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[jude007]

What does this email mean - I met a girl 4 months ago we talk every day she is in another country but we have seen each other 10 times since - 10 weekends.

 

We like each other but I think she likes the fact this is free and easy where as I may look to move to be with her .... Next year if we are still happening

 

Email

 

Babe I don't want you to feel any pressure from me. You know where I

stand, and I know sometimes you hate the free spirit inside me. But you

have to know that I would not be here, and have never even met you, if

that spirit wasn't there.

 

I think both of us have had a tough year, leaving long-term partners

etc. and that we now have the space to get back into being ourselves.

This is important to me and probably why I keep suggesting to you that

you spread your wings a little. That said, There is something there.... But only

time will tell, we've both got our own lives to sort out for a while.

You know I like you, but I am nervous about just jumping into something

so soon.

 

I know you know all of this - you've been an absolute gentleman and

although a little frustrated at me at times, I hope you know that I am

just being honest and that this is the best for both of us.

 

Maybe, maybe not I guess.

[folieadeux]

She already gave you all of your answers in that email you posted.

[jude007]

Can you elaborate??

[folieadeux]

She wants to take things slow and take a more casual approach to the relationship. I think she was very honest and clear in what she wrote (which is a good thing). Perhaps you're ready for a more serious relationship than she is right now. Her want and attraction to be with you doesn't seem to be in question. There's obviously something there. However, she's scared about committing for one reason or another...it could be the distance, or maybe she just doesn't have time for a serious relationship right now. You guys don't seem to have a problem communicating, so I would suggest talking to her if you need any further clarification...but I really think she gave you all the answers you need like I said in my previous post. Don't put any pressure on things and just see where it takes you. Sometimes the best things in life work out that way.