Myst Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 I actually posted this on another forum not thinking...But what is everyone going to do if they are in NC and the ex texts a "Merry Christmas"....We all no NC is NC bit Christmas is the mother of all holidays. So what do you do and what are you going to do??? Oh this happened to me 2 nights ago. My ex boyfriend who I broke up with on September this year, sent me a text saying 'Hi stranger. I hope you are happy now and wish you a very merry Christmas'. I didnt respond. He never made an effort in our relationship and I put in 150%. Tho I did feel like responding and saying 'F*** you stop messaging me!', but I didnt want to waste any more money on him by using up my phone credit:bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Wings Of Love Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 Sounds like someone has a stalker!! I wouldn't go quite that far, but he's certainly getting there. I'm not too worried though, if he goes too far my dad and my brother-in-law will step in. Then again, I think they'd step in if my ex contacted me too. After all, they were there when I was depressed and they have no respect for him anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
worlybear Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 If my ex sent a text or email- I would reply by writing on LS.That way I would stay in control of my feelings at this difficult time of year. But tbh I don't think he'll bother! Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 For Christmas I'll be at my parents, and my whole family will be there. The most important people will be with me. I'm going to turn my phone off that day. Link to post Share on other sites
strangeways Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 She doesn't contact. I won't contact. No worries. She does contact. I won't contact. No worries. Basically, I'm going to have a blast with family and watch my kids become delirious with excitement. No worries. I love Christmas with or without her. Hope everyone has a good one! Link to post Share on other sites
SimonSerenade Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 I love my ex so if she contacts me I wouldn't know what to do, I probably won't reply cause a simple "merry christmas" or "happy new year" won't make a spot of difference with me, She won't even get a "thankyou" for the presents she's got me unless of course she's got me the new Nintendo 3DS and since that ain't out I won't even hold my breath Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 I'm waffling now as to whether or not to reply. I will not initiate but if he does, I may return the text. I'm not in love with him any more. I'm not holding out hope. I went through the anger, denial, and acceptance stages. I'm only cautious about replying because sometimes, even a small amount of contact reawakens stuff and takes you by surprise. Conflicted. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 If your ex contacts you on Christmas Day?? Why even expel any energy at all on this question ? Time to move on.. your ex has Link to post Share on other sites
strangeways Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 Why even expel any energy at all on this question ? Time to move on.. your ex has Agree. Out with the old, in with the new. Link to post Share on other sites
HopeisallIhave Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 Let me remind you about Dec 26, Jan 4 Feb 19...whatever!! (e)x-mas will pass!!!!!!!!! NC means NC!! Unless she (or he) shows up at your door wearing nothing but a Santa cap...NNNNNCCCCCC!!! It will back fire. They want assurance like we want assurance...Make them want you so bad texting is the least they will do Link to post Share on other sites
strangeways Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 Why even expel any energy at all on this question ? Time to move on.. your ex has Agree. Out with the old, in with the new. Link to post Share on other sites
radiodarcy Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 i have no plans to contact him during the holidays. however, if he were to contact me i would probably reply with a brief "thanks. you too" and leave it at that. that's only b/c he gave me the courtesy of answering my questions as to why he broke things off with me - - which helped give me some degree of closure. tbh i'm not expecting to hear from him though. Link to post Share on other sites
PatrickS Posted December 23, 2010 Share Posted December 23, 2010 If she contacted me i'd ignore her. Link to post Share on other sites
make me feel better Posted December 24, 2010 Share Posted December 24, 2010 i'd talk to her . i still miss her still after 4 months. i dont think she'll contact me though. Link to post Share on other sites
vandelay Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 I hope she doesn't contact me, cuz I don't want to deal with that shiat. But if she doesn't contact me, I will be pissed. Go figure. Link to post Share on other sites
durkadurka Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 Well, my ex contacted me Tuesday. "I can't believe it's almost Christmas. I've been thinking about you and your family. Hugs and kisses." Link to post Share on other sites
vandelay Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 Well, my ex contacted me Tuesday. "I can't believe it's almost Christmas. I've been thinking about you and your family. Hugs and kisses." That ain't right. Link to post Share on other sites
vandelay Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 Oh, and just to make things interesting, my stupid ex-wife (NOT the girl I'm missing) just texted me a merry xmas. I hate that ****ing bitch so much, and she knows it. Screw this holiday spirit, dammit! Link to post Share on other sites
durkadurka Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 That ain't right. You aren't the only person to say that. Link to post Share on other sites
redy2 Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 mine did tuesday,wed, thursaday, prob 100 texts in all one picture and she sent a present. when i ignored her she called me an ignorant a -hole. and said goodbye to me i have lost count the number of times she has said goodbye to me. she chose to leave so go be happy in her new life she wanted and leave me alone. Link to post Share on other sites
LifeIsGreat Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 No point in replying after 5 months of NC. And listen folks, I no it sucks and it hurts. BUT---we can't take being dumped so personally. Here's the deal-- maybe we didn't treat our ex's as well as we could have but can't see that right now. Maybe we DID treat our ex's well but we just weren't the "one" they wanted to be with. Maybe we did everything right, and we WERE the "one" they wanted to be with but they are screwed up and not capable of having a good relationship. There is ALWAYS a reason for being dumped, and sometimes the reason is us and sometimes it's them. I'm starting to look at break ups as natures way of aborting something that shouldn't be. Link to post Share on other sites
Good Arms Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 I'm starting to look at break ups as natures way of aborting something that shouldn't be. Wow, that's a really great way of looking at things. Link to post Share on other sites
redy2 Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 here goodbye forever lasted till this morning. and she starts texting again. i think my christmas present to myself is going to be a new phone number Link to post Share on other sites
PatrickS Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 here goodbye forever lasted till this morning. and she starts texting again. i think my christmas present to myself is going to be a new phone number Who finished the relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
redy2 Posted December 25, 2010 Share Posted December 25, 2010 she did. and she txts me over and over how she doesnt want to be with me. then she goes quiet for a week or too then starts uo again for a couple days then stops and repeats. i dont answer them. she never calls. just txts how horrible i am Link to post Share on other sites
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