Merry Christmas Texts ?

[Leandro]

I will text her back but keep it simple like, "Merry Christmas to you too! Is this Amanda?"

 

My ex is not named Amanda

LOVE IT!!!

[Billie The Puppet]

I am actually feeling really indifferent but I still think I would remain NC.

[poorguy]

I'm still torn on what I'm going to do because I know I'm going to get a text...There has been some good ideas on here and some hysterical ones too lol......It's such a HUGE holiday, it's almost like if you don't respond to a simple "Merry Christmas" you'll look weak or something

[Billie The Puppet]

You look weak if you respond

 

You could always do the Um Merry Christmas to you too um who is this? reply.

 

I'm sticking to NC, I am really at a point though that I don't even want my ex back it's more my Brain than my heart but for once its beginning to over power it.

[Leandro]

It's such a HUGE holiday, it's almost like if you don't respond to a simple "Merry Christmas" you'll look weak or something

It is a big holiday, but my ex didn't say a word to me on Thanksgiving. So to me that means she isn't thankful for me being in her life, being in a relationship with her, spending the great times we had, treating her and loving her the best that I could.

 

And I really really really doubt she will say a word to me.

[Griffey]

I gotta say not all this advice that says ignore ignore ignore is sound to me.

 

First of all what if you still want to reconcile with your ex one day and she's maybe trying to open the door to reopen communication?

 

It will have been almost 3 months of NC from my ex on xmas and to be honest if she texted me I would strongly consider responding. Why? Because I'm doing a lot better these days and feeling good. I'm not 100% there yet, but I'm doing great.

 

I wouldn't have any definite expectations, I would just respond nicely and see if she continues the convo or if she emails me the next week or something. If not, no sweat, it was just a cordial text message. If it does open the door to future contact, then it's possible that she may want to reconnect.

 

If you guys have no interest in getting back together with your ex, then by all means don't respond. Or if you think it will set you back big time, don't respond.

 

If you've been NC for a few months and you feel fine, no problem responding. That's m view.

[Jake99]

I wouldn't have any definite expectations, I would just respond nicely and see if she continues the convo or if she emails me the next week or something. If not, no sweat, it was just a cordial text message. If it does open the door to future contact, then it's possible that she may want to reconnect.

 

If you guys have no interest in getting back together with your ex, then by all means don't respond. Or if you think it will set you back big time, don't respond.

 

If you've been NC for a few months and you feel fine, no problem responding. That's m view.

 

Griffey you are well on your way and doing great! 3 months of NC is awesome. Unfortunately, many here are still in early stages and whether the future hope is to have the ex returm or move on alone really doesn't matter. It's a matter of respect for yourself and stop worrying about what the ex thinks!

I was dumped at the begininng of November after many promises of a huge family Christmas and how exciting it was going to be. We text here and there throughout the initial part and I started NC! One week into it, I was contacted by my ex asking a stupid question that was irrelevant to anything. I responded and regretted it. 2 weeks of NC and I was so proud and found that I was feeling good about myself and life, working out at the gym, hanging out with friends, doing what I want to do for ME!!

Well, yesterday the ex emailed me wishing me a Merry Christmas and I got through the first sentence and deleted it. I have my power back for me and she can't touch that! She will wait and constantly check to see if I responded and no doubt be mad! Oh well, if she had respected me in the first place I wouldn't be writing this here! lol!!

Respect yourself people because your ex didn't and won't. If you respond, you give him/her something they don't deserve...your personal respect!

Merry Christmas to all of you. I hope that you get the best gift of all this year...YOU!!!

[poorguy]

Anybody agree with a simple "Merry Christmas everyone" message when they do text you (I know mine will which is why I started this thread)

[9Lives]

Anybody agree with a simple "Merry Christmas everyone" message when they do text you (I know mine will which is why I started this thread)

 

if you MUST respond...just send this ":)"

 

That lets her know you got the text. It doesnt put any feelings in it. It doesnt say you are being mean. It is simply a smiling face. Nothing to be ashamed of. If she texts you..wait about 8 minutes and then send the smile face.

 

See you cant give a ex lover too much or you will be the one looking like a fool. You dont want to set yourself back either. Just be cool and dont give no emotions that she can use against you.

[Wings Of Love]

I hope he doesn't contact me, because for the first time EVER, I'm happy he's not part of my life.

 

If, however, he does decide to be irritating and contact me, I'll ignore him. It won't even be hard anymore, because every time he's tried contacting me since he broke my heart for a second time back in August, I've just reminded myself of all the pain he put me through and any temptation to reply vanishes.

 

I don't believe for a second he'll contact me though. No, I'm more worried that his friend will, because this guy has a thing for me and just WILL NOT give up.

[Leandro]

I don't believe for a second he'll contact me though. No, I'm more worried that his friend will, because this guy has a thing for me and just WILL NOT give up.

Sounds like someone has a stalker!!