Closure at a party

[Sonolumino]

I went to party last Saturday and some friends I hadn't seen in a while attended. I expected my ex to come, as all of her friends were there. She didn't show, and I was very happy about that. Anyway, after a few hours I happened to walk by a few of my ex's friends complaining about her. Verbatim, as I join the conversation:

 

"Yeah [my ex] never hangs out with us anymore. All she does is hang out with her really old boyfriend who's not even that good-looking. He acts like he's 12 years old too. She even says she's 'in love'. It was the first guy who gave her a second look and after 2 months she's 'in love', give me a break. I'd much rather she still be dating you [me], she really doesn't know what she's doing. I told [my ex] that we were your friend too since we've known each other a long time, and we weren't going to turn our backs on you just because things didn't work out between you and her"

 

Me: "Thanks guys, it's nice to hear that. It just sucks that we aren't friends after dating for so long, but I've made my peace with the whole thing, I wouldn't change anything that happened."

 

Them: "Yeah that sucks, you guys did date for a long time, but what can you do? (General reiteration of what they said before)

 

I just stayed silent after that, didn't talk bad about my ex or chime in with what they were saying at all, just let it go. I had thought they all hated me because they were her friends, so I avoided them. I told them it was nice to hear that from them, and that I've made my peace with the whole ordeal.

 

For some reason all of this made me feel a lot better. I thought I was alone in thinking the way she handled it was stupid, and how she acted afterwards was even more stupid, so I kept my mouth shut and vented it on here. I know it doesn't mean anything, but to have that "social proof" that she was wrong did help me out. Definitely grateful for it.