Ajax Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 she did. and she txts me over and over how she doesnt want to be with me. then she goes quiet for a week or too then starts uo again for a couple days then stops and repeats. i dont answer them. she never calls. just txts how horrible i am Serously, you have some nerve not talking to someone who doesn't want to be with you. You must be really selfish to not accept 2nd place. Link to post Share on other sites
durkadurka Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 Serously, you have some nerve not talking to someone who doesn't want to be with you. You must be really selfish to not accept 2nd place. Yeah seriously. What nerve. Link to post Share on other sites
Juzzy Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 so after breaking up after 5 years together and NC since then (3 weeks) she messages me today. A simple generic Merry xmas to you and your family, Love x. I did not reply although i was dying too, i just have achieved so much in 3 weeks NC that as soon as i saw the messgae it set me back, but i came on LS and restored my confidence that i am a better person for not replying and that this time has helped me grow as a person. i do love her so so much and think of her all the time but i need to stay strong and show her she isnt my only source of happiness.thanx to all of You!!! Link to post Share on other sites
SDA Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 Yeah seriously. What nerve. Wow I wish I saw this before today. I responded. Awkward conversation. So true. If she ever wants me back she's gonna have to beg, even though I would be so excited, I'd have her beg. Link to post Share on other sites
cboy90 Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 Well I caved in and sent her a text. I made sure it had her name in it, just so she would know that it wasn't a mass text. I told her to say hi to her parents for me (i know they miss me, they always tell me how much fun they have when we go to visit and it's nice spending time with me). Sent the text at 1pm. Sitting here on my computer at 1:40am on the 26th and still no reply. Even though she was the one to break up with me (after 3.5 years, and bail on our plans of moving in together in February, which she was so excited for and always told me how excited she was) I felt as though I should text her. I'm not a heartless person. Even if you broke up with me and treated me like ****, I'm always going to be the bigger person and act more mature. Just goes to show how heartless some people can be. Was it worth it? I was on day 55 of NC. Oh well, I felt as though I accomplished something. Even though I didn't get a reply. Link to post Share on other sites
nocoast Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 I was wondering Christmas eve if she was going to text me the next day. I was at work Christmas and she sent a text at 0830 saying " Merry Christmas! I hope you arent working and get to spend the day with your awesome family. I love you and I wish you the best today and always." We broke up 1 month ago and at first I was going crazy with texting her, calling, emailing, then I started NC 2 weeks ago. This is the first text I've gotten from her that I didn't reply to. I feel great! It finally feels good to have the smaller sliver of power after having none for so long. I know she is thinking about me, missing me and since I didn't respond, she is now wondering why! Link to post Share on other sites
LifeIsGreat Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 It's been said a million times that NC is for us. But, I have to say there is also a very nice side effect. Your ex is going to be like "WTF". In the past I have ALWAYS been the one to fix our relationship issues, apologize, or try to get back together. This time, she hasn't heard a peep in over 5 months. I do it for me, but I also know it must be driving her crazy. It's not that we're trying to be cruel, or want to see ex's suffer. But, what goes around should come around- know what I mean? Link to post Share on other sites
9Lives Posted December 26, 2010 Share Posted December 26, 2010 Well I caved in and sent her a text. I made sure it had her name in it, just so she would know that it wasn't a mass text. I told her to say hi to her parents for me (i know they miss me, they always tell me how much fun they have when we go to visit and it's nice spending time with me). Sent the text at 1pm. Sitting here on my computer at 1:40am on the 26th and still no reply. Even though she was the one to break up with me (after 3.5 years, and bail on our plans of moving in together in February, which she was so excited for and always told me how excited she was) I felt as though I should text her. I'm not a heartless person. Even if you broke up with me and treated me like ****, I'm always going to be the bigger person and act more mature. Just goes to show how heartless some people can be. Was it worth it? I was on day 55 of NC. Oh well, I felt as though I accomplished something. Even though I didn't get a reply. This "being the bigger person" attitude does not sound healthy to me. It sounds like a set up to be a doormat to people. You shouldnt have text her. I would feel awful if I text my ex and he didnt respond. It was better to wonder for me. I miss him but thats as far as Im going with it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author poorguy Posted December 27, 2010 Author Share Posted December 27, 2010 Well my ex sort of contacted me. She sent me a text from her friends phoning claiming to be some guy she used to date. How Fing stupid and childish is that?? I did respond and said "Merry Christmas and Happy New Year whoever this lol is, and I hope you find whatever it is your looking for in the New Year"----Well put and simple I thought!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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