Wife and children in danger

[goodfather1014]

My wife cheated on me and still lives with me. Shehas gone through a lot in the past and is now just realizing about it. We have been married for more than 7 years. She is also seeing another man even though we are married. She is getting help and is now on zoloft. he came back one day very upset and had told me a lot about the individul she is with. I have two small girls and I do feel that they are in danger wth this individual around them. Thispast Thanksgiving she was up there and hewas cutting with a knife and she stated that since he was made at her all he could think about was stabbing her with the knife. He has been arrested before for putting his hands on someone and drug possision. My question is what should i do?

[Distant78]

My wife cheated on me and still lives with me. Shehas gone through a lot in the past and is now just realizing about it. We have been married for more than 7 years. She is also seeing another man even though we are married. She is getting help and is now on zoloft. he came back one day very upset and had told me a lot about the individul she is with. I have two small girls and I do feel that they are in danger wth this individual around them. Thispast Thanksgiving she was up there and hewas cutting with a knife and she stated that since he was made at her all he could think about was stabbing her with the knife. He has been arrested before for putting his hands on someone and drug possision. My question is what should i do?

 

Get a gun or some other weapon and make sure he doesn't harm your children. Your wife is another issue. She got herself into that mess, let her get out of it on her own. She wanted the dyck so bad to fuucckk up your marriage and that is what happens. This is why affairs are dangerous to begin with. You never know how crazy one of the people involved might become. Just make sure that your wife doesn't bring those kids around that guy she's messing with.

[Bryanp]

Immediately contact a lawyer. Immediately contact child protective services. You must protect your children. You should file with your lawyer for full custody of your children. You should seek a possible divorce. Why is she living with you and seeing another man and you allowing this?

[PegNosePete]

Get a gun or some other weapon and make sure he doesn't harm your children.

WTF dude? I really don't think escalation of violence is good for the children. So he has a knife, you get a gun... he gets a gun, you should get a bigger gun? Soon everyone is dead and the children have no parents.

 

Do what Bryanp suggests and protect your children with the pen, not the sword.

[Dexter Morgan]

My wife cheated on me and still lives with me. Shehas gone through a lot in the past and is now just realizing about it. We have been married for more than 7 years. She is also seeing another man even though we are married. She is getting help and is now on zoloft. he came back one day very upset and had told me a lot about the individul she is with. I have two small girls and I do feel that they are in danger wth this individual around them. Thispast Thanksgiving she was up there and hewas cutting with a knife and she stated that since he was made at her all he could think about was stabbing her with the knife. He has been arrested before for putting his hands on someone and drug possision. My question is what should i do?

 

you should go talk to an attorney, document everything she said, and see about divorcing this "woman" and getting custody away from her.

 

your children are in danger not only because of this man, but because SHE chose to spread her legs for such a man.

 

do all of this without her knowing it. if you decide to leave her, get all your ducks in a row before having her served and don't let on that you are doing it.

[reservoirdog1]

Immediately contact a lawyer. Immediately contact child protective services. You must protect your children. You should file with your lawyer for full custody of your children. You should seek a possible divorce. Why is she living with you and seeing another man and you allowing this?

I'm not sure I'd contact child protective services, since you simply want the children who already live with you (and her) to not be around him. You probably don't want CPS stepping in and taking your children, if they have that kind of power where you live. Do see a lawyer though, and get an interim sole custody order. And in the meantime, tell her that you will not allow your children in his presence. Period.

[Distant78]

WTF dude? I really don't think escalation of violence is good for the children. So he has a knife, you get a gun... he gets a gun, you should get a bigger gun? Soon everyone is dead and the children have no parents.

 

Do what Bryanp suggests and protect your children with the pen, not the sword.

 

I didn't say escalation of violence if you weren't too busy speed-reading.:rolleyes:Just because there's a gun involved doesn't always mean violence. And WTF said anything about a freaking knife?

 

OP, get a gun legally and just put it in your house in case something happens.

[Owl]

Actually, since the kids live with the OP and are only 'in danger' when they're with their mom at OM's house, I think that CPS wouldn't take action against OP, but would insist that the children no longer be allowed to accompany mom to OM's house. OP needs to make it very, very clear what the issue is, and when/where it occurs when he talks with them.

 

My other suggestion would be to inform your wife that she's got the choice of seeing OM, or living in your house with you and having the girls. Make it clear that you're NOT going to accept her bringing them around this OM, given his record of violence and admission of violent thoughts against your wife.

 

Find out how seperation/divorce laws work in your state...it might be possible to have her legally removed, depending on several factors. Especially if you file for a legal seperation...some states have laws that will actually cause the spouse who didn't file to be forced to move out and find another place to live.

 

Do not go out and purchase a firearm. If something WERE to happen it would appear premeditated, and then who would be around to protect your children?

 

Start with the legal action, see what has to happen from there.

[creighton0123]

I don't think this question is appropriate for this forum. If he has access to you, your wife, and your children and has threatened or expressed desire to cause any of you physical harm, immediately get a lawyer and call the authorities.

 

Inform your wife that you consider this person to be a threat to your safety and the safety of your children. If the police are going to get involved, make sure that you and your girls are somewhere safe.

 

If you consider it a very present threat, determine if you can file for temporary custody until the situation is resolved.

[Distant78]

Don't forget to make sure you store a gun in your home for protection.

[wicar1]

I think you have enough reasons to Divorce her a** and get custody of your kids. Get a good lawyer. kids living around a violent drug user is really dangerous, you already know that.

[PegNosePete]

I didn't say escalation of violence if you weren't too busy speed-reading.:rolleyes:Just because there's a gun involved doesn't always mean violence. And WTF said anything about a freaking knife?

 

OP, get a gun legally and just put it in your house in case something happens.

The knife was mentioned in the OP, seems you're the one who's been speed-reading. Suggestion a gun to counter a knife is escalation.

 

How is having a gun in the OP's house going to prevent anything from happening? The guy draws a knife on the children, OP says to him "hold on mate, just got to pop home to pick up my gun"??? Yeah that'll work. Nice suggestion dude. Please drop the obsession with guns, it is not appropriate in this situation AT ALL.

 

You also have no idea what country or state the OP is in. What you're suggestion may very well be illegal.

Edited December 15, 2010 by PegNosePete