I've done something beyond stupid and I'm in a really bad place right now

[thissecretgirl]

Don't forget what you sowed will also be reaped by you. All the hoping bad things on them....I would be very careful. The thought process should be you don't know what you are dealing with "when" you get involved with a married person...not waiting until you have to deal with the BS. MY thought is if you are a big enough person to do the deed, you should be big enough person to deal with the crap that comes with it.

 

LOL I was waiting for someone to point that out and I assumed it would come from a BS. Just came quicker than I expected.

 

But do you know what, I reckon I've more than reaped what I've sowed bentnotbroken and some more. Their turn now I reckon and yes I do wish it for them after this.

 

I can also hold my head up very high and know that apart from my mistake of getting involved with a married man I have dealt with the manner in what I consider to be a decent way. I have tried to act with humility and to tell the truth. i tried to deliver it in a way that I hoped would lessen any pain or impact. I have no regrets in how I have dealt with it, my only regret is telling her in the first place.

 

As for the crap that comes with it, well I guess that depends on whether the fallout is in proportion to the action. The judge didnt think so as I already pointed out. Or as he rightly said courts would be full on a daily basis of people who have had affairs. I am and always have been quite prepared to accept responsibility for my part, but I am certainly not prepared to be f**ked over by two idiots needing a scapegoat.

 

As a measured person thats how I would see it anyway.

 

Anyway I have to get on with christmas day now. Merry christmas to you

[bentnotbroken]

LOL I was waiting for someone to point that out and I assumed it would come from a BS. Just came quicker than I expected.

 

But do you know what, I reckon I've more than reaped what I've sowed bentnotbroken and some more. Their turn now I reckon and yes I do wish it for them after this.

 

I can also hold my head up very high and know that apart from my mistake of getting involved with a married man I have dealt with the manner in what I consider to be a decent way. I have tried to act with humility and to tell the truth. i tried to deliver it in a way that I hoped would lessen any pain or impact. I have no regrets in how I have dealt with it, my only regret is telling her in the first place.

 

As for the crap that comes with it, well I guess that depends on whether the fallout is in proportion to the action. The judge didnt think so as I already pointed out. Or as he rightly said courts would be full on a daily basis of people who have had affairs. I am and always have been quite prepared to accept responsibility for my part, but I am certainly not prepared to be f**ked over by two idiots needing a scapegoat.

 

As a measured person thats how I would see it anyway.

 

Anyway I have to get on with christmas day now. Merry christmas to you

 

 

If we get to decide how much is enough I am sure we all would get a lot less than we think we deserve and the other guy would get a lot more. *shrug* That is fairly normal. And Merry Christmas to you.

[dreamingoftigers]

The shoulds, the shouldn't, the regrets, the court.... whatever.

 

Just get healthy and don't put yourself or anyone else through anything like this again!

 

Take steps to see where things went wonky in your thinking, there must have been somewhere. Every really stupidly bizarre situation in my life that I have been in the center of has been due to my wrong assumption/train of thought or someone else's that I trusted.